Mama with no daddy, or daddy with no mama? This was one of the senseless conundrums that swished across my cerebellum recently.
LeBron’s graceful comments toward his mom during Game 4 of the Boston-Cleveland series was the impetus of such navel-gazing. Lebron did apologize afterwards, saying that he was concerned about his mother’s safety and feared that she might be banned from the rest of his games. That, he said, was something that he cannot afford.
The first notion that springs forth to mind after digesting this: LeBron is clearly a product of single-parent upbringing. That much is palpable. No man would utter those words to his mother if his father was next to her. This is no shot at LeBron or his mother, because they were only playing the card that they were dealt.
Along with many other African-Americans, LBJ experienced life without a dominant male figure in his household. I will not claim to know his autobiography, but I am sure that as he got older, LeBron asserted himself as the dominant figure of the household.
Which lead me to thinking: what are the biggest telltale signs of children who grew up in a single parent household? And behold, a list formulated…
This isn’t to say that all children from single parent homes exhibit these traits; some transcend them. So back to my initial question to this piece: mama with no daddy, or daddy with no mama? It’s a silly question to consider. It takes two people to make a baby, so it should be two to raise the baby. What was originally built to be a package deal – like two Twix bars in a pack – is broken down into a crapshoot; you don’t know what you’re going to get.
But somehow, someway, odds succumb to the tenacity and tender love of a mother who is at it alone and sometimes, the child comes out unscathed.
Problem is mothers shouldn’t have to fight those odds so often.