I am a dark skinned woman who happens to be very attractive and I can honestly say that I never ran into problems growing up or dating because of my complexion. A man can smell an insecure woman from a mile away ad if you give off the vibe that you a uncomfortable in your own skin nobody will approach you! If you go to a job inteveiw acting all insecure, 9 times out of 10, you wont be hired.
The root of skin tone politics stem from the days of slavery when the light skinned slaves stayed in side while the dark skinned slaves worked in the sun. In some parts of Africa, where the Europeans decided to return the power back to the native people, they turned the power over to those that possessed more of a likeness to them. This means they were slim with longer limbs and necks and they were also lighter in complexion with smaller lips and thinner noses! This gave blacks the feeling that not only are we inferior to or white counterparts, but if you are dark skinned, to are inferior to your light skinned black counterparts as well! This notion was not only adopted by BLACKS in America but it was also adopted by many countries in Africa as well as Jamaica, and a few other Caribbean island. Unfortunately enough , we are fooled into believing that blacks are the only ones that suffer from these Color Line insecurities! Our EAST INDIAN people do as well! What we share in common with them is: they have also been infiltrated by European colonization and enslavement! Therefore, sharing the same beliefs of inferiorty to whites, dark skinned Indian men and women also bleach their skins to look more European. To this day, darker Indian women have a much harder time finding husbands than their light skinned counterparts. East Indians come in may different shades just like Africans and the Europeans has done a great job at teaching us how to be ashamed of this when we should be embracing it!
Anyways, I have always been a confident chocolate sister. I never had trouble getting any job that I was qualified for, I am a college graduate with a bachelors degree. I have also dabbled in modeling, and acting and have been hired for these jobs by mostly whites. I walk down the streets of NYC and I get attention from men of all races and complexions so my skin ain’t stoppin’ me! Why let it stop you?
I wish and hope that one day, Tyra will discuss how this issue is not only a problem amongst African Americans but also in the Hispanic, Asian and East Indian commmunities. As ignorant as the entire notion is, it’s deeply embedded in so many people that it will forever remain an issue, unfortunately.
Its so sad that women of colour still view their own skin so negatively. What is even sadder is that some women directly pass that negativity down to their own children by actively bleaching their skin and telling them the lies they have heard all their lives about lighter skin being better. WHAT IS HAPPENING?!!? Why anyone would encourage this in their own children instead of instilling confidence and self love is beyond me.
Oh yeah! There is a product widely used in countries like Philippines, Japan etc….. that comes either in the injectable form or pill form. Look it up on google just type in “injectable skin whitening with Glutathione” I could not believe it! There are all kinds of commercial videos with these asian women smiling and glowing as though they just found the fountain of eternal life! Ha Ha! Those dead white guys got us all in frenzy to look like them! I dont think they phased our ancestors as much as they are phasing some of us today. Such a shame!
[...] decided to start this discussion piece after the response we had about our post about a recent episode of the Tyra Banks show. The episode dealt with several different women who hated their god-given skin tone and were doing [...]
Keena, it’s a pleasure to read you. I come from the Carribbean too, and i can write the same thing than you. I’m a dark skin woman and i have NO problem with men too. I have the same success than my lighters friends and we all don’t give a danm about skin colour. We are who we are. And we’re all beautiful in our own way. I understand the pain of this woman ’cause i know that it’s a society fact. So I don’t judge them, but i feel very sad to see woman suffer and hate themselves like this. You’re right, we all have te try to be more confident. It’s the key.
I am light-skinned and I think that I have been given the same opportunities as any other colored african american. But what is so funny is that although they would like to be light-skinned, still doesnt not change the fact that they are african american, and will still go through tough times. They think that men are color struck, that is not the case. But in the case that they are, when you decide to have children with them and they see that the baby turned out darker than usual because you were dark skinned, will only make them leave you faster because you were not upfront and honest with them. I wish that I could be darker just because of the side-effects of being lighter, such as sun burned. When I would have to go out in the street I would have to put on sunblock because my skin is so sensitive to sun light. I didnt want to change colors to make me beautiful but because of the side effects of sun burn.
Everyone always has so much to say but never realize or ask the real truth. If I wanna bleach my skin or enhance my beauty and tell the world it does not mean I dont love myself or Im crying for help. We all like to enhance our beauty it is why we as women go to beauty supplies and salons for all u weave and perm wearing people in the world including me. Check ur own closets b4 u start judging others cause what ur hiding is what ur insecure about at least I have the nerve to say it in public and be proud.
This just doesn’t happen in America with Black folks. It happens every where. Brown people from India have an issue with dark skinned girls. Every guys mother back there is looking for a white or very fair skinned girl for them. Many girls end up single for most of their lives and are shunned from public because of this issue. Unless that girl has low moral values and is ready to sleep with the guy and get pregnant, there’s not a whole lot that girl can do to get married. Guys will be ready to be “friends” with dark skinned girls but not many of them want to marry them.
Ok I think this is ridiculous. True, these women ont he show have problems.
Not everyone who likes lighter skin has “self hate issues” Just like white people tan and black girls have blonde weaves with green eye contacts..nobody says anything to them!!! Some people LIKE LIGHTER SKIN..IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SOCIETY!! IF U CHECK THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO BEFORE THE AGE OF THE “MEDIA”light skin was seen as a sign of beauty.
Also, not all skin lightening creams contain mercury or hydroquinine..I know of a line that doesnt use harmful chemicals and it does get u lighter.
Anotehr point i want to make is There are many non whites who have skin discoloration(which are areas of the body that are eseveral shades darker then the original skin color), so they lighten them using creams. SO WHAT?
True society does hold light skin people higher up and true these women do have issues…but to say that every person who likes lighter skin and wants to achieve that is a “self hater” is ridiculous!
this is something manifested soo deep within human beings.
THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO THINK LIGHT SKIN IS MORE BEAUTIFUL!! SO WHAT? SUE THEM!
but tyra is light brown she is not a redbone y do she keep putting herself in the lite category she did that last time.some of the girls on the stage on the left is the same complexion as her
I am a dark skinned woman who happens to be very attractive and I can honestly say that I never ran into problems growing up or dating because of my complexion. A man can smell an insecure woman from a mile away ad if you give off the vibe that you a uncomfortable in your own skin nobody will approach you! If you go to a job inteveiw acting all insecure, 9 times out of 10, you wont be hired.
The root of skin tone politics stem from the days of slavery when the light skinned slaves stayed in side while the dark skinned slaves worked in the sun. In some parts of Africa, where the Europeans decided to return the power back to the native people, they turned the power over to those that possessed more of a likeness to them. This means they were slim with longer limbs and necks and they were also lighter in complexion with smaller lips and thinner noses! This gave blacks the feeling that not only are we inferior to or white counterparts, but if you are dark skinned, to are inferior to your light skinned black counterparts as well! This notion was not only adopted by BLACKS in America but it was also adopted by many countries in Africa as well as Jamaica, and a few other Caribbean island. Unfortunately enough , we are fooled into believing that blacks are the only ones that suffer from these Color Line insecurities! Our EAST INDIAN people do as well! What we share in common with them is: they have also been infiltrated by European colonization and enslavement! Therefore, sharing the same beliefs of inferiorty to whites, dark skinned Indian men and women also bleach their skins to look more European. To this day, darker Indian women have a much harder time finding husbands than their light skinned counterparts. East Indians come in may different shades just like Africans and the Europeans has done a great job at teaching us how to be ashamed of this when we should be embracing it!
Anyways, I have always been a confident chocolate sister. I never had trouble getting any job that I was qualified for, I am a college graduate with a bachelors degree. I have also dabbled in modeling, and acting and have been hired for these jobs by mostly whites. I walk down the streets of NYC and I get attention from men of all races and complexions so my skin ain’t stoppin’ me! Why let it stop you?
BE STRONG AND BE CONFIDENT!
Oh yeah ……………. I forgot to mention, I am a proud African- Carribean woman!
Caribbean that is!
I wish and hope that one day, Tyra will discuss how this issue is not only a problem amongst African Americans but also in the Hispanic, Asian and East Indian commmunities. As ignorant as the entire notion is, it’s deeply embedded in so many people that it will forever remain an issue, unfortunately.
Its so sad that women of colour still view their own skin so negatively. What is even sadder is that some women directly pass that negativity down to their own children by actively bleaching their skin and telling them the lies they have heard all their lives about lighter skin being better. WHAT IS HAPPENING?!!? Why anyone would encourage this in their own children instead of instilling confidence and self love is beyond me.
Oh yeah! There is a product widely used in countries like Philippines, Japan etc….. that comes either in the injectable form or pill form. Look it up on google just type in “injectable skin whitening with Glutathione” I could not believe it! There are all kinds of commercial videos with these asian women smiling and glowing as though they just found the fountain of eternal life! Ha Ha! Those dead white guys got us all in frenzy to look like them! I dont think they phased our ancestors as much as they are phasing some of us today. Such a shame!
Horrified to see this happens in the US.
[...] decided to start this discussion piece after the response we had about our post about a recent episode of the Tyra Banks show. The episode dealt with several different women who hated their god-given skin tone and were doing [...]
Keena, it’s a pleasure to read you. I come from the Carribbean too, and i can write the same thing than you. I’m a dark skin woman and i have NO problem with men too. I have the same success than my lighters friends and we all don’t give a danm about skin colour. We are who we are. And we’re all beautiful in our own way. I understand the pain of this woman ’cause i know that it’s a society fact. So I don’t judge them, but i feel very sad to see woman suffer and hate themselves like this. You’re right, we all have te try to be more confident. It’s the key.
I am light-skinned and I think that I have been given the same opportunities as any other colored african american. But what is so funny is that although they would like to be light-skinned, still doesnt not change the fact that they are african american, and will still go through tough times. They think that men are color struck, that is not the case. But in the case that they are, when you decide to have children with them and they see that the baby turned out darker than usual because you were dark skinned, will only make them leave you faster because you were not upfront and honest with them. I wish that I could be darker just because of the side-effects of being lighter, such as sun burned. When I would have to go out in the street I would have to put on sunblock because my skin is so sensitive to sun light. I didnt want to change colors to make me beautiful but because of the side effects of sun burn.
Everyone always has so much to say but never realize or ask the real truth. If I wanna bleach my skin or enhance my beauty and tell the world it does not mean I dont love myself or Im crying for help. We all like to enhance our beauty it is why we as women go to beauty supplies and salons for all u weave and perm wearing people in the world including me. Check ur own closets b4 u start judging others cause what ur hiding is what ur insecure about at least I have the nerve to say it in public and be proud.
This just doesn’t happen in America with Black folks. It happens every where. Brown people from India have an issue with dark skinned girls. Every guys mother back there is looking for a white or very fair skinned girl for them. Many girls end up single for most of their lives and are shunned from public because of this issue. Unless that girl has low moral values and is ready to sleep with the guy and get pregnant, there’s not a whole lot that girl can do to get married. Guys will be ready to be “friends” with dark skinned girls but not many of them want to marry them.
Ok I think this is ridiculous. True, these women ont he show have problems.
Not everyone who likes lighter skin has “self hate issues” Just like white people tan and black girls have blonde weaves with green eye contacts..nobody says anything to them!!! Some people LIKE LIGHTER SKIN..IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SOCIETY!! IF U CHECK THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO BEFORE THE AGE OF THE “MEDIA”light skin was seen as a sign of beauty.
Also, not all skin lightening creams contain mercury or hydroquinine..I know of a line that doesnt use harmful chemicals and it does get u lighter.
Anotehr point i want to make is There are many non whites who have skin discoloration(which are areas of the body that are eseveral shades darker then the original skin color), so they lighten them using creams. SO WHAT?
True society does hold light skin people higher up and true these women do have issues…but to say that every person who likes lighter skin and wants to achieve that is a “self hater” is ridiculous!
this is something manifested soo deep within human beings.
THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO THINK LIGHT SKIN IS MORE BEAUTIFUL!! SO WHAT? SUE THEM!
What can I say? these women are simply alienated!!!! look like ghosts, look like pins : that is beauty now!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that make me laughing!
but tyra is light brown she is not a redbone y do she keep putting herself in the lite category she did that last time.some of the girls on the stage on the left is the same complexion as her