In this high-tech age of internet bios and usernames and user profiles, it’s easy to divulge intimate knowledge and information about yourself without even knowing it. If we don’t’ know a person we’d be hard-pressed to tell them where we live, our favorite foods and hangout spots and all sorts of nuances particular to us.
But how well do our BFFs know us? Do you tell your girlfriend EVERYTHING?
In a routine conversation it is quite likely that you spill your guts about your family life, the problems with your mother, the relationship with your father, the kids, etc., all to the point where your best friend is embedded in your business.
Is that healthy?
I mean, we all need some type of privacy, right? Some people adhere to the motto that ‘My best friend knows everything about me, and I know everything about them.’ But do you? Many a heartache has arisen due to a so-called Best Friend Forever turning into a Big Fake For real.
Jobs have been lost, jealousies taken root and even men being taken due to revealing secrets, dark, deep, secrets that sometimes are better left unsaid, and unspread. Some women even tell their best friends how their man likes it in bed, when he wants it and how bad he needs it, totally illustrating the picture to the point of salivation for the listener.
Isn’t it true that some things are left to the imagination? Friend or not, can a married or very much in love woman or man really justify describing a sexual escapade to a single friend who longs for such an experience?
Can the BFF really add anything to the conversation besides asking you if your man is down for some fries with that shake? No wonder the Bible cautions against covetousness, especially if people can’t keep their business to themselves. But does your girlfriend have any responsibility here? Perhaps when a friend starts to open up about T.M.I. a true friend could say something like, “Excuse me, but I don’t feel comfortable hearing about that,” or “Keep it in the closet.”
True, we’ve all got skeletons there, but if you’ve got a graveyard then on the couch of a shrink may be the best place for a person that insists on sharing intimate stories.
Well, do you tell your girlfriend EVERYTHING?