88748593In this high-tech age of internet bios and usernames and user profiles, it’s easy to divulge intimate knowledge and information about yourself without even knowing it. If we don’t’ know a person we’d be hard-pressed to tell them where we live, our favorite foods and hangout spots and all sorts of nuances particular to us.

But how well do our BFFs know us? Do you tell your girlfriend EVERYTHING?

In a routine conversation it is quite likely that you spill your guts about your family life, the problems with your mother, the relationship with your father, the kids, etc., all to the point where your best friend is embedded in your business.

Is that healthy?

I mean, we all need some type of privacy, right? Some people adhere to the motto that ‘My best friend knows everything about me, and I know everything about them.’ But do you? Many a heartache has arisen due to a so-called Best Friend Forever turning into a Big Fake For real.

Jobs have been lost, jealousies taken root and even men being taken due to revealing secrets, dark, deep, secrets that sometimes are better left unsaid, and unspread. Some women even tell their best friends how their man likes it in bed, when he wants it and how bad he needs it, totally illustrating the picture to the point of salivation for the listener.

Isn’t it true that some things are left to the imagination? Friend or not, can a married or very much in love woman or man really justify describing a sexual escapade to a single friend who longs for such an experience?

Can the BFF really add anything to the conversation besides asking you if your man is down for some fries with that shake? No wonder the Bible cautions against covetousness, especially if people can’t keep their business to themselves. But does your girlfriend have any responsibility here? Perhaps when a friend starts to open up about T.M.I. a true friend could say something like, “Excuse me, but I don’t feel comfortable hearing about that,” or “Keep it in the closet.”

True, we’ve all got skeletons there, but if you’ve got a graveyard then on the couch of a shrink may be the best place for a person that insists on sharing intimate stories.

Well, do you tell your girlfriend EVERYTHING?

  • J.G.

    No. I tell no one everything.

  • Fox

    Not since I have seen her ugly side to others. We have dirt on each other, but I have things to lose. Her life is not going well now so she doesn’t. At this very moment I am uneasy about some of the things she knows. I don’t tell her anywhere near what I used to.

  • Anonymiss

    People need to be smarter about choosing their friends. I don’t understand why people put up with bad friends. Sometimes it is painfully obvious when you’re friend is gunning against you rather than for you && people need to realize that it’s ok to to remove someone out of your life if they don’t have your best interests at heart. Also you have to know what friends to tell what. Some people just have big mouths and you know those are the people you can’t tell anything. Then there are some friends who are extra judgemental and you know you can’t tell them certain things either. Then you have those friends that you know you can pour your heart out too, typically the ones that can relate to you situation or are very empathetic/understanding. It’s ok to have different types of friends but you have to know how to interact with each one and don’t expect to be able to tell them all everything. Also there are certain things that are best kept secrets e.g. your sex life.

  • O

    Some people share things with their BFF and never share them with their man and turn around and wonder why they can’t connect and have lasting relationships with men.
    Despite what pop culture tells us, the intimate details between two people really should remain with those two people, otherwise, don’t be suprised when your relationships doesn’t last.

    The true grown up and mature ladies are more discreet about their bizness and handle their emotions better than the younger ones.
    They understand that it’s unwise to kiss and tell.

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