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Time Sisters Kept Condoms At Hand Too

Monday Oct 26, 2009 – by

Who sold this idea to women that it is the sole responsibility of a man to always have condoms at hand?

Truth be told, most men have more sexual encounters than they can admit to anyone other than trusted male friends — probably anyone else would get that kind of information if there is million bucks to be won in a Truth or Dare game.

Therefore, it stands to reason that the chances of such a man running out of condoms is very high. And when a woman shows up at his door, ready for action, he will not turn her down. One can bet that despite knowing the risks involved, the poor dude would, in the heat of the moment, risk unprotected sex with her.

In some cases where sisters are seeking treatment for this or that sexual disease or carrying an unplanned pregnancy, the man never used a rubber shield — not because he did not want to but because he had run out of them.

But come to think of it, such madams would have saved themselves the messy situation had they gathered the courage to carry a pack of condoms in their spacious XXXL handbags.

Unplanned encounters

Now I know someone is raising a point of order to ask me why most men don’t carry condoms as often as they should. Well you see, a man’s wallet is small and could damage condoms easily.

But suggest to a sister that she should always have enough sense to carry condoms or keep enough in her house if her Romeo is the kind that happens without warning, and she will shoot back an empty stare as though you are speaking some Chinese. As if you think she is loose.

Besides, many a woman reasons that her man is also likely to conclude that she does not trust him if she ever insisted on condoms. Where do women get that mentality? Why are sisters so ready to risk their lives just to gain the trust of a man?

Safe, not sorry

Ordinarily, it is the responsibility of a man to have enough condoms in his house and, better still, carry some when he knows he might get active outside his den.

But like our government that does not plan for anything until disasters happens, many brothers have had to put out unexpected fires. A man might be aware that only one condom or none at all is left in store, but the decision to grab the piece of rubber is made after foreplay — which, as you would guess, is usually too late. Worse, the local shop and bar is closed or it is too dangerous to venture into the night.

So what is a man to do? Wouldn’t it be so nice if the man didn’t have to waste precious time asking: “Should I or should I not do it?” because the woman reaches into her bag and hands him what he needs at the nick of time?

Only a fool would frown at a woman who keeps safe because who knows? He could be protecting himself from unplanned parenthood if not a deadly sexual disease. Nonetheless, some men don’t like the idea of using a condom due to a warped belief that rubber-less sex is more pleasurable.

So, when an opportunity presents itself, they would be more than ready to jump at it, the risks notwithstanding. But rather than be sorry later, it is better for sisters to keep their own rubber, because no woman should be such a daredevil that she risks her life.

Anyway, It is no secret that women are taking matters in their own hands in many fields. They should stand up to be counted in such a small matter as buying a condom, a little investment that could make a whole lot of difference in their lives.

A sister who hands a man rubber is telling him he has no choice but use it. If he doesn’t have a good reason not to, sister, run for the hills.

10 Comments – Add Yours

  1. avatar Alex says:

    Boy wouldn’t just be swell if a man had some Plan b and birth control pills laying around, when I didn’t have time to run to CVS and pick up my Yaz? Oh wait that would never happen. Guess keeping torans on hand is my responsibility too…but then again getting H.I.V doesn’t sound like fun.

  2. avatar Brandi says:

    Good article (as always). I don’t get why more people don’t think this way. It could save loads of trouble. If one is too embarrassed to bring up the subject of condoms/birth control, they don’t have sex.

  3. avatar Rachel says:

    I completely agree with Brandi, if your not comfortable enough to discuss this with your man then are you really mature enough to be having sex? Sex is a means of reproduction, if you arent planning for that then take precautions. It really isnt difficult. About time we had an article like this, too many kids are in this world because their parents got ‘caught up’.

  4. avatar Harlem Chic says:

    The problem is that everyone thinks that everyone else is gonna catch the monster. They think “Oh not me…maybe her* and then take foolish risks with their lives by believing that a man will always tell the truth on his penis. Getting tested together is the only sure fire way to unprotected sex and even then I say give that mug some time to marinate…

    But sisters if you must insist on having it….no glove no love. AIDS is our number one killer. Yes…Us!

  5. avatar mo says:

    Nonsensical garbage. The tone of this article is really repulsive. If the man has lots of sex then he should have lots of condoms. I mean, WTF? This sixth grade logic is pathetic. The solution to the “condom crisis” isn’t to shift the responsibility onto women but to motivate MEN & WOMEN to insist on safe sex EVERYtime. I couldn’t care LESS about who supplied the condom. Most people live within walking distance of a condom retailing so to think, as this article suggests, that the poor man — having run through his own generous supply! — is being acted upon by the unprepared woman is preposterous and asinine. Let’s do better, shall we? And yes, I’m referring to sexual hygiene and with this article.

  6. Guess what the number one killer of young black women is? HIV/Aids.

    Carrying condoms isn’t the answer. We are not animals who need to get the “freak on” just because a guy has a nice smile.

    This should be about finding a clean, disease-free husband (of your own) who is NOT a man-whore. These guys do exist, some of them will be non-black.

    ‘Cause this hook-up, “free-love”, sleeping around without consequences lifestyle is killing black women.

  7. avatar sloane says:

    @alex- thank u! i agree, we already have to take about 20 forms of birth control that can sometimes have adverse effects on our bodies, so the least men can do is supply condoms. why does the onus of birth control and having protected sex always fall on women?

  8. avatar Karyn says:

    Great article. I couldn’t agree more! It’s not his health…It’s ours. If you’re dealing with a man that assumes the worse about you SOLELY because you’re taking preventative measures with your health, then you’re dealing with the wrong man. Trust that! As co-founder of The Red Pump Project, we always encourage women to stand up for their health, talk about HIV/AIDS, and protect themselves. We can do it, ladies…

  9. avatar Tina says:

    I do not find it the least problematic to be prepared at all times. It’s all a matter of life, I am not sacrificing my life because I think its dudes responsibility. This is my life we’re talking about I have ALWAYS believed in being prepared and having my own stash on hand, there is a no condom no sex policy for me, and I am in a monogamous relationship with a dude I trust and he of course wants to nix the policy so every time he conveniently forgets to bring one or runs out, mama pulls one out. It’s all good.

  10. avatar Brandi says:

    I agree with Tina. I don’t see anything wrong with being prepared. Why put your healthy/safety in the hands of someone else? We all know the outcome(s) of the situation when that’s done.

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