79214450Congratulations – you’re having a baby! Now through all the changes going on with your life and body (ugh!), you’ve got a grand task ahead of you: Whatever will we name this little bundle of joy?

For many families, a baby name is the least of anyone’s concerns during this exciting time. It was decided long ago that you and your spouse would keep the family tradition going strong by passing on the names of your elders. [Sidenote: Both of my middle names belong to my grandmothers, so I’m all too familiar with this one.] Or perhaps you’ll just take the safe route. I suppose there’s nothing wrong with another little Ashley or Brittany, Justin or Anthony – right? I guess.

But for others, the naming process is the time to finally express one’s innermost most creative desires. The world is yours and you’ve made up your mind that you’re gonna get funky with it! If your baby is going to be the superstar that you always dreamed of becoming, he or she will have to have a name that sets them apart from the rest. Uh huh, they’re going to be unique, alright.

Sometimes, though, things don’t turn out so great. Not for the child, at least. Here are a few common “uh-oh” errors that occur in our community when it comes to naming our newborns.

The 7 [Potentially] Deadly Sins of Baby Naming:

Now on a more serious note, as entertaining as the conversation of baby names can get, the social implications of these decisions are very serious and long lasting. Keep in mind that your child will have to spell this name everyday for the rest of their life. Is it something that can be sounded out, or even remembered for that matter? Also, I’m sure you remember your grade school days. Children are very cruel, so let’s hope we’re not giving our kids a name that will make them the constant subject of humility and shame. And of course, as little boys and girls become grown men and women, they will need to find a job. Will this name be the cause for instant résumé rejection or discrimination in the workplace? Some things to think about.

We all know that you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover – or title, in this case. But the sad truth is: people do it everyday. If you or anyone else you know has been set up in the name game, let’s stop the cycle here and help a baby out! They’ll appreciate you for it in the long run.

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  • YOURS TRULY

    My boyfriend’s daughter’s name is Cay’La..I hate it..but love her..lol..he said it was the mom’s idea..smh

  • Alex

    It took my mother 6 days to name me; it was a choice between Ashley and Alexandria. I’m glad she chose the latter. I think giving your child a name that is important to you and has meaning is important. I’ve heard of people just giving a simple plain name, that sounded good with little to no thought. To give your child a name that will look good on a resume’, college application or to give them a “normal” so others will be comfortable in my book is a no-no. I’m not naming my child so his teachers and co-workers will be comfortable. I don’t hold the options of strangers in such high esteem :)

    And you can’t determine a person’s worth, intelligence, or even socio-economic status based on a name alone. And as far a judging goes, hell I’m more likely to be judged by what I’m wearing, skin color, gender, etc, before I even open my mouth to say my name.

    Idk maybe naming my kid after a geo-politically/religiously important place that my grandmother wanted to visit; that she never did will come back to haunt me, but then again there’s always the middle name (Alexander).

    I actually know I woman named Margarita. She’s a 50+ y/o Mexican woman.

  • JusMe1

    My name happens to fall under parents combining their 1st names. My name is actually quite beautiful. It has real meaning unlike “acceptable” common names that people pick just b/c they like them. It is far from ghetto and inappropriate. I grew up with people not pronouncing or spelling my name correctly. I don’t get humiliated by people who can’t read 3 basic syllables. I correct them and move on. My self esteem is far from low. I am gainfully employed. I love my name b/c it is unique and it fits my character.

    Who decides that one name is more appropriate than another? Why is Brittany ok but Briante isn’t?

    Plus, Marguerita is a common hispanic name- how do you think the english name Margaret came to be?

  • Loquacious_

    Thanks for this article. Parents giving no thought to their child’s name is actually a pet peeve of mine. Words have power and thus names have power. For instance, Jabez (Old Testament) means “He causes pain” and Jabez prayed to God, ” Oh that You would bless me indeed and enlarge my territory…” I may be so bold as to say that Jabez’s mother cursed him by giving him that name, but his prayer for release from the meaning of that name was broken with his prayer.

    You may not be a spiritually person, and thus not agree with my point of view but consider the children who have names with no meaning. Look at what some of these children are doing with their lives; nothing or getting in trouble. A person’s name should have meaning because when it is all said and done, all one has is his name. Parents just name their children Alize or Oranjello because it sounds cute. Really? I wish some parents would think about the path they are laying out for their child when they name them. Moreover, realize that life and death is in the power of one’s tongue.

  • Kassie

    My mum named me after a college friend with it’s Slavic spelling and all- “Ksenija”, and noone can pronounce it. It would have been nice if she’s thought about how it would effect me and others.