Comments on: Black Women And The Black Women We Don’t Get http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/ Smart & Fly | clutchmagonline.com Sun, 19 May 2013 12:36:46 -0400 hourly 1 By: Kizzy http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-11/#comment-170756 Kizzy Fri, 04 Nov 2011 09:25:21 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-170756 I love Solange Knowles, not because she is a black woman doing it differently, but because she is who she is. She could’ve been white for all I care. This debate about black women this and that does not really agree with me. I’m black too by the way. The same thing ‘black’ women go through, all women of all races go through as well. So this issue being singled out as a ‘black’ women issue, is certainly over rated. Yes, maybe we have a few more dramas, but this is not exclusive to black women, it happens to all women at different stages of their lives. We’ve all been there, trying to fit in, etc, etc, etc….

Let’s praise Solange for her style, creativity, all she deserves but not entirely because of her colour but because she earned it as a woman in her own right. Not as a colour/race….

Peace

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]]> By: JMonae http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-11/#comment-113862 JMonae Thu, 28 Apr 2011 16:55:45 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-113862 I don’t like Solange because she’s arrogant as hell not because she’s a “weird” black girl. I love “weird” black girls, keep them coming.

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]]> By: Angela http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-113854 Angela Thu, 28 Apr 2011 16:30:19 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-113854 I will never understand our fascination with being all the same. People are unique by nature regardless of race. We’re taught to blend in. Some of us just aren’t as obedient. And those are the ones who should be applauded. I don’t love Solange’s style, but I do love that she willing to stand up tall and be herself. Despite having a robot for a sister. It says a lot about her character, values, and confidence.

“Can I be me
Just like you are I?
Can I embrace individualism
Just like they?
When they do I
They’re embracing me
When I do me
I’m acting white.
Acting white
As though to say
That whites are the only ones
Who can detach from they
And be considered I
Considered me, she, him, her, he
Because we are always us
And they and them
Monolithic
No room for an individual
In the realm of blackness.
Hmm.
Another privilege of being white
I suppose …”
–Angela

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]]> By: FrustratedArtist http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-108766 FrustratedArtist Tue, 05 Apr 2011 05:36:13 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-108766 my point. being weird on purpose is weird. if she is authentic more power to her. what annoys me are sisters who go to great lengths to convince others that they are different. “i’m not a typical black girls…other black girls don’t get me” yada yada yada. since when is there one type of black girl or one type of black expression?

tatted, pierced, ghetto, prim or proper we are way more similar that what we wear.

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]]> By: FrustratedArtist http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-108759 FrustratedArtist Tue, 05 Apr 2011 05:18:48 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-108759 ashe’, amen, and cheers to your reply. dressing “weird” is the new regular. boo! solange is cute and whatnots but original…jury is still out.

shaving your head in 10th grade and then sarcastically telling the ‘regulars’ you have cancer only to have the (bad) joke spread as a rumor of truth and ending up in the guidance counselors office for the next 6 months explaining to an adult idiot that A) It was a bad joke in response to being feed up with the B) dumb questions about your hair that everyone (including adult idiot counselor) keeps asking.

shaving my head of ‘good hair’, stanning for nirvana and wearing bindi’s on my forehead was not fly in Queens in 98. but honestly i never felt so out of place as the author. i was different, sure, the girls around the way were hard on me from time to time but I had the standard urban Black girl experience all the way. timbs and 1460′s share the same space in my closet

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]]> By: Carla http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-67353 Carla Sun, 12 Sep 2010 21:41:06 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-67353 My issue w/Solange has nothing to do with her style choice. I actually love some of her style choices. However, my issue is when she’s exalted as the originator of said particular style. For example, her new look is praised by many and she herself speaks of her look as if it’s a natural progression. When in actuality the truth is mix: She’s continually influenced by other fly, indie women and constantly bites them. Don’t believe me: Look up Kesh, Vashtie, M.I.A., and Kelis.

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]]> By: Simone http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-60466 Simone Thu, 05 Aug 2010 17:51:56 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-60466 this is exactly why i LOVE Solo…b/c she doesn’t give a EFF!! Individuality is what makes us who we are. Why choose to be beige (like everyone else)? We should all choose to embrace our individuality. BE YOU-nique! (for those who didn’t catch that…be unique!!) smxxches

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]]> By: branid http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-45163 branid Wed, 05 May 2010 22:20:46 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-45163 well solange (from i can tell from family photos) has always been different. she has her hair everywhere, beyonce has braids, at the pool!

but i think solange is used as an example because she got so much backlash (internet) from (gasp) black people. even bow wow put his two cents in.

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]]> By: Karra http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-10/#comment-42784 Karra Mon, 19 Apr 2010 23:57:24 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-42784 Thank you!

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]]> By: Lisa http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2009/12/black-women-and-the-black-women-we-dont-get/comment-page-8/#comment-42783 Lisa Mon, 19 Apr 2010 23:54:15 +0000 http://clutchmagonline.com/?p=35925#comment-42783 AMEN!! I’m so tired of that “omg I’m such a ‘different’ black girl!” bs that is associated with Solange. She isn’t different and neither is everyone commenting like this article is a revelation. If you’re so different, why are there so many comments from women feeling the same way you do?

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