The Modern Day Matchmaker: Ep #9 “The Mind Of A Single Man – Part Two”

Ndidi says:

I really enjoyed these video clips (this one and the past ones featured on Clutch). Look forward to the next one!!!!

Sara says:

Niks59 sounds like a HATER!!! This video was good and insightful. It can be hard to know what is on the mind of the opposite sex, and I appreciate Paul bringing this cloudy subject ot light for us females. Keep up the good work!

Audrey says:

The only thing that threw me off was when he called Jill Scott “overweight.” It seems base to describe woman with her poise, charisma, and talent with such an unflattering term.

Lynette says:

I find it ironic that the man who talks the loudest about not liking a woman who is overweight, appears to be overweight himself. But he is entitled to have his preferences.

Tiffany says:

I appreciate the willingness of the men shown in this clip to be honest and open about their perspectives on relationships with women. My comment is in regards to the closing thoughts of the clip.

One thing that I would like for us–as society–to consider is this notion of “wifeing” a woman. The point of departure for this “to do” or “no to do” philosophy assumes that all women want to be wifed up and that it is an ideal to which all women aspire. I personally know women who enjoy having just as many non-serious and free loving relationships as I do men who “aren’t looking for anything serious.” I think that what really lies at the heart of this terminology of “wifey” is that for women “playing wifey” and being treated like wifey really means reciprocity. It means getting as much as you are giving. And if this is the case, I think it best if we stop referring to reciprocity as “wifeing” someone. What is so hard about reciprocating without attaching juvenile words that draw upon legally binding relationships between men and women. A woman should not have to be considered “wifey” to be taken seriously. What does the term “wifey” do for men? Please share if you have any thoughts.

In addition, let us consider why heterosexual women don’t run around using the term “hubby.” Women don’t use it because men are not assumed to want to be married in the same way that it is assumed that this is a woman’s lifelong dream. (This is in no way a slight to any woman who aspires to be some man’s wife, but I would like us to consider that this is not something that ALL women want)..Could you imagine? “Girl, this one right here is hubby…I’m about to hubby him up!” It just sounds plain silly. And to me, it sounds just as silly for heterosexual men to use the term “wifey.”

Just some discourse analysis to think about. Thank you for allowing me to share.

In peace.