Shortly after the news broke that U.S. Representative Jesse Jackson Jr. was cheating on his wife with a White blonde hostess, reports confirm that Sandi Jackson knew two years ago and will be sticking by her man. The Chicago Alderman tells the Chicago Sun-Times, “When it happens to you its amazing how what you once thought was black and white becomes variations of a color called gray.”
The couple has been married for nearly two decades and has two children. Mrs. Jackson said she never could anticipate how she would feel when her husband told her about the affair.
“He said it was over. I was mortified and in agony, but he knew if I found out any other way it would be over.”
Jackson told the son of civil rights icon the only way to save their marriage was to come clean and consider spiritual counseling and therapy.
But as Sandi Jackson revisits the old wound she dealt with before during the now publicized scandal, she says there are people in far worst circumstances. “Mine is a matter of heart, for many it’s a matter of survival.” Jackson says, “My heart will heal.”
Whether older, married, Black women in the public eye know or not, young Black women are taking cues from their choices. As we progress into our thirties, many of us who want to be married someday are asking ourselves, “What would I do if my husband cheated?”
Some of us witnessed the effects of broken homes firsthand. Due to infidelity, many of our parents divorced, and often left us fatherless. Now that we’re grown women with semi-seasoned perspectives on love and men, how will we navigate situations like Sandi Jackson’s?
It isn’t so easy to pack up your things and leave, especially after 20 years and two children.
The beauty of being an unmarried young adult is that we can learn from our elders and make wiser decisions if and when we find ourselves in this predicament.
Hindsight is 20/20. And many of us 20 and early 30-somethings are just getting our specs. For what’s its worth, what would you do?
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