My pubescent years must’ve been the best entertainment for my mother. For weeks, I had analyzed, touched, and tried to conceal the black bush that was growing on my vagina. After countless mornings and evenings of attempting to stuff the hair into the creases of my cotton underwear, I eventually stole her cuticle scissors to cut my black grass. Don’t worry. She never noticed and respectfully, I never returned them.
I grew tired of my secret sessions with the cuticle scissors and finally asked my mom, “Is it okay to shave the hair on your vagina?”
She chuckled and said, “Yes, some women shave it, but if you do, it only will grow back more quickly.”
Disregarding the second part of her answer, I immediately asked, “Is it okay if I shave it?”
She shrugged and said, “Sure…just use caution.”
I had never been more excited to take a shower.
Where did I get the desire for a hairless vagina? The ideal didn’t come from one exact place, but I had seen enough video vixens in bikinis and yes, even some glimpses of porno to know that my vagina had more hair than the “norm.”
Bare vaginas were the standard. I wanted a standard vagina.
For years, I rarely let my pubic hair grow beyond a millimeter. I obsessively trimmed it, particularly when I became involved with boys. Disgusted by female pubic hair, my high school boyfriend certainly appreciated my bald vagina. Since we were engaging in oral sex, I obliged to his preference, simultaneously assuming that most men held similar sentiments. I certainly wasn’t a fan of men sporting full on bushes above their penises, so the feeling truly was mutual.
Noticing my near bald vagina, a recent partner asked me why I shaved my pubic hair. While I felt cleaner and sexier with less hair, my knee jerk reaction involved my relationship with men.
Less pubic hair facilitated more oral sex.
He laughed, obviously not expecting my answer to be so blunt. Yet, he replied that he personally loved pubic hair on women. He enjoyed putting his face in bushes.
Perhaps if we both had been alive in the 1970s, I would classify his answer as the norm. Historically, pop culture and pornography didn’t encourage female porn stars or women in general to wax, shave, or Nair their pubic hair until the 1990s.
I would argue that the majority of women keep their pubes trimmed low and bikini lines bald. I know few women that vocally rock a full bush.
As women lay on spa chairs all over the world to get their pubes ripped off, I have to ask why we participate in these shenanigans. After my first wax, I thought hell rose through my vagina’s pores and vowed to never do it again. But I still shave quite frequently. Indeed, it is a chore.
Please tell me…
Why do most women trim or completely remove their pubic hair? Why have bushes faded from the norm? And do you prefer bare or the bush?