My pubescent years must’ve been the best entertainment for my mother. For weeks, I had analyzed, touched, and tried to conceal the black bush that was growing on my vagina. After countless mornings and evenings of attempting to stuff the hair into the creases of my cotton underwear, I eventually stole her cuticle scissors to cut my black grass. Don’t worry. She never noticed and respectfully, I never returned them.

I grew tired of my secret sessions with the cuticle scissors and finally asked my mom, “Is it okay to shave the hair on your vagina?”

She chuckled and said, “Yes, some women shave it, but if you do, it only will grow back more quickly.”
Disregarding the second part of her answer, I immediately asked, “Is it okay if I shave it?”
She shrugged and said, “Sure…just use caution.”

I had never been more excited to take a shower.

Where did I get the desire for a hairless vagina? The ideal didn’t come from one exact place, but I had seen enough video vixens in bikinis and yes, even some glimpses of porno to know that my vagina had more hair than the “norm.”
Bare vaginas were the standard. I wanted a standard vagina.

For years, I rarely let my pubic hair grow beyond a millimeter. I obsessively trimmed it, particularly when I became involved with boys. Disgusted by female pubic hair, my high school boyfriend certainly appreciated my bald vagina. Since we were engaging in oral sex, I obliged to his preference, simultaneously assuming that most men held similar sentiments. I certainly wasn’t a fan of men sporting full on bushes above their penises, so the feeling truly was mutual.

Noticing my near bald vagina, a recent partner asked me why I shaved my pubic hair. While I felt cleaner and sexier with less hair, my knee jerk reaction involved my relationship with men.

Less pubic hair facilitated more oral sex.

He laughed, obviously not expecting my answer to be so blunt. Yet, he replied that he personally loved pubic hair on women. He enjoyed putting his face in bushes.

Perhaps if we both had been alive in the 1970s, I would classify his answer as the norm. Historically, pop culture and pornography didn’t encourage female porn stars or women in general to wax, shave, or Nair their pubic hair until the 1990s.
I would argue that the majority of women keep their pubes trimmed low and bikini lines bald. I know few women that vocally rock a full bush.

As women lay on spa chairs all over the world to get their pubes ripped off, I have to ask why we participate in these shenanigans. After my first wax, I thought hell rose through my vagina’s pores and vowed to never do it again. But I still shave quite frequently. Indeed, it is a chore.

Please tell me…

Why do most women trim or completely remove their pubic hair? Why have bushes faded from the norm? And do you prefer bare or the bush?


  • Ricky Ticky

    I can honestly say I prefer a full bush on a woman. When I was teenager, I didn’t really care how much hair was or wasn’t on a vagina. But, once I actually had sex, and more importantly oral sex, with both shaved and hairy vaginas, I only take hairy. You may get hairs in your mouth, but vaginas are more pleasing in every way with hair on them. That’s just my opinion. I know it’s not what most other guys would say, but they’re missing out.

  • Anna Killilea

    I love my bush. It brings me great pleasure. And I rock it. Publically. As in, I don’t trim my bikini line. I don’t have a big bush though, so only a few hairs stick out the sides, and they barely go down my thigh – pubic hair makes my body look soft, like a charcoal drawing. When I shaved or waxed, I lost sexual sensation. The pain was also insane, but the big thing for me is that the tingly feeling of someone playing with your pubes was gone. It is a really important feeling. It is what makes me want to let a guy touch my vulva. It is even reduced by trimming – long pubes transfer touch better. My waxed or shaved vulva feels like it is calloused, like leather. And it is. it rubs on my pants all day, gets agitated, skin thickens, sensation lessons. I get that its fun to do something different, and I enjoyed the erotic pleasures of newness for a few weeks, a few times, but, ultimately, my pubic hair is sexier. Oh, and I can’t do oral without hair because I get rug burn. If I was a lesbian I might be able to enjoy the smoothness of a chicks face down there, but beard stuble….stuble period, who would choose that over the silky, warm sensation of hair. Oh yeah, and guys, I think you look like a larva without your hair, and I love to cuddle your warm, soft furry chests too.

  • Anna Killilea

    I can’t even get oral if I wax because a guys stuble hurts too much. I don’t trim either though, because that makes my hair prickly. I like it soft and long. totally true about the good vagina bacteria – have you read about the vaginal microbiome – it is amazing – protects us from STI’s and stuff, helps us have healthy babies.

  • Anna Killilea

    I love the sweaty smell and the pheromones. I touch and smell myself all the time. Without pubes, the sweat clung to my skin and I didn’t have that wonderful, intoxicating pussy smell that I can’t get enough of (even on myself).

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