Last week a video of an Ethiopian-American woman surfaced and reignited the conversation around differences between the diverse people and culture that make up the African Diaspora.

This woman’s words—brimming with hate-filled vitriol toward African-American women—was not only difficult to watch because it was overflowing with an abundance of ignorance, but also because it was tough to see so much self-hate in action.

The first generation Ethiopian-American woman took some serious shots at African-American women calling them “the most desperate women in the world,” and asserting that no man wanted to date them. What was worse, however, is that she talked so badly about Black women like she wasn’t even one of us. Well, damn.

Watching the video was hard. Throughout the eight-minute diatribe I wanted to throw my computer out of the window and kick some sense into her (obviously) crazy ass, but alas that would have only served to bolster her negative stereotypes about Black women (angry, aggressive, neck-poppin’), rather than serve as a much-needed wake-up call for her foolishness. So I did what I always do when something irks me, I wrote about it.

What grew out of one woman’s extreme ignorance and hate was a serious dialogue between sisters of the Diaspora. Many women read and responded, sharing their experiences either being an American-born sister, or a Black woman from another part of the world. The stories of struggling to fit in, being ostracized by peers, celebrating cultural differences, and finding common ground—even though it may have been difficult—was nothing short of amazing. Reading through the 100+ comments made me realize that there is not only a lot of work to be done in terms of celebrating and bridging the vast landscape of our differences, but also all of us could use a little reminder on what makes us—sisters of the Diaspora—so amazingly fly.

The Caribbean Massive
Whether they sway to Soca, Reggae, Dub, Lovers Rock, or bust a slow wine to a dancehall tune, our sisters from the Caribbean know how to suck the marrow from life and enjoy every minute of it. From Antigua to Venezuela, the Virgin Islands to Puerto Rico, sisters from the Caribbean have their own special flavor. From the laid back shores of Barbados, Jamaica, the Bahamas and Aruba, to the lively streets of Trinidad during Carnival, Caribbean sisters know how to weave a mashup of cultural influences (African, Indian, Indigenous) to come up with a likkle something all their own. Nuff respect.

Sisters With Sabor
Calling all Colombianos, Dominicanos, Cubanos, Boriquas, and Hondurans. Black women not only permeate the Caribbean and its many islands, but they are also a force to be reckoned with in the Spanish-speaking world as well. From Panama to the Dominican Republic, Belize to Brazil, Afro-Latino women mix colonial Spanish influences with Indigenous and African roots to come up with a hypnotic concoction all their own. In the words of La Reina, Celia Cruz, “Mi Sangre as azucar negra…”

European Noir
The streets of European cities are not only home to some of the most historic cultural landmarks in the world (The Lourve, Big Ben, The Coliseum), but it is also home to some of the most amazing Black women on the planet. From the busy streets of London and France, to the picturesque views of Italy and Amsterdam, our sisters from across the pond have a certain je ne sais quoi that will give any burgeoning fashionista fever.

American Beauties
Black women in the U.S. and Canada share more than just a Northern border. Sisters in North America have thrived in spite of discrimination to achieve more than our foremothers could have every dreamed. Time and time again America Black women have defied the odds and achieving great success on our own terms. From California to New York, The Dirty South to Toronto, Black women in North America have carved our their own spaces in a society that sometimes fails to recognize their worth.

Sisters of the Motherland
Africa holds more than just the crater of life; it is home to millions of unbreakable Black women. Despite what some may think, Africa is not a monolith, it is comprised of a myriad of different cultures, dialects, and countries. From Ethiopia—the birthplace of Rastafarianism—to the pristine beaches of Kenya and Tanzania, Africa’s challenges may be many but the spirit of its women is its most precious jewel.

No matter where we come from, Black women are beautiful. Instead of fighting about our cultural differences, we should be celebrating our respective cultures and the unique differences that make us great. No matter where you come from or what language you speak, you are an amazing woman.

Now Werk!

Clutchettes, shout out your culture and what makes it so great!

  • TKO-Curly

    I would like to shout all my Guyanese ladies.

  • African Mami

    Shout outs to my AFRICAN sisters. I mean what more can I say other than the motherland is the cradle of all mankind…..woot woot!

    Lovely post Britni.

  • Alexandra

    “Instead of fighting about our cultural differences, we should be celebrating our respective cultures and the unique differences that make us great”

    Nice quote. And I agree with it.
    Sometimes people say we should talk about similarities, instead of differences. But theres nothing wrong with acknowledging that we are different. I only disagree when people use their differences to boost their superiority complexes.

  • A.C. Ford

    I want all my nerdy black sisters to put one hand in the air! If you read comic books, wear glasses, and sometimes listen to Hall & Oates, I GOT YOU!

  • Tomi Ogundayo

    Oh god I love you. I JUST renewed my subscription to Marvel Comics. M-Day has gotten rid of a lot of my favorite characters, but I’m holding on.

    Also the Sandman, best Vertigo comic IN THE WORLD? Yes. YES.

  • Tomi Ogundayo

    “What was worse, however, is that she talked so badly about Black women like she wasn’t even one of us. Well, damn.”

    Well no, she talked badly of AMERICAN black women. Apparently, if you ask my parents, there is a difference. It’s unfortunate that people think this about us (yes, even though I am African, I AM going to identify with the fact that I was born in America), but it’s nothing new. I’ve been called “akata”* by my family because I was born here. They really think we’re nothing but lost animals without a culture…

    But conveniently forget that it was on the backs of black women that this great nation (that they immigrate to in MASSIVE NUMBERS), was made.

    [ * Means wild animal; Derogatory term for blacks ]

  • Lulu

    We should all unite! The world will never be at peace until we do!

  • Megan Walter

    I’m so glad for this post. I love being a Black woman because I have no other choice! J/K. Besides, inside of me runs the blood of my ancestors who survived slavery and Jim Crow and of that, I am proud!!

  • Harlem Loves

    That’s so funny. Just yesterday I was inspired by a Martin Luther King photo and blogged about how “everyone deserves to feel that the culture that made them is pretty amazing” So stand up ladies. I salute you!

    PS: I’m waving the flag for London, Nevis and Guyana xx

  • Harlem Loves

    Totally agree with you Alexandra. I should be able to (and do) look at another culture and and appreciate their unique attributes as beautiful. Wouldn’t it be great if everyone could do more of that?

  • Clnmike

    Nice, piece.

  • dee.coll


    I loved this post! There is so much about us as BLACK women that we should celebrate, regardless of the country our momma was in when she pushed us out.

    so as the author said…WURRRKKKKKKKK SISTAS


  • Caribbelle

    Trinidad Massive Stand UP!!

  • Trina Roach

    Thank you so much for bringing up this topic! How quickly we forget to respect each other’s journeys. No, not all of us do the best we can, but each of us has our own burden to share and – to paraphrase Maya Angelou – when we know better, we’ll certainly do better!

    Black American women seem to be going through a difficult stage of metamorphosis at this moment in history. Some of us are being dragged down by the negativity that get thrown our way from society, the media, our families, our men, and – yes – other black women. Others of us, however, are weathering the storm. We’re accepting this apparent “baptism by fire” and coming out on the other side stronger and wiser, but also kinder and more supportive.

    As American women we are beginning to realize that the American perspective – though relevant for our day-to-day lives – is not the ONLY perspective. And maybe not the one that speaks the most “truth” about us. We’ve got to not only come to terms with that, but also with the equality of the entire diasporan experience for black women. The more we come to terms with that GLOBAL reality, the more we will be empowered to own our own reality. We will take back ownership of our collective story and use it to shape something more positive for black women not only in America, but all around the world.

    No matter where we choose to sink out roots, black women can – and should! – be an positive enhancement to society. Whether we were born & bred there or ventured there because of education, love or employment. Yes, we are “doing it for ourselves” in South America and Australia, in Asia and in Europe. We’re networking, co-creating change, having a positive impact on our surroundings.

    In other words, leaving things better than we found them…

  • EmpressDivine

    Now this is what I like to hear! I didn’t comment on the article that this responded to because I knew that video was full of foolishness. Plus I’m sure the ensuing comment war would have just pissed me off.

    Shout out to the Southern (United States) girls, the Pan-Africanists, the bookworms, and the HBCU grads!

    Cool article!

  • Ann

    I would like to shout out my Jamaican and my Nigerian sisters, and those mixed with both!! Not to forget my first generation American sisters as well!

  • Birgit

    Girl, we could have been friends in jr. high/high school! I can’t tell you how many times I have been called weird b/c I like those things. Black nerds rock!

  • Jinx Moneypenny

    Shoutouts to all my Canadian ladies of West Indian descent…y’all already know!!!!! And also to my Jamaicans, Trinis and Grenadians!!! All love to everyone!

  • binks

    This is a beautiful article! I wish I can just pass it out and post it in so many places. I love it, black women just rock and have so much culture and knowledge between us that we literally hold the world in our palms without even realizing it. Shouting out the dirty south sistahs, science nerds and every fly black woman in general

  • DeePDX

    Girl! I practically fell out my seat when I saw the Captain America trailer during the Super Bowl commercials yesterday!! It’s looks better than the Thor movie and I’m STOKED Priest has gone from graphic novel to film.

    With these films and Harry Potter coming out in the next 6 months, 2011 will rock for sure!

  • African Mami

    @ Tomi,

    I asked another Nigerian in this group what the meaning of ‘akata’ was and believe you me it was not an animal or a deragratory term…It could possibly be depending on context usage.

    Again, can somebody back up Tomi, or refute her meaning of the word. Thank you.

  • Richie P

    Grenadian Massive !!!

  • nathou

    shout out 2 all my Haitian sistas,, we r truly PRICELESS diamonds in the rough

  • Ashley Sykes

    i love this article but africans dont = black. wouldnt it have been more accurate to specify that you dont mean the north africans? cause egypt is in africa (unfortunately so many people forget this) i dont see anyboy big upping and giving props to THOSE african brothers and sisters for their revolution.

    other than that and the columbianos ect (it should be columbianas since we’re talking about females) this article it so real! its amazing how we have so many similarities no matter what country our black sisters are in whether they eat beans, rice ,and tortillas or red beans,fried chicken, and corn bread : )

  • Ashley Sykes

    what about video games!?!? anyone?? any gamer queens out there??

  • Shar’Chessa Réussi Pacino

    I am Jamaican and Trinidad and Tobago repin’ hard for the Caribbean!

  • Shar’Chessa Réussi Pacino

    *2 thumbs up*

  • MumBi

    TOTALLY got you there lol, nerdy, cultural bandit, hip to the game, I cook up a storm, party like THE rockstar and a somewhat eco-warrior- straight from the East African country that boasts Sun, Sand and Savannah Sunsets.. Kenya!

    Ya’ll should come down, you haven’t lived till you’ve been to the hottest joint this side of the Sahara!

  • MumBi

    Hey Hun.. North Africa is Still Africa.. Ask Libyans- Gaddafi n co..
    He’s still repping the whole Lumumba “Africa Unite” dream

  • Zoe

    Sweet, Sweet TNT!!! I love how she said the “lively” streets of Trinidad! That it is! lol

    Shout out to all my morena CUBANAS tambien! Somos las mujeres negras! VIVA CUBA!

  • creole beauty

    All the haitian creole beauties!!!!

  • SuzieD

    One time for my Haitian sistahs who kno resilience and faith! We can’t be broken. Was made to never me broken. Haiti will be restored for it is the Lord’s will :)

  • Tomi Ogundayo

    @African Mami

    Well that’s strange…
    I’ve been called it for years so hahaha, I think I would know. Was this person Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa? Or apart of one of the 247 smaller tribes that exist in Nigeria alone.
    Oh look, Wikipedia haha!

  • Tomi Ogundayo


    I thought video games were a given. As well as MMORPGs. Holy damns, it all started with the Nintendo 64 for me. I recently played Resident Evil 5 for the XBox 360 and after a 12 hour gaming session had to stop because one of the zombies looked like my father…LOL

    (Of course this would happen in a game set in Africa)

  • Fatou Sarr

    Representing the Smiling Coast of Africa, the Gambia!! All hail the Gambian Queens! A big shout out also to my Naija and Ghanian sistas!

    Black women are so incredibly gorgeous!!

  • Bri

    Also in Africa don’t forget the Coloreds that make up the western cape of South Africa which is a race onto itself and unique to the Entire world.

  • Maulana

    @Bri: That is true…I am from Malawi and I know all about the Coloureds.

    Shouts out to all my African sisters south of the continent .

    Great article…ps. I hate when people lump all of Africa as if it was a country.

  • Mashawnda Dowell

    Love this post!!!

  • designsdelight

    I like this article, I have to say the haughtiness of my Ethiopians amazed me for a long time, then I understood.

    It has to do with being God’s chosen race, well you know that Moses and Solomon had Ethiopian wives, and that unfortunately is the source of the haughtiness. It bugged me for a long time how they acted, even at university.

    . I still cannot believe that she came out with all that stuff so openly, but the tone of this article is great, really we should not be trapped in bitterness.

    I remember Skip Gates going to Ethiopia to interview some people on the history, and the abrupt nature of the interveews towards him.

  • Aura

    SHOUT OUT to ALL my Dutch Caribbean/ Caribbean Massive sistren!!
    Bonaire, Aruba, Curacao, Statia, St Martin, Saba

    Look I got nothing but love for the folk. We all are strong black women who came from the same origin. We just all morphed into beautiful groups of people. It’s attitudes that make someone ugly. I hope we come to appreciate the beauty.

    For me it’s such an amazing experience to be reunited with sisters from all over the place. Once we are together I feel like something is complete. There’s a wholeness and strength there which is unmatched. I just hope that some of us in the diaspora see the beauty in each other and not create division.

  • urbanchica


  • Anything but….

    I am not trying to be negative however, I noticed a lot of non-AFRICAN AMERICANS aka non-Descendants OF AMERICAN SLAVES are shouting out their own culture but not refuting any of the negatives things/stereotypes stated by this ignorant Ethopian….very interesting, very arrogant.

    However, as one posted noted before, IMMIGRANTS from around the world “conveniently forget that it was on the backs of black women that this great nation (that they immigrate to in MASSIVE NUMBERS), was made.”

    Shout out to all my Strong Black American women who are ancestors of AMERICAN SLAVES who have survived Slavery, Jim Crow, Discrimination, and current Stereotypes from both Africans and non-Africans a like. Stay strong my sistas, stay strong.

  • Ashley Sykes

    @mumbi of course i know north africa is still i’m saying that people seem to seperate morocco and egypt as if it IS seperate from africa.

    go outside and mention the egyptian revolution going on but call them africans and see people say ” they’re egyptian though, not african”lol

  • Ashley Sykes

    @mumbi oop that aint right! omg i laughed so hard when i read your comment this morning. aha resident evil 5 looks pretty good but unfortunately i havent played it yet : (

    i didnt really see it as a given cause nobody mentioned it.

    hmm hey clutch! how about an article on black chick gamers?! or female gamers in general? that would make my life!!

  • thalie

    i c what your saying..but i dont understand y non-African Americans and American Slaves and immigrants is in all caps lol. Blacks suffered slavery everywhere, not just in U.S. There was colonies in north and south America, Caribbean, and Africa, so in a way we r all ancestors of slaves. I dont think any1 here shoutin out is trying to be arrogant, rly. whats arrogant is that Ethiopian girl tho lol. white people probably cant even tell shes Ethiopian, yet she kept talking garbage about African Americans!

  • MissMikelah

    There’s nothing wrong with being proud of you’re heritage, but that doesn’t mean you have to put down others to be proud. We all have differences, but more similarities so we should embrace each other accordingly.

  • Maureen

    A shout out to all my beautiful black sisters in Holland (I’m of Surinamese decent myself).
    I love Hall & Oates :) My iPod is filled with the golden oldies (and when I say old, I mean old: medieval songs, classical music and songs from the 1900s to now. As a kid I read the dictionary for fun. My favorite comic has been Elfquest since I’ve been a little girl, but I also adore French and Belgian ones. Here’s to being black & nerdy!

  • willow

    Love this article and love this comments as well. Of course we gotta shout out other sisters like myself who are like myself African, African American. One parent if from West Africa the other is from the south! We come from a long line of strong people. Despite the differences in our current history we all share the same path. Nothing but love to all my lovely sisters!

  • Lizz

    the previous article was unbalanced, clutch always finds a way to draw dark aspects of Africans,am not giving my sister a pass,but i think the owner of this site has a huge agenda and lastly I don’t understand why people excepect Africans to feel shame realy,why does a confident African bother you? should we worship Americans,as much a you played a role in civil rights,our natural resource built your country,Africans have every right to benefit from America with no shame.

  • dcmoviegirl

    I appreciate this site’s efforts to curb the negativity within our ethnicity. I truly do. It’s all too easy and common to see us fighting against each other pulling each other down, getting so bogged down in the blame game that we forget the good.

  • carla campbell

    When I first saw this video my emotions went from sadness to despair and back to sadness. Those were the only two emotions I was able to identify, though I am sure I was experience many others. And I am still sad.

    I am sad because I think this women is suffering from an extreme case of self-loathing. I say this because as a ( diaspora) Caribbean Black woman, I know there is absolutely no way I would want or try to separate myself from my African American sisters because no matter where they live in the ghetto or in Beverley Hills it because of them that I am proud to call myself a sister. From Oprah to Maya, to Diana to Beyonce, to Condeleeza, to Michelle, to Soledad to Angela Davis, I am who I am because of who they are. We are all connected at the roots.

    I feel sad for this young women because either she does not realize or at best refuses to acknowledge that without the sacrifice of thousands of Emmit Tills who were lynched and many not so famous others who were murdered for simply sharing her skin tone she would not be able to call herself Ethiopian American.

    That being said, does she realize how many cultures around the world right at this moment are trying to emulate and steal from the greatness of Black American geniuses.

    Whether it is Jazz or Hip Hop they are copying it. Does she know that Black America despite being an enslaved population for more than 150 years and having only recently gained (46 yrs) full rights and citizenship in the the country that they help to build with their lives, dignity and free labour for said 150 years are the most success group of Black people on the planet. In no other country in the world is there a more successful group of Black people. Black America while not perfect is the Pinnacle of what Black success looks like.

    Yes, and about Black American women being the least desirable women in the world (I am paraphrasing) can I remind her that try as she may to separate herself from them (us) she cannot. I would like to remind her that it does not matter to whom she is married, where she is born or how perfectly she speaks English when she walks down the street everyone who sees her will identify her as a Black Woman first and foremost.

    It is not who you desire to be, it is not what you desire to look like it is simply what you are. A Black woman. Embrace it. Love it. Be proud to be it.

    Walk Good

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  • African Mami

    @ Lizz,

    @ Lizz,

    “the previous article was unbalanced, clutch always finds a way to draw dark aspects of Africans

    Unbalanced in what way? Clutch is not 100% there, but it does try to showcase Africa in the best light possible. There are several articles on here in which only positive vibes vibrate. Trust me, if all I read was HIV/AIDS, kwashiorkor, war, and poverty about Africa I wouldn’t be an ardent supporter of the site! TRUST.
    am not giving my sister a pass,but i think the owner of this site has a huge agenda and lastly I don’t understand why people excepect Africans to feel shame realy,why does a confident African bother you?
    It is one thing to be confident, it is another to be confidently misinformed and stereotypical. I would be up in arms, if somebody started stereotyping and generalizing my African peoples! The owners agenda is to promote healthy discourse amongst women of color.

    should we worship Americans,as much a you played a role in civil rights,our natural resource built your country,Africans have every right to benefit from America with no shame.”

    If you feel inclined to worship Americans, go ahead. You are neither required nor obligated to do so. What we have to do is show R.E.S.P.E.C.T. and not mouth off without substantiated stats/evidence to back up our opinions about certain matters! We would not be here, if our predecessors hadn’t paved the way for us. Let’s keep it 100.

    Peace and Blessings!

  • Amy.L

    agree w thalie, Blacks have suffered everywhere in the world…african countries only recently gained their freedom from colonialism and apartheid and are still suffering from the aftereffects as we speak. oppression, poverty, disease, Aids, orphanage, water shortage, war…the list goes on and on. This does not discredit any of the suffering caused by the slave trade. there is noone who has “conveniently” forgotten anything…pain is the same everywhere. just because ONE person said something stupid, doesn’t mean she represents all the african women in the world – this was her [misguided and uneducated] opinion.
    and the fact that blogs like this one would publicise a video by one woman and label it as a war of words between african women and african-american women is quite frankly appalling.

  • African Mami

    Shout outs to Gambia!!! alililililililililililili……

    Looking to relocate there. Wait. Do they have jobs in Africa?! Just kidding!

  • African woman

    I just discovered this site five minutes ago.Interesting article.I don’t know why the woman said what she said.It’s better to find out before we judge her. As an African some of my worst experiences in America have been with African American women and some men.It’s like they are ready to fight at every opportunity.When I see black people fighting each other and treating each other badly,it hurts me.Other people already do that to us.Why do we do it to one another?

  • ceecee

    I’ve struggled with writing this comment because I love Clutch and have been an ardent supporter for two-three years now.

    Why was the youtube video ever posted on Clutch in the first place, knowing how divisive it is. I don’t think it has any place in a website that is uplifting and inclusive of all black women regardless of their heritage. This article comes across as a weak apology or peace offering that fell short.

    Guess you can’t go back in time to undo the damage and I understand ratings matter but please don’t forget the purpose of Clutch.

  • Nia

    What was wrong with posting the video/article? And that video is one of the purposes of this site —– to create a dialogue about issues among us and work on the bridge.

    The article both this one and the original one with the video was positive and progressive. It asked us to bridge a gap not widen the divide.

    I think this one site has a lot of their back and tries their hardest to please everyone and they can’t. It’s nice we hold this site in high regard but they are only one site that is trying the best to do a job that lots of major sites for black women aren’t doing.

    Let’s read the articles and see what they say and push before coming down on them (which we should when it’s warranted) cause YOU didn’t think a piece should be posted. I was hoping they posted it – so we could discuss it.

    Why run away from a conversation that is happening daily? It’s an issue and if we keep brushing it under the rug then it’s always going to be here.

  • African Mami


    You talk of that article as as if it were the demise of you and Clutch. Clutch is a magazine whose mission as seen through my eyes, that uplifts and empowers the black woman.

    However, there are issues amongst us that need to be addressed of which we can’t be holding hands and doing kumbaya 24/7, 365. We need to seriously discourse, dissect and propose solutions in order for us to move past our differences and more importantly embrace them.

    The division you reference to should not be seen as negatively impacting on Clutch’s mission. Rather, we should see it as an opportunity to address these issues in an intelligent and mature manner. Of course there will be comments made that will make you want to jump through the computer and confront the person -just human nature- BUT for the most part, my afro and I believe the hairs of others still remain intact on their heads- no cat fights.

    There was no damage done. That particular article may have bolstered ratings, but I highly doubt Clutch is need of that at this particular juncture.

  • Lizz

    @african mami,if the purpose of the article was meant to produce a fair healing dialogue it shud have included videos of both nations …..what about Africans who suffer daily at the hands of black Americans,why wasnt that highlighted? they could have easily found videos of Americans who habour similar attitudes…..why is an African woman used as a scape goat,if you read closely Africans feel apologetic but american comments are continously slinging attacks at Africans…… I don’t buy this unity article…..we always victims or villians on this site.

  • Naiomi

    Trinidad and Tobago: where my heart and soul lies and will rest forever

  • ceecee

    I have the utmost respect for the Clutch team and I know how incredibly difficult it must be to deliver engaging and appealing articles daily. I’m not one of those commenters that attack Clutch and post disrespectful comments, I enjoy reading a lot of the articles and most of the comments I leave are positive ones.

    I personally feel the original article gave a wider audience to something negative that made some people say “Aha! I knew those Africans never liked us!”
    When that’s not the case.

  • Lynet

    I would just like to shout out to all my African descended sisters!!..forget about being culture specific, I love you all, and everyone is beautiful. We are each unique in ourselves and the beauty of our collective being is to be cherished..and we need to embrace that. Whatever features, complexion, hair-type, shape, language, accent,etc. we have or whatever culture, nation, city, faith, tribe, recent history we come from…we all come from the same circumstance, originally. So whoever and wherever you are, BIG UPS TO EACH N EVERY BLACK SIS!!LOVE YOURSELF AND YOUR SISTERS!

  • j

    Shoutout to my west indian ladies from JA, Trini and Barbados!

    PULL UP!!!!!!

  • Sandrine

    Ding, ding, ding, ding!

  • Samira

    I’m a Ghanaian woman married to a beautifull Dutch man. We should love all colours, cultures and people.

  • eve

    that video disgusted me. little does she know that when walking down the street someone could be having those same disgusting thoughts about HER just because of the color of her skin. she literally made zero sense.

    shoutin out that east africa! Kenya represent!

  • Elizabeth Pride

    I agree with you 200%, Samira. The interesting thing about the video is that the Ethiopian lady is married to an Asian man, so she, too, is involved in an interracial relationship. As a black woman who is going to marry a white man, I believe that it is extremely necessary to overcome prejudices and keep an open mind.

    I also live in the inner city, and am in no way anything like what the Ethiopian described. I speak proper English (as a matter of fact, I’m an English major), I’m quiet and dignified, not desperate, not dysfunctional, and have no desire to remain in this area for the rest of my life. Getting a college degree is going to help me join the ranks of the upwardly mobile; and the United States is the best country in which to achieve such a goal.

    Unfortunately, I can’t say that I fully disagree with everything that the Ethiopian said, because I’ve witnessed a great deal of it in this neighborhood for the past twenty years. What I do agree with is that black women and the black race in general have got to stop perpetuating negative stereotypes about our race, which will make it much more difficult for racists to justify their hatred towards us.

  • African Mami


    what about Africans who suffer daily at the hands of black Americans,why wasnt that highlighted?
    Hold up, what?! The purpose of the video was not to pit either community against the other. It was to highlight the NONSENSICAL division amongst us, and furthermore provide a platform in which we can discuss and solve this dilemma.

    they could have easily found videos of Americans who habour similar attitudes…..
    AGREE!! Google is their best friend and has been mine for a minute. But I honestly don’t see the point of having two videos just so that one group doesn’t feel ‘marginalized’.

    why is an African woman used as a scape goat,if you read closely Africans feel apologetic but american comments are continously slinging attacks at Africans…… I don’t buy this unity article…..we always victims or villians on this site.
    I don’t know of which Africans you talk of but personally I did not feel any sense of remorse or she is my African sister I need to support her! None at all. There were some comments that were vicious, but honestly for the most part I think all of us despite our diverging view points held our own classily.

    We are not always the victims or villains on this site Lizz, I am still here! They could do better in terms of content matter from the motherland!

    Peace and Blessings!

  • African Mami

    It’s quite interesting that another African sister on here shared the same sentiments as you. I didn’t feel that way.

    Clutch, your response is highly needed in this matter.

  • ms. complexity

    One time for Canada…AND Jamaica!!!!

  • Shabba

    This is self-hatred in it’s purest form. The longer we allow ourselves o be educated in this european construct, we will continue to believe all things African to be bad. I see all these whites running to the African continent, stealing our resources, and selling it back to us and we want to call that progress. The still have their himeland in europe, and they could be in the americas or africa for centuries, they all still refer to countries in europe as their homeland. Having a white man or woman between your legs, is not going to change anything. My ancestors were in the americas for over four hundred years, we lived on the same plantations with white people, even lived in their houses, cooked their food, breast fed their children, and even got raped by their men,and produces mulatto bastards, what progress did that bring us? Did it erase racism/white supremacy? No it did not. Marrying or sexing white will not improve your circumstances. What you’ll are doing is giving birth to children who will end up being the oppressors of the black race. All these so called bi-racial children are a buffer group between whites and blacks, once again pusing blacks further to the bottom of the socio-economic pile…Take a look at Halle Berry, Soledad O’Brien, Paula Patton, Tiger Woods, these are bi-racial children, who mate with white men and women, produce children who will call themselves white or bi-racial and continue the downward spiral of black people and their african connection…

  • African Mami

    @ Shabba,

    You talk of being in a European construct, but yet you go ahead and establish your own discriminatory construct, wanting to establish purity without mixing of races. How progressive of you.

  • Shabba

    @African Mami: You must be one of these africans in love with the european and believe they can do no wrong, and that they are some good europeans out there..The whiteman is the one who established the different category of race and decides who is white or non-white, I do not make that decision..I’m all for maintaining the integrity of my own ethnicity, why should I promote self genocide by allowing my decendants to breed out my gene pool? The law of nature is self preservation, I love myself and will not want three generations from now my decendants to not look like me, my husband, mother or father…

  • bernie

    I don’t think it’s arrogance either. Just celebration! You could have just added your shout out to AA women and left it at that. Lol.

    Also, I’m pretty sure most people can tell she’s ethiopian or from the horn of Africa. She looks so ethiopian.

  • Akua

    I’m representing the Gold Coast, Ghana. I was born in the U.S (NY). and when i grew up what saddened me was the ridicule I faced because of my last name, being called an “African booty scratcher” ( Still don’t understand that term, smh), and when i was asked where i was from, and being told I speak such “good english”. So, i understand having some feelings toward African-Americans, but now I feel like they are ignorant. It’s even sadder when Hispanic Sisters act like they never heard of Ghana, and still continue to think Africa is a country. I embrace my Sisters from all over the Diaspora, but it would be nice if ignorant stereotypes about Africans would stop being displayed. We come in all different colors and hair types. Lastly, to each his own, but a stop to ignorant comments about natural hair would be nice, I don’t rag on others if their hair is straight or weaved in.

  • African Mami

    So the whiteman came to Africa, raped us of our resources, instituted colorism amongst us which gave way to current tribal divide across the African nations and continues to conquer and divide us through globalization and interdependency. Do I have just cause for anger…ABSOLUTELY, do I engage in diatribe…HELL NO!
    I can’t generalize the whole Caucasian race based on what a few of them are engaged in.

    We can talk all day everyday about surpression and opression of our people, but this dialog is not leading us to the promised land. So instead of yapping all day about what the whiteman is doing to us, let us stop the talk and start walking the talk…okay so the whiteman is at the helm of XYZ corporation, I encourage you Shabba to start your own corporation and hire your people out of the misery of having to work for the whiteman and being unemployed because of the whiteman’s discriminatory business practices.

    Until then, I continue to be a lover of humanity, and a hater of prejudice without just cause.

  • VickyD

    When listening to the video, I was not surprised to hear this young lady’s comments. I endured such comments from many of my African sisters and brothers while attending a prominent HBCU. Walking the campus of this famous institution, I was initially thrilled to be among beautiful Black people from a myriad of nations spanning the globe. As black women raised in a predominately white city in upstate New York, I was elated to attend class with others who looked like me. However, as we engaged in candid discussions and shared philosophical views, my classmates’ stereotypical thoughts of African Americans were revealed. These views were surprisingly hurtful because I thought that blacks from Africa and other parts of the diaspora would understand the historical struggle, institutionalized racism, and related challenges that African Americans experienced. However, it seemed as though I was wrong. I discovered my classmates/friends felt the same way as did much of mainstream America; that all African Americans were ignorant, lazy sociopaths. I attributed their views to exported racism and shortsightedness. Nevertheless, I love the diversity within the African diaspora and embrace the cultural elements that I have retained from my African ancestors. To this end, I hope we take the time to learn from each other’s differences rather than judge one another due to a lack of understanding. The Bible says “My people will perish fropm the lack of knowledge.”

  • My thought as an African

    @ Tomi

    As a Nigerian (Igbo), I can say that the term akata is contextual. Yes, some people can and do use it as a derogatory term to refer to African-Americans or Africans they feel are lost. However at times, it can simply be used as a categorical word to differentiate. Is that positive or negative? Not sure because we are all seem content with grouping. The true definition is quite neutral – someone not at home. Thus, I believe the neutrality of the word allows for creative freedom for folks to use it in a negative, positive, or matter-of-fact manner.

    I too have been called an akata due to the fact that I am a Nigerian that has had multiple cultural experiences outside of Nigeria (home) which has shaped who I am. According to some, this fact means I have been away from home and the “Nigerian experience.” There are those that take my being away from home and calling me an akata to define me as being lost/wayward (negative); others define me as being lucky/exposed (positive); and some simply use the term to state that I have been away (fact). To all, I say whatever but understand that the term is being used to differentiate/categorize me, and the context is how I can tell the intent of the word. It can be simply used to state that I have somewhat of a different experience which is accurate. Yes, I am different as I am a Nigerian that grew up all over the world but no I am not that different because at the end of the day I am Nigerian. Again as I said, contextual – depends on how it’s used, the person using the word/intent, and your reaction to the word based on past experience.

    Lastly (off topic) but I am sure you are aware that while Igbo, Yoruba, Hausa are the major ethic groups, you have those that are quite significant in numbers such as the edos, ijaws, fulanis etc. So the other 247 groups you refer to are significant, do not just reside in Nigeria alone and I am sure the people that identify with the group may know a thing or two about Nigeria/its lingo. Knowledge is not just restricted to those in the 3 largest group.

    - Contribution to the overall discussion -

    At the end of the day, we are all not going to love everyone. Ignorance is an abundant natural resource that we can only hope will be depleted as time goes by. We always find a way to create the “other/them” within a given group of people. We have constructed the “other/them” within the human race, the global black community, the black community in the USA, Nigeria, Igbo/Yoruba land etc. Knowing this fact, it is best that we all associate ourselves with members of the “other” group and learn by ourselves that these so called “others” we speak off are simply humans just like us trying to navigate life. Yes, he or she may have some negative/positive stereotypical characteristics but that does not make up the majority of their personality; no one is perfect. Also we need to realize that the world is a big place and the random 300 chinese people we have met do not represent the 1 billion Chinese folks out there. Unfortunately some people are set in their ways but those that understand that we are different (different is not good or bad) but also very similar (not good or bad either) will have an easier time with human relationships. Those that choose not to deal with people that are different from themselves and rather choose to spread hate are simply missing out on the wonderfulness that is the human race.

  • Belle

    Wait. No shout out to the Pearl of the Caribbean? Sak Pase to all my Haitian women! There is nothing like a Bel Fanm Kreyol!

  • Marsha Alexander

    I want to send a big shout out to all Panamanians out there.
    Hola pana!

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