I think I could have saved myself a lot of heartbreak, if I had just listened to some old fashioned advice on love. But when it was being disseminated by ladies who did tea and wore church hats wider than a Tuscan sunset, the advice of my elders did not seem wholly applicable to my ventures in modern love.
As I’ve gotten older and gone through several of those episodes, I’ve realized that there are some truths about love that will always be true. And so in licking my wounds, here are some of those adages, those bits of old soul wisdom, that will apply to love from now to years to come.
“If a man wants you, he will let you know.”
No matter how many magazines or online quizzes tell you that the man you’re crushing on may just be playing hard to get, the fact remains that a man who wants a woman will let her know. This is not to say that woman should never approach, but that if you find yourself chasing- you’re doing something wrong.
“If he’s not sure if he wants to meet your family, he’s not sure about staying in your life.”
As I write this, I am smiling thinking about the boys who trembled up steps to shake hands with my father. Despite his normally chipper demeanor, my dad put on burly man act when meeting any young man who picked me up at the house. In some ways the process of adulthood has made the meet easier to relegate from a necessity to a formality. But if the man your life is not trying to meet the people who brought you into this world- then odds are he’s not planning to stick around for that much longer.
“Let the man, be a man.”
This one is tough because I can picture Steve Harvey saying it with great enthusiasm in a suit with infinite buttons. But while it’s a tough pill to swallow- there is still in this day and age, good reason why you should let the man in your life be the man of the relationship. Of course there are differing economic and societal shifts to relationships today but letting the man be the emotional protector is a role we should not relinquish too soon.
What are some pieces of advice that have stuck with you through the years? Tell us, Clutchettes and share your oldies but goodies with us!