Increasingly, the Internet has become an integral part of our lives. From obsessively checking blogs, updating Facebook with status notes and pictures, and talking with our friends and followers on Twitter, our lives are taking place online. However, with some much of what we do happening on the interwebs, some still feel it’s taboo to meet a potential love match online.

But why?

Although sites like Match.com, BlackPeopleMeet.com, OkCupid and EHarmony have thousands (maybe even millions) of members, many of my single friends haven’t employed the power of the web to find a partner. Or at least they haven’t admitted it.

Last night, I was talking with my girl when she casually mentioned that she was “talking to” an older man. After some prodding about exactly how old he was (she’s 31, he’s 42), what he did for a living, is he cool, and how they met, she finally admitted that they’d met online on the dating site OkCupid.

Although she’d been out on a date with this man, and she’s obviously diggin’ him, she waited a while to tell me about him, I assume, because they met on a dating site. Usually, we text each other like teenagers whenever we meet a fine brotha we’d like to get to know, but she held this one close to the vest.

I began to wonder if many of us are missing out on great guys (or girls) because we aren’t working our social networks to our advantage. I also wondered if my friend didn’t tell me about her potential boo because she met him online.

So Clutchettes and Gents, tell me…Is online dating still taboo? Have you tried it? Would you try it?

Let’s talk about it.

 

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  • Mi

    I’ve tried it briefly a number of times, and honestly, the whole thing feels extremely artificial to me–and if I really wanted to use brutal honesty, I’d say I dislike online dating because these people tend to be sort of the “runts” of the litter. It’s for the lazy, the passive, the indecisive, the marginally attractive and people whom I consider to have a Burger King mentality about dating and whom they communicate with. You start to realize how limited these people are, simply because they are incessantly trying to find someone entirely too remote. Look at a typical female’s profile especially, you’ll get a pretty clear idea of what I mean….

    As a guy though, I come to find one thing is true, most women on these sites are usually are overweight/out of shape, marginally attractive/awkward looking (the majority I would rate 5’s at best…think Maggie Gyllenhaal or Karen-O), has kids already, or just has an unattractive disposition/outlook, and sometimes (even many times) a combination of all of the above. All these types are the polar opposites of the 4 things I look for. Therefore, I forged together the confidence I once had, cancelled any account I may have been active on (including Facebook!) and started talking to girls in my daily life again; going on walks around my city or shopping etc.
    “Higher Risk, Higher Return” as they say–the old fashioned way works MUCH better in my case.