Yesterday, Negro Twitter and the blogs went HAM over the Joe Budden vs. Esther Baxter spat. For those that don’t follow such foolishness (like me), apparently Joe is feeling some kind of way about their break up and threatened to post naked pictures of Esther’s ladyparts on the web. Understandably, she wasn’t having it, and an (fairly vicious) argument ensued.
While I won’t recap the enter thing (you can see the tweets here), an interesting thing came out of the whole ordeal. Esther accused Joe of not only being physically abusive during their relationship, but she also hinted that Budden was responsible for her miscarriage.
Although I have no idea who is telling the truth, one thing is clear, there is nothing to joke about when it comes to relationship violence, as Budden seems to think.
Recently, Glamour Magazine decided to do something about the violence against women and launched the “Tell Somebody” Campaign to combat the problem.
Glamour’s “Tell Somebody” Campaign was inspired by the death of University of Virginia student, Yeardley Love and other women who have been killed at the hands of a lover.
The mag’s website explains:
“Here’s the backstory. One year ago today, 22-year-old University of Virginia student Yeardley Love was found dead in her apartment; her boyfriend later told police he’d shaken her so hard her head repeatedly hit the wall. At the time, Glamour reported on the tragedy in an editorial—and then we watched as, over the course of the next months, similar stories hit our front pages and TV screens. There was the swimsuit designer Sylvie Cachay, 33, strangled and abandoned in a hotel bathroom, allegedly by her boyfriend; Samantha Miller, 34, shot in the head in Tennessee; Courtney Delano, 19, killed in Michigan while six months pregnant; and on and on and on—a seemingly endless series of young women killed, reportedly by the men they were involved with.
“The pattern seems almost unbelievable: How, in this day and age, can abusive relationships still be so common? Aren’t we a generation that grew up being told that men should never lay a hand on women?”
The statistics are quite alarming. Despite living in a time in which many women have the more access, opportunities, and education than those who have come before, many of us find ourselves being abused by a partner.
While many think domestic abuse issues typically involve married couples, Glamour’s study tells a different story.
“‘Among women who are dating—as opposed to married—the homicide rate is climbing.’ And an exclusive Glamour/Harris Interactive survey of more than 2,500 women confirms how common the brutality is: A full 29 percent of respondents said they’d been in an abusive relationship—and an additional 30 percent said they hadn’t, but then went on to acknowledge that at some point they’d been degraded; threatened with a gun or knife; or otherwise harmed by a partner.”
So what can be done to stem this tide? Aside from encouraging women to leave their abusers, Glamour’s “Tell Somebody” campaign is raising money to help keep the nation’s largest domestic hotline open 24/7. Sadly, last year 83,027 calls went unanswered due to underfunding, and Glamour and the Avon Foundation for Women hope to change that.
So crack up your cell phone and text, tweet, and Facebook about the “Tell Somebody” campaign.
Have you ever been a victim of relationship violence? How did you make it out?