Yesterday, Negro Twitter and the blogs went HAM over the Joe Budden vs. Esther Baxter spat. For those that don’t follow such foolishness (like me), apparently Joe is feeling some kind of way about their break up and threatened to post naked pictures of Esther’s ladyparts on the web. Understandably, she wasn’t having it, and an (fairly vicious) argument ensued.

While I won’t recap the enter thing (you can see the tweets here), an interesting thing came out of the whole ordeal. Esther accused Joe of not only being physically abusive during their relationship, but she also hinted that Budden was responsible for her miscarriage.

Although I have no idea who is telling the truth, one thing is clear, there is nothing to joke about when it comes to relationship violence, as Budden seems to think.

Recently, Glamour Magazine decided to do something about the violence against women and launched the “Tell Somebody” Campaign to combat the problem.

Glamour’sTell Somebody” Campaign was inspired by the death of University of Virginia student, Yeardley Love and other women who have been killed at the hands of a lover.

The mag’s website explains:

“Here’s the backstory. One year ago today, 22-year-old University of Virginia student Yeardley Love was found dead in her apartment; her boyfriend later told police he’d shaken her so hard her head repeatedly hit the wall. At the time, Glamour reported on the tragedy in an editorial—and then we watched as, over the course of the next months, similar stories hit our front pages and TV screens. There was the swimsuit designer Sylvie Cachay, 33, strangled and abandoned in a hotel bathroom, allegedly by her boyfriend; Samantha Miller, 34, shot in the head in Tennessee; Courtney Delano, 19, killed in Michigan while six months pregnant; and on and on and on—a seemingly endless series of young women killed, reportedly by the men they were involved with.

“The pattern seems almost unbelievable: How, in this day and age, can abusive relationships still be so common? Aren’t we a generation that grew up being told that men should never lay a hand on women?”

The statistics are quite alarming. Despite living in a time in which many women have the more access, opportunities, and education than those who have come before, many of us find ourselves being abused by a partner.

While many think domestic abuse issues typically involve married couples, Glamour’s study tells a different story.

“‘Among women who are dating—as opposed to married—the homicide rate is climbing.’ And an exclusive Glamour/Harris Interactive survey of more than 2,500 women confirms how common the brutality is: A full 29 percent of respondents said they’d been in an abusive relationship—and an additional 30 percent said they hadn’t, but then went on to acknowledge that at some point they’d been degraded; threatened with a gun or knife; or otherwise harmed by a partner.

So what can be done to stem this tide? Aside from encouraging women to leave their abusers, Glamour’s “Tell Somebody” campaign is raising money to help keep the nation’s largest domestic hotline open 24/7. Sadly, last year 83,027 calls went unanswered due to underfunding, and Glamour and the Avon Foundation for Women hope to change that.

So crack up your cell phone and text, tweet, and Facebook about the “Tell Somebody” campaign.

Have you ever been a victim of relationship violence? How did you make it out?

  • http://theretronatural.blogspot.com The Retro Natural

    Fortunately, I’ve never been in an abusive relationship..I’ve never even been cheated on. Some would call me lucky but I really to have high standards and one of those high as standards has to do with someone’s energy. If the energy is foul or it it’s great and it shifts to foul/aggressive/violent, I’m leaving. It’s never gotten to that point because I think I’m pretty good at gauging people’s energy upfront. That being said, people can and do charm ya and then change on ya years down the road but I think there are signs we have to look for. We have to be smart about it and not let “little things” slide. I hear too often, “I should have listened to myself when he/she…” Listen to that voice people, it’s not worth the hurt/pain.

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  • j

    Joe Budden is not a man. He should not have put that level personal info on twitter or anywhere on the internet. He was trying his best to degrade her and that’s shameful for a man . . . which HE is not.

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  • TR

    Be honest. Who is surprised Joe Budden is abusive? His music is violent, and he has the image to match. He has had run ins with several other rappers. Sometimes people are exactly who they say they are. He deserves every bit of the criticism he is getting. However, in some cases, women need to use better judgment. People who use violent speech and have violent associates are more than likely violent themselves. Why wait for them to confirm it? Remember Mack 10 and T-Boz? Dude was an OG blood from Inglewood with a history of violence. She still hooked up with him. And we see how that turned out. Ladies, don’t throw your standards away.

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  • Brittany GIRL

    That is just horrible that someone who is supposed to love and honor you would do such a thing. If I even see a hint at warning signs that a man is going to start going off the deep end. I know violence is bad , but i’m even worse and I know what I would do if any man though himself so bold as to lay his hands on me. None of that! In still in high scholl and I see guys all of the time verbally abuse their girlfriends. Physical abuse happens too. It just makes me grind my teeth when I see it because NO ONE ( man or woman) should be treated like that!

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