We’ve all heard the phrase “size matters,” but typically when it’s used we are discussing men. Well, a new survey conducted by AskMen and Cosmopolitan found that half of the men surveyed would leave their partner if she gained weight.
Approximately 70, 000 men and women participated in the survey, which also asked about infidelity, paying for dates, digital infidelity, and what you’d like to change about your partner.
While half of the men surveyed said they’d ditch a partner who packed on extra pounds, only 20-percent of women admitted they’d do the same.
Although these results may be shocking (Or hurtful? I mean, what happened to unconditional love?), they aren’t new. Last month researchers at the University of Michigan found that both men and women were more satisfied with their marriage when the wife had a lower body mass index than her husband. Why? Researchers weren’t quite sure, but I’d wager it has a lot to do with how we are socialized. We are brought up with the notion that men are supposed to be the dominant, masculine ones, while women are supposed to be submissive and feminine. Femininity isn’t usually depicted with larger women. They are either seen as manly (muscular, strong, tough) or unattractive (overweight). Until recently there has been little in between.
Oh and just in case you weren’t worried about your weight enough, yet another survey conducted earlier this year found that women who carry around an extra 25 pounds or more earn less money–$13,847 to be exact—than their skinnier counterparts.
Before you start obsessive over your weight, however, researches for Dove, the soap giant, found that worrying too much about your weight can hurt your career. So I guess we’re damned if we do, and damned if we don’t.
With all of the conflicting reports, the mounting pressure for women to adhere to a specific standard of beauty, and our own insecurities, it’s easy to begin to feel overwhelmed. But don’t. As long as you’re happy, staying (or becoming) healthy, and working what you got, you’ll be fine.