After years of being out of the dating game, I recently returned only to find out that things have apparently changed.
A few months ago I met a man while I was out at a lounge. After dancing all night, he came up, chatted me up, and asked for my number. He was cute and funny, so I thought, “What the heck?” He ended up texting me on the way home, just to make sure I made it safely, which I thought was sweet. The next day he called and we made very loose plans to hang out…soon, but nothing was set in stone.
Over the course of the next few weeks we played phone and text tag, hung out once, but never actually went on a date. Each time we’d talk, I’d push him to set concrete plans, but he’d just suggest I come to his house to “hang out.” Suspicious of his motives (why wouldn’t you want to go OUTSIDE?), I deleted his number and brushed it off as one of those things.
But I guess he didn’t forget about me.
Recently, dude’s been reaching out and this time it seems he wants to go out. Last week he asked if I wanted to see a movie, but I already had plans. After deciding that I’d give him another shot, I sent him a text the other day saying I wanted to see the new Tribe Called Quest film and asked if he wanted to go with. His response? “It’s up to you.” Umm, ok. So I asked him what time or place would be better for him. Again he says, “It’s up to you.”
While I enjoy being in charge sometimes, I operate under the impression that if you asked me out, you should be the one planning the festivities. Or…is that not how it goes these days? And…what happened to men taking the lead sometime?