It seems like Amber Rose can’t win. After a “life-changing” trip to Ghana to host the Vodafone 020 Music Festival, Rose twitted photos of herself in some of the country’s poorest areas (and with a group of school girls she had spoken to). She was apparently moved by what she’d seen, and mistakenly commented that Ghana had extreme wealth and abject poverty, but no middle class. She was immediately taken to task by many Ghanaians who felt her comments painted a skewed picture of their country. One Ghanaian wrote a letter to the editor of GhanaCelebrities.com to express her anger with Rose’ comments. The reader was extremely critical of Rose saying, “the only decent credibility this chick carries around is ‘ex-girlfriend of Kanye West.’” While Amber’s comments were misguided, many Americans/Westerners have made similarly wrong observations before. So are people just overly critical because it’s Amber Rose, a woman many find easy to criticize?

On her blog, WhoSay, Amber took some time to respond to her critics and explain her misguided comments.

Rose said:

“U do something positive in this industry u get scrutinized I really came to the conclusion that its not even about me its the fact that I’m a woman. Men in the entertainment industry are praised constantly for their ” wrong doings”. if ur a drug dealer and u took care of ur family before ur fame everyone understands. If u get shot in the mist of u hustling ur cool as fuck. If a mans naked pics hit the internet ppl think its cute or funny then just talk about how big he is. A Man can date 20 models at the same time and he is respected by the world and if a girl does it she’s a disgusting whore and a “Star Fucker” Women get destroyed by the media and our peers constantly but I am writing this to specifically speak about myslf. Regardless of the fact I dated Kanye for 2 years or the fact I was a stripper at 15 years old or that my most private pics were stolen from me and a new batch hit the internet every week, I am a human being. I’m a daughter, a best friend, a great wife and a all around good person.”

Along with making questionable comments about Ghana’s class system, Rose also came under fire for speaking to a group of school girls. Many wondered why Rose was allowed to speak to young girls, considering her past. However, Rose says she was the perfect person to speak to the girls because she understands what they’re going through.

She wrote:

“I keep my life positive and I stay strong every time my ex talks about me in his songs or when these blogs tell nothing but lies about me or when ppl say that I shouldn’t be speaking to young girls in Africa. Why wouldn’t I speak to those girls? I AM West African* just like them, I grew up poor just like them, most of those girls quit school to take care of their families JUST LIKE I DID. So how the hell do they not relate to my life and I theirs??? Talking to those young girls wasn’t a job for me feeding those kids wasn’t a job for me it wasn’t for publicity and I didn’t get paid to do it. I went there cuz I LOVE to help ppl.”

Rose continues by saying she’s been nothing but positive and hasn’t engaged in the mindless bashing of others. To her credit, whenever she’s been talked about negatively, she seems to respond with positivity. In her post, she also mentioned that, although she says she’s all about “female empowerment,” her biggest critics are women.

“And the one thing that is extremely upsetting is the fact that woman criticize me more then men do. Look at yourselves before u criticize someone u don’t know Look at the mistakes you’ve made in ur life. ppl are so negative it’s ridiculous But I will continue to be positive, Loving and all about women empowerment.”

For some reason, I like Amber Rose. She wears her heart on her sleeve, she loves her man and doesn’t care who knows, and despite what many say about her, she seems oddly optimistic and nice. Has Rose had the best life and made all of the right decisions? Most certainly not. But her story–with all of its trials and triumphs–is one many can both relate to and learn from.

 

What do you think? Are people just too hard on Amber Rose or does she bring it on herself? Do you think women are harder on other women as Amber asserts? Sound off!

 

*Amber Rose has said she is biracial and of Italian and Cape Verdean descent.

 

36 Comments

  1. Rest.

    Hon it sounds like you have some deeply rooted problems. This woman is in a relationship with a (somewhat) high profile celebrity. Why wouldn’t all of her life be on public display? She wasn’t the artist she was just invovled with them. Some pervert took very private photos of her and decided to spread them all over the internet. I haven’t seen them and I have no desire to. Kanye West has leaked photos of himself on the internet and is anyone crying foul about that? People are devoting so much negative energy to tearing her down. The fact that I even have to dicuss this with you bothers me.
    Would you rather her stay on the pole living in squalor or would you like to see black women do well and overcome their faults. To say you DON’T TRUST BLACK PEOPLE is a problem for me. I love who I am. I love my people. I recognize the struggles we have had and it gives me great joy to see us accomplich something good. Amber Rose is African so I’m glad to see her going to help in a place she considers home instead of going somewhere and volunteering for public approval.
    It is the parents’ responsibility to raise their child not a celebrity’s. Amber Rose is trying to use something other than her face and body to make a change so why tear her down for something in her past. You just sound bitter to me… Tell our young black women everyday that they are beautiful, tell them that their mind and spirits are valuable. Hug them. Tell them you love them. Tell them it’s OKAY to make mistakes so long as you try to correct them. We put so much pressure on our black youth they have to be one thing our another. If they aren’t the best or breaking new ground for black people we want to dismiss them or pay them no mind. I see it on Clutch Magazine alomst everytime is visit. We ask for stimulating articles about black women changing lives or excelling in various fields yet some of the highest read/commented articles are always about some scandal or something in entertainment. That’s a problem. If you want your daughters to aspire to be the next expert in binary fission quit constantly talking about celebrities. Give your kid a book on biology or make it interesting to them. Stop letting them media raise your kids and uplift our black people when they are trying to do right.

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  2. She’s trying, I just hope it’s coming from the right place.

    SN: Why did she use texting grammar to address an issue she seemed to feel so passionate about? If you want people to take you seriously you should take yourself seriously…I’m just saying…

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    • secret ninja

      okay Grammer Police, you should use your Master’s Degree in English to actually help someone rather than critique a comment on the internet.

      #it’snotthatserious

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  3. Sands

    I have nothing against Amber Rose personally but I cannot imagine an instance where an ex stripper and celebrity girlfriend would be invited to talk to school children in the U.K (where I live) I can’t speak for the U.S.A so I can only assume.

    It’s one rule for the West and another for everywhere else. Ghanaians are supposed to be grateful this random woman is shedding light on their issues when she has never done anything for humanitarian issues in her own country? Errm ok. And as for giving the impoverished a voice she has generated more publicity for herself and the people she visited will be forgotten about as soon as she leaves. Kudos to her for trying to do something important, she clearly cares about what people think and it’s going to take a while for us to believe she’s serious.

    Also the whole “Black women are mean spirited and jealous” argument is getting old. I would feel the same about any D list celeb thinking they can offer incite into a country they know nothing about.

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  4. Perverted Alchemist

    Amber Rose thinks she’s attacked by her detractors because she’s a woman? No, sweetie, try again please. How about the fact that her only claim to fame is who she is sleeping with- a la Kim Kardashian? How is a person supposed to take her seriously when all she amounts to is a famous guy’s beatpiece?

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