You know the vows, “for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part”? Well, a new study published by Brigham Young University found that couples who focused too heavily on “for richer” are more likely to break up.

The study surveyed 1700 couples and found that those who placed a lot of value on spending money and acquiring things tended to have “less satisfying and stable” marriages.

Jason Carroll, a BYU professor of family life in Provo, Utah, and lead author of the study, said: “Our study found that materialism was associated with spouses having lower levels of responsiveness and less emotional maturity. Materialism was also linked to less effective communication, higher levels of negative conflict, lower relationship satisfaction, and less marriage stability.”

Although materialism itself might not cause relationships to spontaneously combust, it might signal a deeper issue such as narcism, childhood neglect, or other unidentified issues that are attached to people who place a high value on things.

So, if your boo is materialistic should you run? Not so fast. According to  Laura Frame, assistant professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, couples who have different values may balance each other out.

Frame said: “Spouses that are mismatched on materialism may do better in their relationships than spouses with shared materialistic values because at least one spouse may possess more ‘other-centeredness’ and ’emotional readiness.”

Have you ever dated a materialistic person? How did it work out? 

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  • It’s all about balance

    I’m dating somone who I believe isn’t necessarily materialist but I do believe we have different attitudes about money and I think that couples who have different prespectives on the value of money need to have honest discussions about money before problems surface. For example, one person in the relationship could be more of a spender and the other might be a saver and this could be a potential issue. I don’t believe theres a problem in wanting nice things and living a comfortable lifestyle but I do beleve couples should spend their money wisely, be financial stewards over their incomes and make sure their not living above their means. It’s all about balance and if your with someone who is extreme with their spending and is irrational about what they feel they want vs. need, then a red flag should go up and a serious discussion needs to occur about coming to a middle ground when the two incomes come together in a marriage.

  • African Mami

    Mismatched values on financial matters= a sound relationship

    I DO NOT for a second buy that ideal. Whilst the findings may have found the contrary to be true, this was research in which there were controlled variances. As I read the “Can’t Buy Love: Materialism Kills Marriages” on the abc website, it was noted that:

    Relationships usually fair better when partners share priorities and values

    How then can a relationship fair better when African Mami is highly materialistic and her Mandigo Warrior is frugal? Will that not fray our relationship at its seams and bring about tension? And oh mi gosh, lead to divorce?!

    Although this research was conducted by Harvard professors, and the institution’s prestige further lends credence to findings…..I am a DOUBTING THOMAS on this one.

    • sunshyne84

      Right! That doesn’t make any sense. Now if both of yall have a tendency to go shopping before the bills are due then you might have a problem, but even if you both are spenders if you are paying the bills first it might not be much of an issue.

    • JC

      how are you bolding you text?

  • that’s a funny way of saying have you ever dated a materialistic person.. PROJECTION ANYONE? that’s an oxymoron; most if not all American women are materialistic

  • lalalalala

    yikes! girl in the pic needs to relax before she snaps her own neck, lol!

    • Trini

      HAHHA!

      I was wondering if I was the only one thinking that!

  • E.M.S.

    There’s nothing wrong with wanting nicer things in life. Likewise, there is nothing wrong with being practical either. It’s better to have opposites attract in this case because you teach each other how to look at things from the other side.