You know the vows, “for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part”? Well, a new study published by Brigham Young University found that couples who focused too heavily on “for richer” are more likely to break up.
The study surveyed 1700 couples and found that those who placed a lot of value on spending money and acquiring things tended to have “less satisfying and stable” marriages.
Jason Carroll, a BYU professor of family life in Provo, Utah, and lead author of the study, said: “Our study found that materialism was associated with spouses having lower levels of responsiveness and less emotional maturity. Materialism was also linked to less effective communication, higher levels of negative conflict, lower relationship satisfaction, and less marriage stability.”
Although materialism itself might not cause relationships to spontaneously combust, it might signal a deeper issue such as narcism, childhood neglect, or other unidentified issues that are attached to people who place a high value on things.
So, if your boo is materialistic should you run? Not so fast. According to Laura Frame, assistant professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, couples who have different values may balance each other out.
Frame said: “Spouses that are mismatched on materialism may do better in their relationships than spouses with shared materialistic values because at least one spouse may possess more ‘other-centeredness’ and ’emotional readiness.”
Have you ever dated a materialistic person? How did it work out?