Orlando Magic center, Dwight Howard, sat down with Esquire to talk about the importance of fatherhood and that mothers are to blame for why NBA fathers don’t get to spend more time with their children. It’s funny to me how Howard placed a gag order on the mother of his son, Royce Reed, yet he can speak freely about his past and present relationship with her. It still boggles my mind as to how she remained on “Basketball Wives” when she wasn’t able to talk about her relationship with Howard. But I digress. Here is what Howard had to say about being a dad:
Esquire: I know it’s a subject you haven’t wanted to talk about publicly, but is fatherhood a part of your life?
DH: It’s very important. Hopefully me and my son’s mom will come to a better agreement for my son. When I do see him, we have the best time in the world. He acts just like me. He tries to run like me. He looks back and smiles like me. Fatherhood is great and it will get better. He’s young. He’s gonna need his father in his life. People say you don’t need a father to be successful. I take offense to that. I had an argument with my mom about Father’s Day and why it’s not celebrated like Mother’s Day.
Esquire: I’ve been around the NBA enough as a writer to see the women who would give anything just to get impregnated. And I’ve seen the men who didn’t care how many kids they had in how many different places, just as long as they had someone to f**k on the road. Pardon my French.
DH: I understand. With some of my teammates, they try so hard to be around their kid, and then the mother of their child makes it so hard. A lot of guys just say, “I’m not gonna deal with it.”
Esquire: It’s always the kids who pay the price.
DH: I would never, ever desert my child. A lot of my friends didn’t have fathers growing up, and they were very upset that their fathers weren’t around. I was lucky to have mine around.
Do you agree with fathers saying, “I’m not gonna deal with it,” when it comes to seeing their children because the mothers make it hard or should they fight as hard as possible to spend time with their kids?