
We all saw the now famous “Real Housewives of Atlanta” episode where Ms. NeNe Leakes declared to the world that she is “very rich bitch.” Shortly after the episode aired Leakes took to the Twitttersphere to once again remind us of her wealth, tweeting about her 10-piece Louis Vuitton collection and pointing out that the used car she bought on the show for her eldest son was in fact his second car.
So you fancy huh NeNe? Or at least that’s what the made for TV reality star wants us to think.
After watching the episode I couldn’t help but think about all of the “NeNe’s” of the world with a similar disposition. You know the types, the label lusters, the one-uppers who are fabulous in their own minds. They opt to buy the purse smothered with the words “Gucci” or “Coach” (no offense to you signature bag lovers) over the classic leather bag, and find a strange, orgasmic-like pleasure in the fact that they’re doing well and everyone knows it.
Ladies why some of us feel the need to wear our success on our sleeves I do don’t know. If you got it, please don’t flaunt it. If you have to remind people that you are the Joneses then chances are you’re probably not. Do you really think that people with real money are spending their time letting us know they have money or are they too busy making and playing with their millions to even care about what the world thinks. When did the personal satisfaction of you knowing you’re doing well not become enough?
Nowadays it’s not sufficient to simply buy a pair of Louboutin’s, it’s become customary to post the photos on Facebook, Twitter and any other place you’re bound to garner a little bit of attention. You revel in the fact that the world now knows that you too can buy a $1,500 pair of shoes (at least this month). But braggers beware, my mother always said when you have to tell people what you have it’s because you’ve most likely never had anything nice.
I get it; you work hard, finally have some extra money in your bank account and want everyone to be as happy for you as you are of yourself. But gloating is a helluva durg and one that I’ve fallen victim to more times than I’d like to admit. Last year when I bought an iPad I felt it was my obligatory right to immediately update my Facebook status after leaving the checkout counter. And I must admit that people’s congratulatory and somewhat envious comments were a temporary ego booster.
But the mark of a true diva isn’t the amount of labels in her closet or the number of zeroes in her bank account; it’s the fact that the world recognizes her as a diva without her ever having to flaunt a thing.
While modesty is certainly a learned behavior, it’s also an art form we all must acquire if we hope to achieve true prosperity someday.
Clutchettes we want to hear from you. Is it okay to brag or should you keep your accomplishments to yourself?
Love this article!!!
I also love this article. I see nothing wrong with you telling people that you have an iPad. If you are genuinely happy about a purchase and you want to share your happiness with others, I personally see no harm in that. Many of us work hard and reward ourselves…some of us are lucky enough to receive one as a gift. Obviously, it was a big deal and you appreciated being able to purchase what you consider to be a quality item. If I could buy one today, I would be on the phone with my mom or best friend as soon as I got home saying, “Guess what I got today!!!” And I would be looking forward to getting together so that she and/or my mom could play with it! LOL. It’s okay to be happy about something and share it with people we like, love…If they like and/or love us, they will be happy for us.
However, if your purchases are driven by the idea that you want to one-up someone and when you share news of a purchase, your biggest hope is that others will be jealous, then that is a problem. It’s also a problem if you are buying something that you cannot afford as an attempt to impress others. Nene has a problem: she’s very insecure. She seems to have this need to convince others that she has so much, when really, she’ll never have enough. It’s obviously not enough for her to have money and be happy…She’s not happy unless others know that she’s “rich” and she will not rest until others are convinced. That’s a heavy burden!
I truly enjoyed this article. There is nothing wrong with obtain are wanting nice things in life. We should reward ourselves for the hard work, but bragging or boasting because you have 1200 bag or pair shoes is not a classic look. I feel like a million dollar with my cheap Target bag. It all about the person behind the success let that defined your character not price tag or labels. NeNe’s of the world must remember your success is blessing and not a guarantee treat it as such. Stay blessed.
Love this article. A broke dog will holla!
Nene got bout seven more minutes of fame to stretch.
I’m really appalled that there are women out here that look up to her let alone use her for a measuring stick of anything. This women throws others under the bus as a part of her MO. Hopefully she’ll be in the “I love NY” bin of crickets soon…
Whatever happened to NY? Chance? Chase? And all those other for hire negro goons?
But back to Ms. Nene. When did we forget that bragging was always about emotional emptiness?
NeNe is an embarrassment to black women. If you want to flaunt your wealth, buy up some real estate in the hood and improve a neighborhood.
This was a great story but what I don’t understand is. She’s soooo rich but her son was wearing USA Polo and Not Ralph Lauren POLO who does that Oh NeNe Leakes. Chile boo! Get over yourself!