Future Hall of Fame baller, Shaquille O’Neal has never had a problem speaking his mind. The legendary big man is gearing up for the release of his mew memoir and along with detailing his public spat with Lakers’ star Kobe Bryant, it’s Shaq’s revelations about his relationship with his ex-wife Shaunie that have folks talking.

Although they seemed like a happy couple, the two divorced amid rampant infidelity accusations. In his book, Shaq admits to cheating on his wife several times throughout their marriage, but says he did so in a respectful way.

“At one time my ex-wife Shaunie and I were happy, but I admit it–I was a guy. I was a guy with too many options. Choosing to be with some of those women, well, that’s on me. In my mind, I never did it disrespectfully, but obviously I shouldn’t have done it all.”

Now that he’s retired, and apparently grown up, Shaq said he’s learned from his cheating ways.

“You know as well as I do relationships are about maintaining… It wasn’t the big stuff, it was the small stuff, and that’s my fault. I had things to do. I was trying to win, trying to make some money. I admit I wasn’t the best partner. I just didn’t know how. I’m learning now.” 

I guess Shaq’s newfound enlightenment works out for his new woman, Hoopz (they are rumored to be married). But will he remain faithful? Considering Shaq is still famous, and I assume will still be on scene, he’ll still have plenty of options to choose from. Then what?

Reading Shaq talk about being unfaithful because he just had too many options to pass up made me think about Chris Rock’s words in his comedy special “Bigger and Blacker.” During the show, Rock said, “A man will be a man. A man is only as faithful as his options. That’s how faithful a man is, no more, no less.”

Although Rock was making a joke, I can’t help but wonder if there is truth in his statement.

Clutchettes and Gents do you think people (especially men) are only as faithful as their options? What does that say about our relationships?

Let’s talk about it! 

  • jen

    I got the nationally representative stats from the Love & Lust MSNBC survey that included something like 10,000 participants (and it was consistent with at least a dozen others I had seen over a period of about 4 years, the self-reported rate for American men hovers around 22%). The problem is that with white men they don’t really isolate them from the other races, which means that the numbers might be slightly inflated given the inclusion of other races. I got the stats on black men nationally representative stats from a novel on the state of black matrimony and why black women are more likely to file for divorce than white women, and there was a recent article I had read in which the woman they interviewed (a black woman, this was on a black site, a competitor of this one) merely said, “Hispanic men have similar rates to black men.” Given that black men’s self-reported marital infidelity rate is 44%, that would tell me that Hispanic men’s are also roughly double that of white men’s.

  • Ravi

    you can find numbers to say whatever you want. every website that addresses this is based on equally specious data from surveys where people self report. That’s why you see the insane amount of variance. Cheaters might not be the most truthful of people around, so why is anyone giving credence to numbers dependent on the veracity of cheaters.

    on my first google search i found the following site:


    black men were high on the list but not the highest, and not very far off from “American” men (certainly not twice as high as white men in general).

  • Flo

    That’s exactly what I was trying to figure out. The respectful vs. disrespectful.

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