Future Hall of Fame baller, Shaquille O’Neal has never had a problem speaking his mind. The legendary big man is gearing up for the release of his mew memoir and along with detailing his public spat with Lakers’ star Kobe Bryant, it’s Shaq’s revelations about his relationship with his ex-wife Shaunie that have folks talking.

Although they seemed like a happy couple, the two divorced amid rampant infidelity accusations. In his book, Shaq admits to cheating on his wife several times throughout their marriage, but says he did so in a respectful way.

“At one time my ex-wife Shaunie and I were happy, but I admit it–I was a guy. I was a guy with too many options. Choosing to be with some of those women, well, that’s on me. In my mind, I never did it disrespectfully, but obviously I shouldn’t have done it all.”

Now that he’s retired, and apparently grown up, Shaq said he’s learned from his cheating ways.

“You know as well as I do relationships are about maintaining… It wasn’t the big stuff, it was the small stuff, and that’s my fault. I had things to do. I was trying to win, trying to make some money. I admit I wasn’t the best partner. I just didn’t know how. I’m learning now.” 

I guess Shaq’s newfound enlightenment works out for his new woman, Hoopz (they are rumored to be married). But will he remain faithful? Considering Shaq is still famous, and I assume will still be on scene, he’ll still have plenty of options to choose from. Then what?

Reading Shaq talk about being unfaithful because he just had too many options to pass up made me think about Chris Rock’s words in his comedy special “Bigger and Blacker.” During the show, Rock said, “A man will be a man. A man is only as faithful as his options. That’s how faithful a man is, no more, no less.”

Although Rock was making a joke, I can’t help but wonder if there is truth in his statement.

Clutchettes and Gents do you think people (especially men) are only as faithful as their options? What does that say about our relationships?

Let’s talk about it! 

55 Comments

  1. Shaq is an old man – why is he just now learning that faithfulness=good and cheating=bad.
    And can someone please tell me – what is the difference between respectful and disrespectful cheating?

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    • That’s exactly what I was trying to figure out. The respectful vs. disrespectful.

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  2. @Carla

    I dont think I ever met a black man who was insecure when comparing himself to other men. The ingenious thing about “the brothas” is that instead of comparing and competing with other men he created his own niche where he has no other competition. Perhaps black women should have done the same since we stay crying about Eurocentric standards of beauty anytime we are asked to compete with other women.

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