I was watching the newest episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta the other night, and a lot of it focused on Sheree Whitfield, her money situation, and her preparation for court. Her ex-husband served her with papers to get the amount of child support he is legally obligated to pay for the care of their two children. Bob Whitfield, a former NFL player, claimed that his income was only $3,000 a month. $3,000??? Does he have an internship? I don’t understand how a former millionaire earns the amount a recent college graduate might make.
My outrage on that issue aside, the crazy part in all of this is instead of feeling bad about not paying child support — even after Sheree almost begged for it, he beat her to the punch and asked for a reduction on child support that he hasn’t even paid. Clearly, Bob is trifling for not having paid money that he is legally (and morally) obligated to pay, but the nerve of him to then turn around and testify that he wants to pay even less.
This situation should not have happened this way, and I blame Sheree for putting herself in the position to be served court papers. The episode of RHOA showed me how misplaced her priorities are, and it made me have less sympathy for her entire plight with that deadbeat ex of hers.
First of all, Sheree had been advised to serve Bob court papers for his non-payment of child support by her friend and lawyer, Phaedra Parks. Even her mother told her to do that. Mr. Whitfield was not showing any type of responsibility for his beautiful daughter and growing son, who had needs that his father should had been supporting. Their son is 14 and wears the same size shoes as his age. Undoubtedly, making sure he has everything he needs is not cheap. And let’s not forget his 11-year-old daughter, who needs her father to set an example of responsibility for her to see as she matures into a young woman.
Sheree is owed money, but in spite of the advice she received about having the courts handle it for her, she sat on it. Her reason was that she didn’t want to look bad by suing her ex. And she didn’t want people to think she really needed it. We’ll chock it up to pride, which comes before the fall.
But many things made me give Sheree the side-eye (o_O). First, she said she needed the money from Bob. However, when she was going to Phaedra’s place to prepare for the case, she showed up in a brand new Porsche. Who buys a $75,000 car when they are about to go to court to say they need money??? Common sense should say that doesn’t match up, but it clearly did not. This is the same person whose Aston Martin got repossessed last year, yet she’s buying another luxury car. She needs a financial advisor because she’s not making the smartest decisions with her wallet.
Also, Sheree brought potential court day outfits for Phaedra to see. One of them was a Dolce & Gabanna suit. And her bag was a STUNNING orange Hermés. Her outfit alone was worth over $12,000, four-times the amount that Bob Whitfield said he was making in a month. And she wants the judge to actually believe that she needs his money. I’m not saying she isn’t still owed money. She really is but her approach to it was a bit naïve and she was focusing on the wrong things. The courtroom is not for stunting, ma’am.
Then we got a look at where Sheree was currently staying. She lives in a two-bedroom apartment with her son, but she says it’s temporary as she builds “Chateau Sheree” from the ground up. This “chateau” is another example of how Sheree wants to show she’s wealthy on one hand and needing money on the other. But since she claims this is just a temporary arrangement, I guess she thinks the small place with very little furniture is excused. Yet she’s driving a Porsche. These things do not add up.
And that isn’t even the worst part. At one point, the camera followed her son as he walked into his room and before it panned away, it zoomed in on the floor. There was an air mattress laying there. THIS is when I basically lost the rest of my sympathy for Sheree and her struggle wallet.
I could NOT believe that Sheree’s son doesn’t even have a REAL bed. Even if they’re in the apartment temporarily, beds aren’t disposable. I don’t understand. She can’t afford a Sealy Posturepedic but she has Louboutins for days and Birkin bags on her wrist? No, that doesn’t work. Sheree is losing because there is no excuse for her son to be laying on an inflatable bed every night when she’s driving an expensive sports car and wearing nothing but designer clothes. NONE whatsoever.
Sheree needs a life coach, a financial advisor, and a stern talking to because her priorities are full circle messed up. Yes, she’s owed child support by her ex. BUT she doesn’t seem to be starving for all the luxuries of life. Meanwhile, her son sleeps on a bed that you fill with air every night. I don’t respect this and she should be ashamed of herself.
I know a lot of women would agree with me on this one; Why do black women feel the need to keep up with the latest fashion accessories (expensive ones at that), but don’t have investments i.e. Savings, liquid asset, stocks, etc.? Let me guess, they feel inadequate and thus have to feel the void. I just answered my own question. We need to start educating our (black) girls about self-worth, respect, love, accountability and responsibility. It starts with just one girl, and that one girl will carry the torch and influence others. So ask you self: What can I do and will do to change the vicious cycle?
I don’t think this is an epidemic for Black women, this is an epidemic with reality shows. Sheree is trying to come off as rich so she can blend i with her fellow housewives…
Sheree isn’t college educated. She doesn’t have a job. Her only source of income is based on the persona she created to be a “housewife.”
The house she is building isn’t even hers… It is her mother’s smh
Honestly Speaking, I really don’t think that this is a black and white thing. I think it is just one woman making poor financial decisions. You shouldn’t assume that because she’s a black, trendy, female that she doesn’t have investments and we have an epidemic and black women need to be saved. Not really a fair assumption. I do think that her priorities are way out of order. On the Watch What Happens Live show on Bravo last night she said that wasn’t her son’s bed that it was her dog’s bed. I don’t know if I believe it, but that could be the excuse. She also said that the house she’s still building just got the foundation laid and it’s in her mom’s name. She’s pretty ridiculous if you ask me. She’s majorly insecure and she’s a follower, she only wants what everyone else has.
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Yeah, this sista priorities definitely seem out of order. The episode in which she took her son shoe shopping it was obvious he hadn’t been shopping in a while.
The shot of his feet revealed his sneakers were very worn. So, for her to walk around with bags costing thousands of dollars is crazy. Sometimes I wonder if there’s an issue with paternity. Something definitely has her on hold, while in every other aspect of her life she appears to be all about the dollar. It could be she really loved the guy. Hopefully things will work out for the children’s sake.
I swear. I’ve gotta start watching this show. what fun!
I don’t see how her spending habits are related to his obligation to provide for his children. Whether she spends 10K a year or 1 million he still needs to do his part. She didn’t create the children by herself why should she have to support them alone? All this sympathy for this pathetic excuse of a man I do not get.
Isis, I agree but the fact she’s been forced to take on the responsibility alone; the least she could do is to pursue legal supports to have this jackass do the right thing. I couldn’t sleep if a man I married and/or had children with refused to take care of his responsibilities. The hell with a LV, Porsche, Birkin…I’d make it my daily mission to get in his ass; especially, when we “know” he has the resources to do. Some sistas out here have no options because these men are “busted” financially, emotionally…(all of the above). This sista to not going after him is absurd!
Is it safe to say, these 2 should never have been together? Really?
I have to say that i seen this and she do have things messed up. You have to make sure your children are taking care of first then worry about your self. Phaedra said that her car doesn’t cost as much as much. all i could do was laugh cause looking at Phaedra driveway i couldn’t see no $75,000 plus car and the fact it don’t look right in the court when you do something like that. Yes he has a right as a father to take care of his kids but she as a mother buying all this for herself is making it look like she needs his money to take care of herself and not the kids. I don’t understand why she is in a apartment when she was just in a house last year. I love RHOA but this is one female I’m not understanding and then its reports around ATLANTA that the whole court thing was fake.
Sheree, your kids come first at all times. Another thing Phaedra did her part, when she asked you to have your ex put in jail and you wanted to wait. Your son seem unhappy on the show. I hope the kids at his school is not teasing him about his hair, shoes or sleeping on an air mattress. Its time for Ms. Sheree to be a mother.
Sheree’s big problem is she thinks she’s cuter than she really is. First of all you need to take a look at your mother skills while you strut around with your designer bags you have yet to pay for. While the other ladies are trying to get their grind on you sit around acting like “look at me don’t you want to pay my bills” that ship sailed long time ago. Sheree what you need to do is grow up and figure out that you need to pay mortgage first, feed kids and dress kids then after you accomplish that you then go buy a bag or a pair of shoes. Most of all stop faking
CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHAT MRS. PARKS MEANT WHEN SHE SAID SHEREE WAS MAYWEATHER? SHEREE DOES NEED TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY WHEN IT COMES TO HER CHILDREN AND STOP TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH THE REST OF THE CAST MEMBERS. IT’S OKAY TO SCALE BACK, TIMES ARE TOUGH!
Sheree need to pawn all of her things and get a place to live and get the boy off the floor. Real talk!!!