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Thandie Newton Turned To Romance Books To Avoid the Lonliness of Being the ‘Lone Black Girl’

Saturday Dec 3, 2011 – by

Many of us who’ve experienced being, as a dear friend once described: “a spec of pepper in a sea of salt,” within the environment of our upbringing can surely relate to Ms. Thandiwe on some level. Speaking candidly, once more, about her travails as a woman of color in a Eurocentric culture, Thandie Newton confessed that as a teen, she relied on romance novels to cope with the lack of attention she received from boys.

The stunning British actress admits to being overlooked by fellas while growing up and used the novels as an escape from the pain and confusion:

“I lost myself in reading as a teen. Wasn’t the girl who boys saw themselves being involved with; I lived in a small town and you weren’t going to go out with the black girl… So these sweeping stories taught me about love and romance. Reading was the only way I could make sense of the hormones coursing through my body.”

In addition, Thandie shared the impact Pema Chodron’s book ‘When Things Fall Apart’, made on her outlook on life and love. “I read this at a difficult time and found it incredibly comforting,” she said. “The moment Chodron realized she had to make a change in her life was when her husband told her he’d been having an affair and was leaving her. The rage she felt was so powerful, it made her see that she needed to temper it with compassion. But it was that rage that led her to a huge epiphany of love and that is certainly something I’ve encountered in my life. The most painful and difficult times have been the key to wisdom, understanding and deep love.”

Ms. Newton’s knack for keeping things real makes her even more of a show-biz rarity . Expect to find her on the big screen next year as the lead in Tyler Perry’s upcoming film, “Good Deed’s.”


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16 Comments – Add Yours

  1. avatar Kesha says:

    This makes me adore her even more. I love when people are non-pc sometimes. It let’s you get to know the real them. Plus, I can truly relate to her.

  2. avatar Ginger says:

    I did the same thing. A bit of romance and reading in general. It was wonderful to escape.

  3. avatar rosie says:

    I always thought Thandie purported herself to be a special, but not *really* black, mixed woman. Her recent comments suprise me.

    • avatar OhMyEyes says:

      Maybe you have a complex about biracial people because since she’s been famous, Thandie has only spoken highly of her Zimbabwean roots.

      Besides, she’s not “really” black (whatever that is) anyway…she’s biracial. She shouldn’t have to pick one side over the other to satisfy the likes of you.

    • avatar rosie says:

      Do you know Thandie personally or just police all comments regarding celebrities on blogs that are not politically correct with you? God bless you for having to read through all this ignorance and setting people straight!!!

    • avatar AustralianGirl says:

      @Rosie,

      Can you please provide evidence/quotes where Thandie Newton claimed to be ‘special, but not *really* black, mixed woman’?

      She is mixed-race, what of it?

    • avatar Val says:

      @Rosie

      I agree. Maybe she’s going to be in a Tyler Perry movie or something and is trying to up her profile amongst Black people with all these comments about being Black all of a sudden.

    • avatar rosie says:

      “Can you please provide evidence/quotes where Thandie Newton claimed to be ‘special, but not *really* black, mixed woman’?”

      That was my interpretation based on some of her past interviews. I don’t have enough interest (love or hate) in Thandie to research evidence/quotes.

    • avatar Val says:

      Oh wow, I should have read the last paragraph. Lol She is going to be in a Tyler Perry film. That is why she’s being so Black all of a sudden.

  4. avatar Timcampi says:

    Ugh I can totally relate. My first boyfriend wasn’t until the end of my seventeeth year. Christ, it’s such hell on your self-esteem.

  5. avatar apple says:

    i read romance novels but after a while it can be come all consuming and depressing :-/

  6. avatar ddddddddd says:

    People this is not only a black thing also a lot of girls period get overlooked troughout highschool and start dating in college. So dont make this into a racial thing.

    • avatar Usagi says:

      Excalty. I was very overweight as a kid. Being overweight was way more of a problem than race. I don’t really problems with getting a boyfriend, but getting one I like is a different story.

    • avatar Bunny says:

      Sure. Not to say this issue doesn’t affect all young women, but I wouldn’t disregard what she’s saying. If you’re the “only” in a mostly white area, race can be the “thing”.

  7. avatar HuesofHoney says:

    How can you say don’t make this about race…when Thandie clearly made comments about race….lol

    Some interracial are really sensitive …and for some reason you seem to only lay your burdens down on black folks..as if….please …go share your story with the other side of your family…that’s all I ask. I get tired of hearing these same stories. Her being half euro/white has given her a decent career. Tell that Truth.

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