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Ironically, one of the most ignorant posts I’ve read in recent weeks appeared on a blog that goes by the name of “Very Smart Brothas.”

In an astoundingly insensitive article, aptly titled Rape Responsibility — And The Fine Line Between Victim-Blaming and Common Sense”, The Champ, a blogger on the site, decided to tackle the subject of rape and why women, in fact, do hold some responsibility for sexual assaults against their person.

He found his inspiration from a post written by writer Zerlina Maxwell for Ebony.com titled, “Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped.”

In Maxwell’s article, she brilliantly states why society’s misdirected venom towards “unladylike” women is endangering potential victims:

“Our community, much like society-at-large, needs a paradigm shift as it relates to our sexual assault prevention efforts.  For so long all of our energy has been directed at women, teaching them to be more “ladylike” and to not be “promiscuous” to not drink too much or to not wear a skirt. Newsflash: men don’t decide to become rapists because they spot a woman dressed like a video vixen or because a girl has been sexually assertive.”

Even though The Champ agrees that statistics revealing that 1 in 5 women will become victims of a completed or attempted rape in their lifetime are horrific, he draws the line at agreeing that men, and men alone, are responsible for women being violated, stating that women should employ a modicum of common sense when dealing with their baser male counterparts:

“Why can’t both genders be educated on how to act responsibility around each other? What’s stopping us from steadfastly instilling “No always means no!” in the minds of all men and boys and educating women how not to put themselves in certain situations? Of course men shouldn’t attempt to have sex with a woman who’s too drunk to say no, but what’s wrong with reminding women that if you’re 5’1 and 110 pounds, it’s probably not the best idea to take eight shots of Patron while on the first, second, or thirteenth date? Yes, sober women definitely get raped too, but being sober and aware does decrease the likelihood that harm may come your way, and that’s true for each gender.

“It seems as if the considerable push back again victim-blaming has pushed all the way past prudence and levelheadedness, making anyone who suggests that “women can actually be taught how to behave too” insensitive or a “rape enabler.” And, while the sentiment in Maxwell’s article suggests that victim-blaming is dangerous, I think it’s even more dangerous to neglect to remind young women that, while it’s never their fault if they happen to get sexually assaulted, they shouldn’t thumb their noses to common sense either.”

And this is where the waters get treacherous.

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  • chinaza

    People only need to understand one thing. Rape is not about sex but a violent dehumanization of a person. The sexual act could just as easily be replaced by a gun.
    So the victim of a rape is no more liable than the victim of a murder.

  • Plem50

    This is such a ridiculous argument it astounds me. And we have it over and over again.

    Possibly this might be a problem with intent and tone. There’s clearly a big difference between a man saying:

    1. That bitch wouldn’t have gotten raped if it she wasn’t dressing like a slut!

    versus

    2. A woman is not responsible for her rape, but there are clearly certain risk factors that increase her chances of being raped such as jogging at midnight in the bad part of town.

    #1 is only said by a small minority of ignorant men or trolls, #2 is what a majority of men are saying. Feminists seem to only hear the #1’s.

    The only reason this issue is so complicated is because of female privilege. I recently saw a video of a man telling a group of young men to stop talking or something and they responded by beating him up. The blogger who posted it said it was terrible what happened but at the same time the guy should’ve known better than to tell a group of shady looking guys with tattoos and all that to be quiet.

    Was that victim blaming? No, I don’t think it was. It’s just common sense, we feel sorry for the guy at the same time he could’ve easily avoided his fate by using some common sense. This is all what men (and many women too) are saying about rape minus the jerks who post ignorant stuff like #1 which all reasonable men disagree with.

    Also, RAPE IS ABOUT SEX. The meme that Rape is about Power, not Sex is just feminist propoganda. Because if you’re a feminist it’s not in your interest if rape is framed as sex or lust because then it would be something inherent in the nature of men and that’s impossible to eradicate. But if it’s the patriarchy/rape culture causing men to rape women then that’s something that can be overthrown.

    If rape is about power and not sex why are rapists overwhelmingly young men (when their urge to have sex is strongest) and most victims of rape are overwhelmingly women in their peak productive years (between 15-35)?

    And if you’re going to counter my last point please give me a study, not some personal anecdote about some old guy who raped or a old woman who got raped, we’re talking about the AGGREGATE.

  • MarloweOverShakespeare

    A friend just gave me this today, and I think it brilliantly summed up our thoughts on this topic…

    “If you lock the door to your house, it doesn’t necessarily prevent your house from being trespassed and burglarized. If that happens, of course its not your fault. But it’s still good to lock your door.”

    • anontoo

      by that idiotic reasoning, i guess women should lock their p ussies.

      and people who live in “bad neighboorhoods” should have multiple locks…or maybe they should just move into a white neighborhood…

      i hope your friend understands that locking up the house may prevent entry, but the p ussy is open, no matter what you have around it

      so much for analogies

    • MarloweOverShakespeare

      Your goods are “open,” so you can’t take precaution by keeping yourself out of situations that may lead to forced entry? That was what the analogy was about. It’s about basic common sense and good judgement. Refusing to acknowledge that women (along with every human being) need these two things to SURVIVE, is detrimental to YOUR safety.

      That is, if you care about it.

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