Tonya Parker, an openly gay Dallas County Judge, flatly refuses to perform marriages. Her reasoning is simple, as she states, “I do not perform them because it is not an equal application of the law. Period,” Judge Parker, the first openly gay African-American woman to be elected in the state of Texas, has been brazen in taking her stance on the matter.
The judge went on to defend her position stating, “And it’s kind of oxymoronic for me to perform ceremonies that can’t be performed for me, so I’m not going to do it.”
Judge Parker, however, does politely explain to those heterosexual couples who come before her and would like to be wed her reasoning for not doing so. The judge says, “I use it as my opportunity to give them a lesson about marriage equality in the state because I feel like I have to tell them why I’m turning them away. So I usually will offer them something along the lines of, ‘I’m sorry. I don’t perform marriage ceremonies because we are in a state that does not have marriage equality, and until it does, I am not going to partially apply the law to one group of people that doesn’t apply to another group of people.”
I applaud this sista on so many levels, but mostly for being an intelligent, professional, black woman who is not afraid to use her position to challenge the law.
What do you think?