I’m Not Racist, I Just Don’t Want to Screw a White Man
How often do you hear the term ‘racist’ thrown about? I mean it is used so frequently, and without real regard for what the word actually entails, that real issues of racism are not properly addressed in mass media outlets or in interpersonal interactions.
For example, if your preference is not to sleep with a white man, that must mean you’re a racist. Or if you matriculated through an ivy league school, live in a Black upper-middle class neighborhood, attend a progressive black church, and speak truth to power (i.e. Michelle Obama), you must be a racist AND an angry black woman. Or when sound bite surfaced of Shirley Sherod making a remark–taken out of context–about a white farmer, she was immediately deemed a racist.
But riddle me this: How can a collective group of mostly politically and economically disenfranchised people be racist without having the structural power to collectively oppress another race of people? It’s IMPOSSIBLE! Contrary to popular belief, racism does not come in all colors, particularly in black.
Recently, I was having an impassioned discussion with a Sudanese woman and a man from Holland on this subject. They vociferously disagreed with my point, that in order to be racist an infrastructure has to be in place, and I was accused of being a racist because I have zero attraction to Anglo men. But contrary to their beliefs, my proclivity toward brown penises–and vehement disregard for white ones– does not qualify me as a racist. It is what the Oxford English Dictionary refers to as a preference.
My predisposition toward not finding white men remotely attractive, romantically or sexually, does not yield the power to disproportionately imprison them, systematically keep them underemployed, or create generational poverty. Whereas racism has policed my womb for 400-plus years, created de facto segregation, ushered crack cocaine and weapons into communities that were already suffering from the after effects of slavery and legislative injustice.
Nope, my sexual leanings were not the cause of 400 years of chattel enslavement which has never been abolished, but rather is referred to by another name–the ‘prison industrial complex’ which just so happens to house Black men at a rate 12-times that of White men who commit the same types of crime.
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Jen, your comments on this thread have been intelligent & thoughtful. But, as someone said to you earlier, you’ve wasted great commentary on many who only want to spew hate in order to police the lives of black women.
As you mentioned, part of what makes it so hilarious & ugly is that these people offer nothing for greater nothing. I wonder how some women think they have anything to lose by dating all men, if the men of their own group tell them over & over again how hideous & unwanted they are. Do they really believe staying in that situation is the better choice? I’m mystified. . .but whatever, to each her own :-)
Sorry, but the comments from Jen were proven to be far from intelligent, and I’m sure she’s back on here posting under a different moniker (likely yourself) after getting exposed to be a psychotic fraud.
No one is policing anyone — especially a demonstrably lonely demographic. Quit telling on yourselves. There have been numerous publications highlighting black females as hideous or unwanted. None of them by black men. Leave black men alone. Quick dragging them into your misery and focus your bitter lives elsewhere. You’re the same band of losers from beyondblackandwhite coming here to whine like broken records. This article will hit 1000 comments, all laced in your misery. Have some dignity.
@easy
Yawn. Now what’s really interesting is that you, a black man, spend so much of your time stalking blogs by black women for black women. Obsessed much?
@temple too:
This is an open forum, and I’ll stick to the facts. You miserably lonely & bitter broads brought black men into this for absolutely no reason – Check. Your assertion that anyone is policing you is a wishful fantasy in your head – Check. It’s non-black men that are for the most part calling you hideous and unwanted – Check.
What’s truly interesting is that you lack the aptitude to assert a position. Actually, it’s not that interesting.
Easy, notice how your existence is now a lie? These black men are pathetic/something else, I tell ya LOL.
Sorry, temple t00**
You are neither privy to my race nor gender, and the only thing I and 700 others (the other 200 would be you) on this thread notice is your pathetic brand of stupidity. You are beginning to sound like a miserable old hag blaming black men for society’s repudiation of your likeness. Get a life.
lol, all I have to do is make some comment about how useless black men are and how sh*tty they treat their women and voila! Instance response from you. I’ve got you eating out of the palm of my hand, Snoop Dogg. YOU need to get a life.
If you weren’t obsessed with stalking and policing black women on this site you wouldn’t even be witnessing my comments. TAKE THAT AS A HINT. MAYBE YOU SHOULD GO ELSEWHERE AND LEAVE THE BLACK WOMEN ALONE, HMMM?
jen has ocd when it comes to bm, the other article about wm savior is true in jens case, i guess she wants to be the haitain girl adpoted in the white comunity. SMH…
And jen if it takes 12 years to move 4% points thats not something to brag about out loud, considering bm do it at 2X the rate. You get upset at a bm saying it, but give wm a pass for doing it. Thats why you look crazy, and it burns you up on the inside, that BM can do it, even with the propaganda about rape, incest or what ever sexual immorality you can think of.
NEWSFLASH Jen, ill wipe a monkeys azz with what you think…
lol @ OCD. She can’t help her infatuation with black men. All she’s managed to do on this article is show make Haitians and and fetishizing black females look a mess.
Comment 911! Yes!
Also, there are people still here?
I’ll predict these comments will reach 1000 before the week is over!
All I know is this:
In spite of all the hate being tossed in both directions, the statistics, etc. I still believe that:
1. Black love is still possible.
2. There are still Black men who love, want to love, and wish to stay deeply committed to Black women.
3. There are still Black women who love, want to love and wish to stay deeply committed to Black men.
4. This website is in no way representative of all the possibilities that are out there. I refuse to generalize based on one online discussion.
5. I believe I will find my Black knight in shiny armor one day.
That is all.
Be careful what you say before you get swarmed by an angry army of lonely fetishists
Girl
Now that you spoke with your heart, you now have to defend yourself, against the IRBW/rainbeu fruit loops. Ans thats good because these IRBW will never produce Denzel, Angela Basset, Idris Elba, Michelle Obama or a Dwight Howard.
These IRBW fruitloops love to the take the wrost black man they can find and compare that to the best white man they can think of, imaginary “Jen” or not, even if that white man dont date them. That’s why I SMH at them.
Truth be told IRBW are in the minority in real tangible life, but online when one can be anything like some fantasy role playing game, this IRBW dont want anyone or anybody shattering that image.
I do not think that I would be offended, per se. Interracial couples do not offend me. I just know what I prefer. Your preference is your preference. I do think it is weird when people date a race that is not their own exclusively–that borders on exoticism. But if you date regardless of race I don’t see it as an issue.
Either there are some serious misconceptions on here or I live in an atypical community, because I can count on both hands, both feet and an extra set of both, the number of white men I know who would LOVE to and have expressed an interest in boning a sister. And with the ones who have tried to hit on me in my single years: they had the same answer: its all pink and soft when you get right now to it.
I agree that its a preference, and when some people voice their opinion they really get down to the nitty gritty of why they feel that way, such as the author of this blog. To each his own. Some have racist justifications, some have personal preferences, and some just never thought about it as an option. For me its a personal preference with most white men I have had approach me. One thing that I absolutely abhor is someone rubbing their feet on me. Playing footsie under the sheets and counting that as a form of cuddling. Yuck. And the thought of hairy feet rubbing against my feet really grosses me out. He can be the best thing next to bread, but I just can’t get over that aberration. Yuck and yuck again.
Hey, if I wasn’t married, if he treated me like the woman of his dreams and if he regularly shaved his feet: I might consider sharing my world with a white man. But then again…how many men, regardless of race would actually go that far???
Tsk, tsk…I guess to some I would be a racist too… oh well… live and let live…and God help me with my idiosyncrasies. I have just (gasp) offended 1/3 of the world…
@jen
“Yes, I have stated that I am Canadian 26 of Haitian descent with a white father (he’s raised me since I was 1, my mother had the sense to dump her good-for-nothing Haitian husband husband).”
people leave jen alone she obv has major daddy problems. she just needs to see a theropist or two then she will be good. If you go to bed thinking about how much you hate someone or a group of people you need to get a life. No one cares jen so please just take your hatred for your sperm donner daddy somewhere else. i pray to god you dont have a son or a daughter who might be attracted to these evil black men you talk of coz no one deserves the hatred you spew. oh btw i did not know black men are the only rapists on this earth i’ll just tell my friend she must have made what she told me up coz according to you white men are perfect. oh jeez i cant help but feel that you are just some teen or some white dude with too much time on his hands. like i said before you are exactly like the author of this post. You and the auther are so similar and to think you were judging her, oh jeez.
To be perfectly honest, I have biracial cousins and none of them have ever gone with a black dude, so I’m not too worried about it.
On that note, I am really more culturist than anything else. The black guys on here are out of control and since they are obviously obsessed with black women, who we date, and how we think, I don’t see how it’s doing a damn bit of harm to give them a taste of their own medicine. You take soooo much issue with what I am saying but yet none with black men on here telling black women that we are unwanted, promiscuous, etc.? What in the world is wrong with you, little girl? (I mean aside from the way you think English is spelled). Does it really matter what I say either way? It doesn’t change anything. I’ll continue to go about my life happily and you will continue to go about yours, the black guys will continue to go about theirs deluding themselves that women like myself are not real and don’t exist (lol), and the world keeps spinning. Even if my attitude towards black guys has changed inwardly and ideologically, it doesn’t actually change anything pragmatically since I only know three of them, and one of them I haven’t seen in a year, and I never dated one to begin with because I just don’t find them attractive. So really who cares what I think? For a bunch of people who allegedly don’t, you sure seem to be invested in/have a lot to say about my opinion!
Jen, you have close to 250 posts on this article and have found a way to weave black men into everything they have nothing to do with. That is more than an obsession. You already broke down and ousted yourself in a childish rant, and you remain here embarrassing everyone — from black women to Haitians. Do you have no common sense or shame?
You are still on here spewing details of your boring life story. No one is interested in your confessions. We all knew all along that you harbor resentment for black men. It’s okay, they don’t want you. Neither do many men all over the world. Not everybody wants everyone. Get over it. Obviously your sperm donor saw no value in your mother and chose better. Get over it. Your mother’s sloppiness is not the doing of 750 million men on this planet. Get over it.
I don’t care for you to email me, you disturbed imbecile. Quit seeking validation from a stranger, you insecure loser. So some lame white pedophile scooped up your mother for easy access to her short-bus daughter. That’s a rarity. Now he’s in Kenya on a child rape tour. Another rarity. Your mother is no more than another statistic, and you’re well on your way to becoming another. I still fail to see what any of this has to do with black men. Get over it.
You are 26 years old, so your childish tantrums are rather embarrassing. There is therapy for this kind of stuff. Leave black men alone and find a peaceful resolution to your lonesome misery.
“No one is interested in your confessions.” – This from the man who responds to everything I say, whether it’s said directly to him or not.
“So some lame white pedophile” – racism/inferiority complex towards white men rears it’s nasty head again
“Now he’s in Kenya on a child rape tour.” So my white stepfather is a rapist for a) being white, and b) helping black children out, but “no comment” on the black man who failed to father his child (like they often do) right?
“We all knew all along that you harbor resentment for black men. It’s okay, they don’t want you.” – I actually wish that this was true. You have no idea how many times I have wished that I was a non-black woman, not because I think there’s anything wrong with being a black woman (actually, I love black women and being one), but simply so black men would leave me alone? I try my best to appear the type of black woman who doesn’t date thugs but still, they figure if you’re black you’ll like them. It’s bizarre.
“Do you have no common sense or shame?” I could ask you the same question since you insist on spending your entire day addressing the comments of this allegedly “psychotic/pathological liar/shameless” person. I mean even if I’m all of those things, you are the one replying to my. every. single. post. so what do you think that makes YOU?
Jen, you have close to 250 posts on this article and have found a way to weave black men into everything they have nothing to do with. That is more than an obsession. You already broke down and ousted yourself in a childish rant, and you remain here embarrassing everyone — from black women to Haitians. Do you have no common sense or shame?
You are still on here spewing details of your boring life story. No one is interested in your confessions. We all knew all along that you harbor resentment for black men. It’s okay, they don’t want you. Neither do many men all over the world. Not everybody wants everyone. Get over it. Obviously your sperm donor saw no value in your mother and chose better. Get over it. Your mother’s sloppiness is not the doing of 750 million men on this planet. Get over it.
I don’t care for you to email me, you disturbed imbecile. Quit seeking validation from a stranger, you insecure loser. So some lame white pedophile scooped up your mother for easy access to her short-bus daughter. That’s a rarity. Now he’s in Kenya on a child rape tour. Another rarity. Your mother is no more than another statistic, and you’re well on your way to becoming another. I still fail to see what any of this has to do with black men. Get over it.
You are 26 years old, so your childish tantrums are rather embarrassing. There is therapy for this kind of stuff. Leave black men alone and find a peaceful resolution to your lonesome misery..
I typed so of course you had to respond. You respond to everything I post like a good little lapdog:)
Jen, you have close to 250 posts on this article and have found a way to weave black men into everything they have nothing to do with. That is more than an obsession. You already broke down and ousted yourself in a childish rant, and you remain here embarrassing everyone — from black women to Haitians. Do you have no common sense or shame?
You are still on here spewing details of your boring life story. No one is interested in your confessions. We all knew all along that you harbor resentment for black men. It’s okay, they don’t want you. Neither do many men all over the world. Not everybody wants everyone. Get over it. Obviously your sperm donor saw no value in your mother and chose better. Get over it. Your mother’s sloppiness is not the doing of 750 million men on this planet. Get over it.
I don’t care for you to email me, you disturbed imbecile. Quit seeking validation from a stranger, you insecure loser. So some lame white pedophile scooped up your mother for easy access to her short-bus daughter. That’s a rarity. Now he’s in Kenya on a child rape tour. Another rarity. Your mother is no more than another statistic, and you’re well on your way to becoming another. I still fail to see what any of this has to do with black men. Get over it.
You are 26 years old, so your childish tantrums are rather embarrassing. There is therapy for this kind of stuff. Leave black men alone and find a peaceful resolution to your lonesome misery.
PS: arlette, didn’t I call this dumb broad out way back for calling black men rapists? See how long it took for the brainless twat to get completely exposed? Smh
Cute psychobabble though. “You claim you have no contact with black men. Why then must you bring them into your rantings if you haven’t faced some sort of rejection…” for the answer to this question you need only look at your own behaviour (if you can muster that, black men don’t do too well with self-reflection).
You come on here and talk soooo much $hit on black women – you even said this just a few hours ago: “As much hate as black men get in society, when even the lowest of the low decides to get hitched, he can, and usually does better than you. Numbers don’t lie. Get over it.” You come here to tell us that we have no options, that nobody wants us, that we can’t parent our children properly and that we are the ones responsible for the poor outcomes that black men (specifically African-American men) have, that even if we ARE open to other races they will treat us badly, that all white men must be racist… those comments reflect directly on ME and MY BOYFRIEND. Like as if I need another reason to respond as I have? Are you freaking delusional?
Furthermore, I think it’s really funny how arrogant you black men are. You literally think ALL women must want you. It’s funny! I had to cut that ish off at that pass. Couldn’t resist. It was too tempting, especially after you all started calling all the black women in IR relationships here “lonely liars.” No, I don’t deal with rejection by black men – they deal with rejection by ME. And your ego obviously needs to hear that because you either think you black men are god’s gift to all women but especially black women or else you are posturing to cover up your deep-seated insecurity. I suspect it might be a little of the latter, and some moments I’ll start to feel bad, but then you run your mouth off again and it passes:)
Not bothered to read junk from a lonely self-hating lunatic. Will just let you and your desperate ilk make a fool of yourselves until the article gets 1000+ hits.
Jen, you have more than 250 posts on this article and have found a way to weave black men into everything they have nothing to do with. That is more than an obsession. You already broke down and ousted yourself in a childish rant, and you remain here embarrassing everyone — from black women to Haitians. Do you have no common sense or shame?
You are still on here spewing details of your boring life story. No one is interested in your confessions. We all knew all along that you harbor resentment for black men. It’s okay, they don’t want you. Neither do many men all over the world. Not everybody wants everyone. Get over it. Obviously your sperm donor saw no value in your mother and chose better. Get over it. Your mother’s sloppiness is not the doing of 750 million men on this planet. Get over it.
I don’t care for you to email me, you disturbed imbecile. Quit seeking validation from a stranger, you insecure loser. So some lame white pedophile scooped up your mother for easy access to her short-bus daughter. That’s a rarity. Now he’s in Kenya on a child rape tour. Another rarity. Your mother is no more than another statistic, and you’re well on your way to becoming another. I still fail to see what any of this has to do with black men. Get over it.
You are 26 years old, so your childish tantrums are rather embarrassing. There is therapy for this kind of stuff. Leave black men alone and find a peaceful resolution to your lonesome misery.
People should date who they want-and leave my dating preference to me. It’s very odd that we’re even having this conversation at all. I, for the life of me, can’t understand why the mainstream media would care who Black women do or don’t want to be with.
@ Jen,
why are you so obsessed with Black men? I dont get it. You come on here instigating all kinds of intra-racial strife and then you accuse those who defend their racial integrity of harassing you!
You are without a shadow of a doubt the most hateful person I’ve ever encountered online! How can you be happy when your thoughts are stewed in so much hate? It almost matters not who or what you hate anymore: its the degree of hate that I find so disconcerting!
I’ve read Hitler’s autobiography, and much anti-Jewish propaganda of the Nazi era: nothing I’ve read about Nazi hatred for the Jews has come close to the hatred you exude as regards Black men!
You must be sooo unhappy to be this hateful! Some folks are so bad that they’re sad: you’re sad, Jen: really sad.
You come here to tell us that we have no options, that nobody wants us, thta we are last choice, that we can’t parent our children properly and that we are the ones responsible for the poor outcomes that black men (specifically African-American men) have, that a black women deserved to be raped, that even if we ARE open to other races they will treat us badly, (fearmongering 101), that all white men must be racist… those comments reflect directly on ME and MY BOYFRIEND. Like as if I need another reason to respond as I have? Are you freaking delusional?
Furthermore, I think it’s really funny how arrogant you black men are. You literally think ALL women must want you. It’s funny! I had to cut that ish off at that pass. Couldn’t resist. It was too tempting, especially after you all started calling all the black women in IR relationships here “lonely liars.” No, I don’t deal with rejection by black men – they deal with rejection by ME. And your ego obviously needs to hear that because you either think you black men are god’s gift to all women but especially black women or else you are posturing to cover up your deep-seated insecurity. I suspect it might be a little of the latter, and some moments I’ll start to feel bad, but then you run your mouth off again and it passes:)
Seriously though, when you are telling black women that no one wants them, you don’t think THAT’S hateful?
“Oh, maybe you can be a 9%-er, then” (what they don’t mention is that that’s up from 5% just 12 years ago)
“As much hate as black men get in society, when even the lowest of the low decides to get hitched, he can, and usually does better than you. Numbers don’t lie. Get over it.”
“When your white man calls you the n-word you’ll want a black man.”
“Those women here who say they are in happy, successful interracial relationships? Oh, they’re just LYING. They are REALLY lonely and unhappy.. JUST LIKE YOU.”
Menelik, these comments are meant to demoralize black women. It’s an assault on their self-esteem and self-confidence, and I will not stand by here and watch it happen for one SECOND more. If ANYONE is going to come to this website to get their self-esteem assaulted, it’s going to be YOU.
You have come here to manipulate black women, to tell them that there is no demand for them – including from most black men who ARE in demand – so they’d better take what they can get so they don’t stay lonely. Your agenda and my agenda are at a direct cross-purposes, so, to ME, YOU are the one who sounds hateful.
You lot should have stayed in your own corner of the ‘net.
@ Jen,
most of the Black men who have commented on here have done so as a DIRECT result of your assaults on them: otherwise you’d never had known they existed. You cannot live without them because you realize that they, and other men, cannot live with or tolerate you!
You are not well Jen. you are here to defend Black women but to assault Black men! Over 300 of the near 1000 posts on here are by you! How sad is that, really?
You are not well, Jen.
Menelik, don’t you ever get sick of the smell of your own bullshit? The black men were here attacking black woman before a single note of hostility was said towards them. YOU TALK LIKE THE PROOF IS NOT IN THE EARLY PAGES OF THESE COMMENTS. Initially the discussion was centred on the author’s remarks, THE ARTICLE, the definition of racism, and if any men were being discussed, it was WHITE men. BLACK MEN came in to make it ALL ABOUT THEM as per usual, and received scrutiny accordingly. Your whining is very characteristic of the black men who’ve commented on this article (and the whiny, “I’m a victim” mentality of AA men in general, but I digress).
There is a very, very simple solution to the problem of not liking my comments – go somewhere else. It’s really as simple as that. Do not continue engaging me and then whining like a typical emasculated black guy when I respond. I know how black men cannot deal with a woman who “talks back” – after all, that is how it came to be that black women get abused at more than double the rate of their white counterparts – but beating a dead horse/making comments directed at me when it was obvious that the conversation had come to an end is doing nothing but proving that you’re obsessed with me and can’t get me out of your mind. Whine, whine, whine, don’t you ever get sick of it?
@ Jen,
you really do like to throw mud all over the place, dontcha? Who are you accusing of saying “Black women deserved to be raped”? I never ever brought up the subject of sex or intimate relationships of any description.
Jen said:
I don’t deal with rejection by black men – they deal with rejection by ME.
Menelik says:
of the near 1000 posts on here, nearly three hundred of them are from you! How do you explain this highly personalized involvement you have with Black men on here? And of course, the constant racial insults aimed specifically at Black men ensure they raise to take your bait.
Jen, a few of us on here have some association with the area of psychology and behavior management: we are aware you’re a seriously disturbed individual who is clearly unable to maintain a relationship with a man of any race, let alone a white man.
What effects us, however, is the fact you refuse to “reject” involving yourself with Black men on here (you have been asked countless times to leave Black men alone). Cannot you not reject any mention of Black men and leave them to go about their lives online unmolested by your projected self-hatred (or racial and sexual envy if indeed you’re actually a white man, as some suspect)?
Let it go, Jen….please, just let it go.
Stop posting to me you obsessed freak of nature.
I see bitter lonely Jen from beyondblackandwhite is still on here kicking and crying. lol
It is ABSOLUTELY crazy that @Jen has been allowed to run rampant on this blog…bullying everyone, spouting off false facts, offer little to no support for anything that she states. @Jen is an ignorant, self hating bully that would rather insult others as opposed to working on herself. Its funny that so many people mistook her for being white. Actually…its sad! The thing is that people with a colonized mind begin to think, speak (in terms of what’s coming out not in tone), act, and identify with the colonizers. In many ways..@Jen suffers from Stockholm Syndrome.
She would lead us to believe that our issue is with the fact that she is with a white man. But that…as they say..is bullshit! The fact is many Black women date &/or marry inter-racially & still maintain a connection with their people & a commitment to their community. She would also have us believe that this article that we have been commenting on for what seems like FOREVER is simply about the writer not liking white men. This is not true!!! Racism is about institutional oppression. Systematically keeping certain groups of people down economically, politically, socially, & physically. NOBODY GIVES A FUCK WHO YOU DATE, SCREW, OR MARRY!!!! Racism IS NOT about dating..its about POWER+PRIVILEGE!
I encourage everyone to walk away from her tricks. Ignore her. She’s a very sad case for a woman, & the longer we entertain he bullshit…the longer we help her avoid the REAL work she is meant to do in this world…the work on herself!!!
Work on YOU @Jen…Work on YOU!!!
I’ll take your advice, sister Khymylove.
Please. That deluded heifer wishes she had a man.
Im still wondering if this thread can reach 1000 comments, so far it has exceeded my expectations…
Are black women aware that you all are the only race/nationality of women that down grade and put down men of your own race as much as you all do? There is no other race of women on the planet that ever singles out their own men to be-little them. Are you all not aware that people of every other culture knows how you feel? With this said, decent black men are all over the place and constantly being looked over. Most women would not recognize a decent man if he fell on her. When are black women going to stop blaming black men for their own superficial and irresponsible choices?
and yet black women are the least likely to date outside of their race. unlike bm who are the only race of men who date ir a lot.
sorry but i could easily say that bm are the only race of men who put down women of their own race.
sorry but your comment was stupid.
Does dating intraracially make one moral? I think not. Even if it did, you would have to demonstrate that black women are least likely to do so because they actively refuse that option more than any other demographic. I don’t think anybody belives that to be the case.
There is a difference between exercizing one’s options and putting down another. I think most people exercize their favorable options. No need for feelings of threat (from other men) or rejection (from black women) when black men exercise theirs. I have never, ever seen a group of black men uplifting another race and the expense of their own women. That is self hatred. That is what has happened here, happens at beyondblackandwhite, and countless other places.
DCK’s comment is accurate, far from stupid, and most importantly, corroborated by the comments on this very article. It is amazing that even women who claim to be in
happy relationships and want nothing to do with black men cannot seem to leave black men alone.
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The term “racist” has been hijacked by not only liberal whites, but also conservative whites, and racists whites. Our liberal “friends” have seized definitive authority over black Americans by trumpeting to the world who and what is “racist” in the name of African Americans in order to serve their own political agenda. Liberals also simultaneously use the word “racist” to jerk the black electorate around like a dog on a leash. They call something or someone racist, and we’re suppose to “sic ‘em.”
Conservatives have taken to calling black people “racist” who point to institutional racism, or just your plain ordinary garden variety everyday racism that we have always had to live with, and really isn’t going away. Somebody came of with the idea to box and block the impact of black opinions on race, by creating the term “post-racial”; which means you are not suppose to mention race, racism, or that American has a history of institutional, social and cultural racism; or that whites have been and are racist today.
So now, anybody black who works to improve, protect or promote African American culture might be called “racist”; by not only various politically oriented whites, but by culturally dimwitted black people.
The issue is- whites have defined black Americans as a color. That is their major fear-
losing their whiteness. Black man has a child with white woman, the child is not white.
White men can count. They want to prevent their numbers from dwindling. That is called self-preservation. It is the driving force behind all intelligent people. From the very beginning of our history here, white male fear of black male sex with white women has caused the deaths of countless black men. It has also apparently instilled an incredibly perplexing lust after white women among many black men.
However, the major issue for us should be that they recognize us as a culture with which the color comes; like Asians are recognized as cultural peoples who’s color is described as yellow. The Irish are considered a culture, whose expected color is white.
The same for Italians, Poles, and Africans. Each and every culture fights to maintain and improve their respective folk ways. They agree to inter-marry generally based on two main rules, and they are that the persons are of the same race and religion. That is why, in America, many Irish, Italians, and Poles inter-marry, because they are all Catholic and white.
By refusing to recognize that African Americans are a distinct culture, with a unique American heritage, our white “friends” reduce us to a political entity that can be controlled by politicians. (No other cultural groups are “controlled” by their politicians. The cultural group makes their representatives do what they want them to do. African Americans are encouraged to worship our politicians, like groupies worship rock stars.)They(a coalition of diverse democrats) hijacked our truly indigenous black leadership after MLK died(because they couldn’t control the SCLC), and eventually replaced them with paid Judas goats political lapdogs(like our two churchless reverends), who jerk African American culture around at the political will of their unseen overlords.
African Americans are a cultural people who have contributed greatly to the success of this nation. No other single ethnic group has sacrificed so much, to gain so little. We must return our attention to strengthening our culture. It is better to be culturally correct than politically correct. A culture protects those people who have been born into it. A culture consists of a long history of families and regional traditions. There is nothing more important to African American culture than the black family. We must teach our boys to become men who are committed to faithful, life-long marriage to one black woman. Men who are dedicated to their wives, will invariably love, protect, and promote the children from that union. Black men who expect this behavior from other black men, are the standard bearers for our people.
We must take control of the education of our children(particularly our boys), by using our vast church network to launch church-based education systems, networks, and common sound curriculum. Those church-school districts must set up sports and academic competitions. We must teach our young people to be decent, self-disciplined, responsible people. We must teach our young men how to be successful boys, respectful members of society, the business of how to make money, and how to be chivalrous young men who embrace the idea of love, romance and marriage to decent black girls. That is how sound families, communities and cultures are built. No other way will achieve this end. We must do it ourselves, and not be cajoled away from commitment and obligation to our own people by the manipulative machinations of culture-killing multicultural propaganda.
I see. So you use the word ‘preference’ as it is written in the oxford dictionary but not ‘racist’? Look up the term ‘Racism’ in that dictionary of yours, I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised to see the definition given is different from that which you have described here. I’m not saying you’re racist, we all have our preferences but the definition you have given is incorrect according to the dictionary……and all others that I have read.
Not valid point. Dictionary is in English from racist white folk. I assume you believe definition of the word “black” too. Much worse than N word. No African language defines black as such so learn your language to balance English version.
Wow. This article makes me proud again of African American. Glad to know somebody here feels like i do. Jen is definitely mentally ill – i am an expert. She could be a paid devils advocate however or terribly psychotic.
@ d-rhyme,
she most certainly is, sister!