QOTD: Could You Go A Year Without A Mirror?

by Danielle Pointdujour

As women we deal with body issues on a regular basis.  From the images in media to the ideas we have of how we feel we should look, it can be tough to accept one’s self as is.  We pick apart our bodies, our hair, our clothes, never feeling that we are truly good or beautiful enough.  Well Ph.D candidate Kjerstin Gruys has chosen a unique way to find self love. The teaching fellow at the UCLA Department of Sociology has sworn off looking in a mirror for an entire year — six months of which will lead up to her wedding.

As if it weren’t enough to not look in a mirror everyday to make sure you look good for lunch or a brunch date, imagine planning a wedding and having to simply trust that your body is perfect enough to pull of the most important outfit of your life.  That’s no small feat!  Gruys’ self-described “struggle with poor body image” made her wonder if a year without mirrors could lead to greater self-acceptance and appreciation for her body.

“I picked out my wedding gown before the project started. Looking in the mirror for hours and feeling critical of myself was one of the main motivators.  I want my wedding to be about my partner, Michael, and me, and about our loved ones—not about whether or not I dropped 10 pounds to squeeze into my dress.”

Gruys is chronicling the daily encounters and challenges of living a mirror-free life on her blog, Mirror, Mirror Off The Wall and even though she has met with some criticism for wearing light makeup or tanning, overall she seems to be doing pretty well.

While I’ve never counted how many times a day I’ve looked in a mirror to fix my hair, check for shine or pick my teeth (don’t judge me!), I do know that I am one of millions of women who look in the mirror from time to time and see things I could “fix” and often wonder what it would be like to not have that issue.  I commend Gruys and wish her well on her path to self love and acceptance, and hopefully her story can encourage someone else to start their own journey and love themselves just a little bit more.

Could you go mirror-free for a year?

  • CurlySue

    Hell no!! How would I know if I have a booger in my nose? Or food in my teeth? Or if the part in my hair got jacked up. Mirrors are necessary for more than just giving yourself a daily insult session lol.

  • http://afrikanmami.blogspot.com African Mami

    LMAO! If you want me looking like a scarecrow out to make kids have heart attacks, sure why not!

    I use a mirror for what it is supposed to be used for, not for some type of validation.

  • http://www.curlyhairandstuff.com Nikkisunshine

    I’m a Leo. So, that’s not happening.

  • soulfullyreal

    A year w/o a mirror? So i’m just gonna guess that my make up is applied evenly, FOH…

  • AJ

    yep! did it for year when i worked overseas in Asia in less-than-ideal situation. the best thing i ever did. in the only 3 or 4 times i had the chance to see a mirror, i actually looked better because i was so busy getting on with life that i didn’t even think about vanity, or worry about what others thought of me

  • OSHH

    I went about two years without a full length mirror, all I had was the small bathroom joint LOL

  • Candy 1

    I couldn’t do it because I have to look presentable. I am working on my own business, and although the work I do (will be doing) is alone, I have to meet with clients. But I do notice how looking in the mirror makes me feel more self conscious (bad thing). If I could afford to do it, I would.

  • Dalili

    I think I could do it.

  • wuluwulu

    For practical reasons, no.

  • Tami

    No way I could do this & I wouldn’t want to. Like CurlySue said, what if you have food in your teeth? That has happened to me & I need a mirror in order to remove it. I’m not obsessed with looking at myself.

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