Recently the internet buzzed with the news that Oakland Raiders quarterback Jason Campbell called off his wedding to Yenicia “Jenny” Montes at the last minute. Though Campbell denies leaving his fiancé at the altar, it still got me to thinking – is it better to call the wedding off at the last minute, or live through a miserable marriage and possibly a nasty divorce?
Jason Campbell isn’t the first celeb to call off their wedding in the final minutes of the game. Basketball Wives star Kesha Nichols was left at the altar when her NBA fiancé Richard Jefferson called things off and Kelly Rowland decided to nix her plans to marry NFL baller Roy Williams back in 2005. As embarrassing as it sounds to have to call off your wedding at the last minute, one thing each of these celebs will tell you is that it was probably the best decision they ever made.
Kelly Rowland spoke to Essence last year about her decision to call off her wedding saying:
“I was too young for marriage. It was so hard and embarrassing because everyone knew. I’d posed for the front cover of Modern Bride in my wedding dress and it was on sale! But sometimes you fall down and you learn from it.”
Even though Kelly mentioned that the embarrassment kept her from leaving the house, many would call the choice responsible decision making. She realized that she was moving too fast and instead of moving forward with a bad decision, she made the decision to call it off and 7 years later is a much better woman for it. However, think of all the men and women who aren’t strong enough to make that call. Who let the fear of embarrassment, disappointment and even loneliness keep them from calling off their wedding and are now living in miserable marriages trying to “make the best of it” but secretly wishing they could turn back time.
Calling off a big event like a wedding is definitely a tough decision to make and having to admit to yourself and others that you’ve made a mistake is an even bigger pill to swallow. But marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It may seem like blissful fun when you’re planning the wedding, but the actual marriage is hard work. If you’re having second thoughts about getting married, the adult thing to do is to take a step back and reevaluate the situation and whether that happens 6 months before the wedding or 6 minutes, the only thing that matters is that you don’t make a commitment that you know you’re not ready for.
Could you call off your wedding last minute?