Love. Apparently you stink at it. Everyone says so. And by everyone, I mean statistics. Statistics say you blow at this. Goodness! Why can’t you just get it together, gurl? I’m sure you’ll say you just need more time, or you’re above all this, or you *gag* like being single, or that life is bigger than partnering up to pop some guy’s pimples for the rest of his life because he can’t be bothered to wash his face properly.

Well, BALDERDASH! That’s not getting Meemaw any great-grandbabies!

For those of you who are trying to get married this century and are not sitting around feeling all smug and self-satisfied with “Independent Women, Pt. 1” by Destiny’s Child still blaring in your head, maybe you’ve thought what you really need to land a man is your own personal dating spirit animal, aka a “Dating Guru.”

What’s a Dating Guru? Well, that is a self-proclaimed someone who says they know more about getting Meemaw some grandbabies than you. But in these days of Think Like A Man, Die Alone With Your Cats which guru is worth listening to and which ones are just trying to get that Steve Harvey money?

Lucky for you I didn’t have anything else better to do and decided to rate these yokels.

Steve Harvey

Claim-to-Fame: Long-time comedian, founding “King of Comedy,” purveyor of brightly colored suits, radio jock and teller of you to “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.”

Quote: “(A woman’s love) stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. Well, I’m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love— that perfection—from a man is unrealistic. That’s right, I said it—it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how. Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love.”

Main Philosophy: Young men are crappy. You are unhappy because you won’t accept this. Your love is pure and delicate like a flower, but they want ass. Get it straight and try dating Steve…I mean…an older distinguished gentleman who knows how to treat a Miss Boss Lady right. Short of that, have you tried just accepting that all men who aren’t Steve Harvey are terrible? Because apparently, according to Steve, gurl they are.

Verdict: If you only date in stereotypes (Men Are From Jerktown, Women Are From Unrealistic Fairytale Expectations Planet), this is the book for you.

Tyrese Gibson

Claim-to-Fame: Singer, actor, Baby Boy, prolific nonsensical Tweeter, “author.”

Quote: “Some women are so on this independent kick, they end up alone. You’re going to independent your way into loneliness. You go off and buy all the little poodles you want. ‘At least my dog is happy to see me when I get home every day.’ That dog or ‘rabbit’ will never be able to replace what a real man can do for you.”

Main Philosophy: If you think you’re lonely now, wait until you die alone with all your cats, girl. Did I mention it’s your fault? It’s your fault.

Verdict: Tyrese is ideal if you just never read anything he writes and only watch the 1998 video for “Lately” on repeat. Remember “Lately”? Back when you didn’t know what Tyrese thought and he was just some hot guy pitching woo to Maia Campbell on a bus? Where’d that do go? I know too much now. We can’t go back to what we once had, Tyrese.

Hill Harper

Claim-to-fame: Actor, activist, author. Basically the three A’s. He does it all. Including give you love advice in “The Conversation”

Quote: “I’m very passionate about life and I want my soul mate to be equally passionate – and we don’t have to be passionate about the same things. She can be passionate about being a florist or a teacher or a mother. She should approach life from the stance that the glass is always half full. My soul mate should have her own sense of joy and a relationship with God.”

Main Philosophy: Optimism. Yeah. It stinks right now, but Hill Harper believes in you. Sure, he hasn’t really figured it out either, but he’s willing to talk about it, gurl. Let’s figure it out together!

Verdict: As a never-married, Harper admitted a while back to former CNN anchor T.J. Holmes he knows he’s part of the “problem” in a way, but that could only mean that for at least one woman he could be the “solution.” So … find out where Hill Harper lives and stalk him until he puts a ring on it.

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  • Socially Maladjusted

    Why would anyone take advice from a dating guru? A dating guru is someone too stupid to know that sexual attraction is too random for any tactic to be consistently reliable.

    Dating advice is useless because it’s meaningless, I’d prefer advice on how to read people. I’d read up on the tactics of professional con-men, poker players, or mediums.


    • Leo the Yardie Chick

      “Dating advice is useless because it’s meaningless, I’d prefer advice on how to read people. I’d read up on the tactics of professional con-men, poker players, or mediums.”

      ^THIS! Where are those self-help books, and talk shows?

    • Christina

      Oh, sh*t. Excellent idea!

  • Rosey

    Wonderful article!

  • Ever notice these so-called “dating gurus” are terrible at relationships in their personal lives? Just thought I should throw that out there…

    • CaSweetface

      Agreed! They are all complete relationship failures or serial daters so I’m not sure how they self proclaim expert status on landing a man. And Paul, he’s a really nice guy but offers nothing new to the table by the way of dating. Everything he has to offer is 100% common sense and simplistic. I guess if you need encouragement he’s good but dont look to him or any of these people to crack the code of “landing a man.” I’m sick of this whole genre and have come to ignore it at this point.

    • Serria Says…
      You haven’t heard from me. Look I’m not a dating guru, I’m a dog whisperer, trained by the best. I too don’t understand how Men can tell you how to get a Man? Even gay guys don’t deal with men like we do. Everyone has great intentions but horrible follow through. We need Actions! What do you need to do exactly to go on more dates, what do you need to do when you are on the date. What exactly needs to be done. Do you know how many of my girlfriends didn’t know?

      I’m married (and if my hubby died today I could marry again, within a year) and I don’t sugar coat. My girlfriends who want to be married, are getting married. Sure I have some stubborn friends who want to pretend as if they don’t know what’s going on and why they are single in their late 30s. They want me to cosign on their crazy instead of tell them what needs to be done. Being single after 30 is like being overweight, it’s real easy for me to see why we are the way you are and what needs to be tweaked.

      I love your post and your granny. Give me a year and I will get a ring on your finger. Plus you will have great stuff to write about :-)

      Yeah, I’m that good!

    • Steve Harvey looks like a fool trying to tell women how do make a relationship work. He’s been married three times!!! I’m looking at him like “Man, if you don’t sit down somewhere and shut the entire hell up, I know something!!!” LMAO!!!

    • I read a similar article on your blog, PA.

      Maybe it is because love is a business whether it is music, movies, or self-help. But few are masters in it.

    • Yeah, that’s something I noticed about these characters. There are people who have made a good living off dating advice, but it seems disingenous coming from quite a bit of them. I don’t know about you, but I’m not taking relationship advice from someone who can’t keep their own house in order.

    • CaSweetface

      I agree, this is definitely a business at this point but what annoys me are the people that keep giving advice but cant keep their house in order as you said. We never hear from the people like my parents who have been happily married for 32 years or my grandparents who were married over 50 years. Those are the people that need to be writing books and giving advice if advice is really needed. I take my life, love and relationship cues from people who have worked at it and done a pretty good job in the process.

  • lynette

    LOL!!…I needed this laugh this week! I especially liked the one about granny…I think we all have the same grandmother…wanting a “chubby cheeked”…you hit that one on the nose!

    Steve Harvey is a hustler…it’s what he does best…I can’t knock his hustle…I just wish black women didn’t get so caught up sometimes…and at the end of the day if granny wasn’t so hard pressed for little “chubby cheeks” then you could probably have an interesting conversation with her about men…she’s the best guru out of all of them…

  • Tami

    I loved this article…very entertaining….Don’t hate me, but I love Steve Harvey’s advice…It has worked for me!!!