It’s the most tried and true — arguably — one of the most lucrative, and not to mention, oldest professions in the world. The reputation of those who participate in it has been sullied since time immemorial. But the morality of it is, at best, nebulous, in my opinion.

The dictionary defines prostitution as, “the act or practice of engaging in sexual intercourse for money.” But this definition, which most people subscribe to, supplies no meaning for those who choose to engage in pro bono sex. What is the antonym for the word prostitute, and why isn’t there a pejorative connotation associated with giving away free sex?

We all do it. Our mamas, our grandmamas, and our grandmama’s mamas before that. An elder woman, old enough to be my grandmama, once told me quite matter-of-factly that “a lady should never be wet between the legs with dry palms.” It wasn’t until many years later that I deciphered the meaning of her cryptic message. This was a woman who had been married for 40-plus years, respectable by all of society’s arbitrary standards, bore children who wed and graduated from college, attended church regularly, and was a doting grandmother — sage advice. Another friend, who also happens to be a married, educated mother, politely interjected into one of our conversations about dating and courtship: “Well you’re not supposed to have sex with a man if you don’t have his social security number.” Both of these remarks by these married women imply their feelings that sex should not be had without some form of recompense. But I have a feeling that neither of these ladies would view themselves as women of ill repute — and neither do I. However, if the very definition of prostitution presupposes a monetary transaction of some kind, are these married women engaging in a form of prostitution?

Some years ago a college coed garnered news headlines, which received national attention. She had devised a plan, a quite savvy one in fact, to sell her virginity online (I would have guessed she was a business student, turns out she was a Women’s Studies major, go figure). Bids reached up to 3.7 million dollars for one night of pleasure with the unsullied virgin. She eventually brokered a deal to be ‘deflowered’ at the infamous Moonlite BunnyRanch where the suitor paid a reported $1 million dollars to have sex with the young coed. She, in turn, received $600,000 from the deal. Before they consummated the deal, the guy was sent through a rigorous background check and was free of venereal diseases. I know a lot of ladies must have been thinking to themselves, “With all the bad free sex I’ve had in my life, that wasn’t such a bad idea.”

There are countless examples of the exchange of money and material items for sex that inundate our television sets daily. Marlo Hampton, the newest addition to the Real Housewives of Atlanta admitted that her ‘Big Poppa’ was a “Billionaire with a B.” I guess ‘Big Poppa’ in this instance is a euphemism for a ‘trick’ or a ‘John.’ She appears to be compensated very well for her services, boasting an immaculately designed townhome, a paid for Aston Martin, and an endless collection of designer attire. These are obviously material items that she holds in high esteem and is willing to work for in the form of sexual favors. But again, would she refer to herself as a prostitute? Probably not, but — by definition — that essentially is what it is.

1 2 
Like Us On Facebook Follow Us On Twitter
  • Contrary to her “progressive & liberal” stance, the author fails to make to correlation between the sex trade & continued violence against women/girls. Ensuring that a tangible RELATIONSHIP exists prior to intercourse is not equal to bartering.

  • winston

    Every men should have experience with prostitute before They get married.Because the way women act nowadays it will be surprise when later in the relashionship you realize that your wife is nothing different from the hookers on the track.By example my cousin wife is threatening to divorce him if he dont built her a nice house in a rich neigboorhood.They are all the same only a wife will charge more.And the funny thing is a lot of them look ugly .

  • winston

    One thing i really dont understand is.Why married men go around looking for prostitute when They have a wife.I have three friends They are all married.But They be calling me all the time about They need a girl to spend time with. Because They know that i am And i live alone.So i tell go up in the street street And look for one i am not a pimp.Thats why prostitution will never Stop.For a married men it cost too much to take care of your wife your kids And prostitutes.Unless you are a rich men,but if you depend on weekly paycheck you might as well stick with either your wife or,,prostitution you cant doing both at the same if you live paycheck after paycheck.

    • Jean Deaux

      Maybe there are certain acts that the wife won’t perform….maybe it’s the enjoyment of “free” sex. what i mean by that is in some marriages, sex is doled out as a reward or a “you’ll take it when I’m ready to give it” type of situation. with a Pro, give your money, bada-bing, bada-bang, everything’s good. maybe you don’t go home and kick the dog (not literally).

  • prostitution here in the philippnes are form of livelihood by some in order to have a money.

  • prostitution alos is sexual relations in exchange for economic gain