While I was reading this insightful op-ed that actress Ashley Judd wrote to the media after all of the criticism she received about her puffy face, the part of her piece where she spoke about how she stopped reading comments about herself a long time ago really stuck out to me. I have read about many celebrities who stopped reading what others had to say about them, whether good or bad, in order to happily be the person they are without judgment.
We live in a society where people feel that they have the right to comment on the lives of others they have never met. In the case of a celebrity one could argue that these people place themselves in the public eye and therefore are subject to all kinds of scrutiny. This may be true, but they are not obligated to read or listen to any of them. The more “advice” you take from people the more confused and discouraged you become. You try to please your nay-sayers and keep your supporters happy at the same time. When you attempt to please everyone you really end up disappointing people and driving yourself crazy.
From reading comments on various sites, I have learned that there are some people who love to be negative. No matter how positive a story may be, they just have to point out something that is wrong. It amazes me sometimes how much strangers have to say about people that they don’t know, but this is the precise reason I understand why reading comments is poisonous. They are written by people who don’t know you, but feel that they have the right to dictate to you what you should and shouldn’t do. The only comments that should matter to anyone are the ones that come from your loved ones, the people who know you the most. The comments, advice and critiques of anyone else should be null and void.
People can say whatever they want about you, but that doesn’t mean you have to listen or care.