Don’t Depend On a Man to Validate Your Success

by Risa Dixon

On Sunday, TMZ reported that basketball wife (and I use the term loosely) Royce Reed requested for the gag order that the father of her son, Dwight Howard, placed on her in 2009 be lifted. Reed cites that there are certain issues that she would like to be able to discuss including that Howard’s mental state is sketchy and he has funny substances laying around the house their son shouldn’t see. She could be making this request due to Howard wanting full custody of their son, or could it be that she is trying to spice up her role on “Basketball Wives.”

Reed was a former dancer for the Orlando Magic and now she is pursuing her acting career (she landed a role in the Broadway show Platanos and Collard Greens). She has also talked about creating her own fitness/dance dvd on the show. She has never mentioned anything about Howard nor her son, which is what some people really care about. She is often viewed as the boring cast member on the show which means her recurring role could be in danger. The one way she can ensure her spot is to be able to talk about her relationship with Howard and his parenting habits.

As women, we should never have to depend on a man to validate our success. The fact that Reed apparently needs to be able to bad mouth the father of her child in public in order to stay relevant is sad. The gag order does not apply to the court room. If this was just about making sure she retained custody of her son, she could easily present all of her evidence in court before a judge. If this gag order is lifted she will be able to speak about the basketball player in detail on the show and in interviews.

You should have enough going for yourself that you don’t need to rely on a man or your past life in order to get a pay check. The fact that Reed is one of the less dramatic women on the show is a good thing, in my opinion.


Do you think the judge should lift the gag order?

  • Stephanie

    Um, Dwight Howard is no godly man as you want him to be. He attempted to sue Royce Reed for posting pictures of her own son on twitter. Do you know the whole story or are you just bombarding the woman with accusations because she’s on the basketball wives show? You’re making it seem as if she has done something wrong. I’ve watched his documentary where he stated that he was ashamed of what people would think if he had a kid because he’s supposed to be the Christian example in the NBA league. If you’re going to write an opinion piece to attack a woman, you must do so with facts. I don’t find Royce Reed to be boring. She just doesn’t engage in drama as how others would love for her to do.

  • Grant

    As a Magic fan and Orlando native I have to say that Dwight is anything but reputable. He is a me first guy through and through. Doesn’t care about his kids, his coach, his city, nothing. I hope Royce gets everything she wants from him and more.

  • kisa

    Not a fan of Royce’s but I think the title and the context of this post is silly and a blatant attack on Royce. The gag order is preventing her from being able to discuss her son. HELLO… “HER SON”. If you were in her shoes, would you want someone prohibiting you from talking about your blessing. Royce has fans on her own, so she is good. She will always have people voting to keep her on BBW. So I don’t believe making money or trying to keep her slot is her sole purpose to getting rid of the gag order. But then again, i do not know her personally.

  • Tonton Michel

    What she is doing is not what I would call seeking validation.

  • Nita


  • MySister’sKeeper

    This article is horrible. Maybe you should gather some facts for that conclusion.

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  • Bosslady

    This article was pointless. No context was given into Royce’s situation, and to state that she is doing it to seek validation is presumptious.

  • Ms. Information

    Father’s also have rights and if he does not want his child on a reality show or involved in the mess that is BBW, he has that right….reality shows are not positive and child friendly…the women end up talking about and dogging each other’s children….

  • mamareese

    Can I be real with ya’ll…..this is not about helping anyone or a mental state….this is about getting a paycheck for some dirt……Come on call a spade a spade now……She couldn’t say anything before cause he’d sue her tail. Ya’ll know what basketball wives has been about….a bunch of baby mamas and exes mad because they are just that. Childsupport is exactly what it says it’s for and these chicks are trying to chase paper to get the lifestyle back that they had with their ex. Im not mad…get your money but don’t mudsling or bring up something 2-3 years later to do it.

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