Have You Ever Been Struck with Body Envy?

by Frugivore

From Frugivore – You’ve made some time to get to the gym and get your work out on, but once you get inside your ‘go get ‘em’ attitude turns to one of anxiety, shame or even jealousy once you spot them. The person with the body you wish you had. Just seeing them working out, looking all good and ‘perfect’ makes you want to run and hide.

Sure you don’t think you’re some hideous swamp monster, but you have to admit that you’re a bit envious of this other person’s body and wish you could do more than wish you looked like them.

All of a sudden the wind is knocked out of your workout sail and you feel a bit inadequate working out next to them.

It may not happen often, but surely at some point it has happened to all of us … body envy. That jealous, inadequate feeling when you see some one in the gym (or anywhere) who has the body type you feel like you’re struggling to, or never will, achieve.

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  • Anon

    Body envy? Is there no limit for the new practice of making up new terms that used to be called jealousy and laziness?

  • Dreaming

    I mostly have an athletic shape, so I don’t so much have ‘body envy’. However, I do wish to go back to having a flat stomach, but I don’t feel jealous. Just inspired.

  • df

    I have face envy more so than body envy. Some women can go three days with 3 hours of sleep and still look ok. Me, I morph into a sea creature….it’s insane….

  • OSHH

    Naw, I just focus on and work what I have and keeps it moving.

  • http://afrikanmami.blogspot.com African Mami

    Envy?! I desire!!! and give props where due!

  • chanela

    Ugh yes heavily! i hate how my body looks when i’m thin and i hate how my body looks when i gain weight. i wish i had wide hips and a small waist like hispanic women but that will never happen because you can’t gain that,its genetics. i hate how i’m 21 and i’ve never been overweight but i’ve always had stretchmarks and cellulite on my thighs,it hurts to see women with like 4 or 5 kids with 0 cellulite and 0 stretchmarks and 1000% Better looking than me and i have no kids at all. that’s embarassing. it makes me angry and wanting to cry.

  • c0c0puffz

    I wish I could get washboard abs but I was born with a pooch. I workout everyday and lose fat everywhere except my stomach.

  • omfg

    try not to pay attention to anyone else at the gym. i don’t care for the bodies of white and asian girls, so i rarely envy them – they don’t have any ass on them.

    sometimes when i’m not at the gym and see a girl with nice legs, i get a bit envious. despite the running and biking i do, i wish they were better. oh well. i shouldn’t complain. things could be worse.

  • omfg

    abs are made in the kitchen.

  • http://1stamend-kisa-kisa.blogspot.com/ kisa

    I always envision Beyonce and now after this past weekend of seeing “Think Like a Man”, I am thinking of Meagan Goode. Oh how I wish I could just wake up and have their bodies. I’ll take any one of them.

  • Dalili

    Hey Sister!

  • Dalili

    A friend recently asked me whose body I most envied and I couldn’t come up with one single person, still can’t. I have shoe or dress maybe even purse envy, but never body envy. I do acknowledge great physiques but that’s where it ends for me.

  • binks

    No, I don’t have body envy because I love my body but I do use other women’s bodies as inspiration. I just look at it as taking what I have and making it better….shrugs. Because being envious isn’t going to get me anywhere so why bother

  • lostluv224

    Beydamnonce !!!

    but i have a cute shape, so i’ll take it lol

  • golden_girl

    Yes!!!!!! I mean…fit women and men motivate me to keep it up and work harder but MY GOD these chicks have no stomach AND an ass. Like dang. But they don’t have legs to there like me…..heheheheh!

  • http:www.chicnoirhouse.blogspot.com Chic Noir

    Yes I have haha. I think the women who really bring it out is the young Tyra Banks and 90′s top model Yasmeen Ghauri.

    Video of Yasmeen^^^

    I’ve seen a few sisters built like young Tyra but I’ve never ever seen another woman who had a figure like Yasmeen Ghauri. Even among the models of her time, her figure was distinctive.

    There was a super fit lady whose tumblr fitness blog was linked here a few weeks ago, she has a very nice figure. I also like the shape of Jennifer Hudson’s remade body.

  • http:www.chicnoirhouse.blogspot.com Chic Noir

    That jealous, inadequate feeling when you see some one in the gym (or anywhere) who has the body type you feel like you’re struggling to, or never will, achieve.

    Wow jealous, jealous seems like such a mean spirited word. How about a little envious and wanting to give props to the next woman for having a nice figure and wishing you had the same.

    Jealous seems very catty, not every woman spends a lot of time hating other women because they are better looking or at least I don’t but I do notice women who are nice looking and very good looking.

    I give props where props are due, don’t hate congratulate.

  • OSHH

    Thats what the word envy means though, jealously is not a nice trait.

    I can acknowledge fit and fly folks without wishing I had what they had but rather like Binks be a lil mo inspired doing my own thang.

  • OSHH

    Of course proper nutrition is key in sculpting ab defintion but genetics have a major role there as well.

  • omfg

    oh please. just about anyone can achieve a flat stomach with exercise and a good diet.

    people overplay genetics a bit too much. it’s ridiculous and a cop out.

    most people are just lazy about their diet and exercise. they over estimate the amount of energy exerted during exercise and underestimate the amount of calories they consume and are not honest about the kind of food they eat.

    i know all about the genetic lottery. everyone in my family is overweight, has high blood pressure, etc. except me. you can influence your genetic expression. of course, now some of the people in my family are doing a vegan diet and are dropping weight like crazy.

    nope, can’t blame your genetics on everything about you – skin color, height, eye color, yes.

    flat stomach? – no.

  • OSHH

    Goodness, LOL it’s a fact that genetics plays a role in whether someone will have “flat” taunt stomach or serious ab definition 6 pack or whatever.
    I believe I spoke to ab definition not just a stomach being flat or taunt. SMH.

  • iQgraphics

    Completely agree.
    I have no envy of any kind. That’s not a mood or mode I possess.

  • apple

    Nope but face and hair envy? Sure

  • itsme

    I never had body envy before I had my two kids because I had a tight little body ;-)
    But now I feel envious ESPECIALLY when I see a woman with 2 or more kids with the body I used to have! I always wonder why they got to have a flat tummy and tight thighs after baby and I don’t…I was left with a pooch, jiggly thighs, and stretch marks… *sigh*

  • http:www.chicnoirhouse.blogspot.com Chic Noir

    This is off topic but it’s about health. Can anyone believe this sort of thing is happening in America? What the hell is happening to this country.


  • gmarie

    I’ve had bodyTYPE envy in the past. but as you get older you learn to accept the things are are possible vs. the things that are impossible for your body, and work to make it look as nice as it can look with what you have to work with.

  • http://afrikanmami.blogspot.com African Mami

    @ sistooooo,
    Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy girrrrrrl!!!!! *waving like a mad woman*

    @ iQgraphics,

  • omfg

    don’t lie.

    were you fit before you became pregnant?

    some people had naturally tight bodies before pregnancy but rarely exercised. after pregnancy, it was difficult to get their bodies back because they didn’t have fit abs or thighs to begin with. they were just young and maybe a little lucky.

  • http://itsoftenbeensaid.wordpress.com Sasha


  • E.M.S.

    Turn that jealously into inspiration and MOTIVATION. I’ve never been jealous of another girl with a nice body, she put in the work to get it. And if I do the same I’ll have similar results.

    If you defeat yourself before you even try you’ll never see any changes. DUH.

  • itsme

    Yes I was fit. I was 5’1″ and 110lbs. I’m not overweight now according to BMI charts. It’s just that all of the weight I gained during both of my pregnancies ended up in my tummy, thighs, and hips.

  • Shirl

    I envy the body I had at 20.

  • omfg

    i don’t know what you mean when you say you were fit. you didn’t say you actually exercised.

    when i was 22 i weighed about 105 and i’m about the same height. but that didn’t come from exercise. that came from being young and not eating like a pig.

    my ab muscles are hard from exercise. a nurse i know told me i would probably bounce back after pregnancy (esp. with breastfeeding) because they were tight to begin with. the muscles of people who really reach a nice level of fitness have memory. they are often able to recondition themselves a lot easier than other people after they have not been exercising.

    this is why i question your fit assertion. it’s also one of the reasons why women are told to get in shape prior to pregnancy – your muscles will bounce back with greater ease after delivery.

  • Chrissy

    I have envy when I see women my same size or bigger with no stretch marks.

  • http://changecomesslow.com/2011/05/18/working-out-the-wrap/ Nikesha

    everytime i see janet jackson #bodyenvy

    my yoga instructor she’s so damn strong and so tiny #bodyenvy

  • itsme

    Okay… In order to put this question of me actually being ‘fit’ to bed. At 22, I was around 97lbs., and this was mostly due to youth and high metabolism. When I got pregnant with my first child 3 1/2 years ago at 32, I was only 110lbs., and I had very tight abs. In fact, they were so tight that I was extremely uncomfortable during the early stages of my pregnancy when my abdomen was stretching. So I think that qualifies me as being pretty fit. I did not pig out, still don’t, and I do moderate exercise when I have the time. I had my 2nd child 15 months ago.
    If you have not had any kids yet, my sincere wishes in you bouncing back after your pregnancy. It is possible, but not exactly for many women, myself included.

  • omfg

    fitness comes with exercise.

    so, you were not fit. this is why your body turned out the way it did.

    not trying to be mean or combative or anything. but, i knew you weren’t seriously fit prior to your pregnancy by your posts.

    people look at beyonce and wonder why/how she looks so good post preg. well, it’s because she was fit – not slender because she’s young – but fit because she is a workout fiend and takes great care of her body pre-pregnancy.

    exercising when you have the time does not equal fitness.

    i can tell by posts people who watch their diets and are dedicated exercisers.

    you’ll just need to workout regularly and eat clean to get your body back.

  • Candy 1

    I admire other women for having great bodies, but do not envy them because I know that it takes hard work to have a great body. I like my body. It could use some improvement, but that’s why I’m constantly working to make it better. I’m a runner, and I work out 6 days per week, and I’m giving vegetarianism a second run (I tried it for a while, and it didn’t work for me and made me feel sick, but I think I know where I went wrong with my nutrition). I’m a work in progress…

  • D

    Yes, and it’s not good. I envy the way other women look. I agree with Candy 1 that it takes a lot of work and that is something that I think. Sometimes I do something crappy like thinking badly of a really (particularly conventionally) good looking and fit woman, even one that is dressed a bit skimpy. Then I remind myself how much work she puts in to look that good and, if men are flocking to her, the kind of positivity and serenity she probably has cultivated that makes her someone men want to be around. And that I don’t know her :) Comparing myself to other women just takes the focus off improving myself. This is why I either use the treadmill when it’s less packed or exercise tape or take classes like yoga or spin where there is some solidarity between women/you won’t be judged.

  • D

    Go you for trying vegetarianism again! I’ve been seriously considering starting to move raw vegan (I’m an omnivore), but it’s a bit extreme. Partly because I see a lot of people so energized, dropping excess weight, and their skin much clearer on it. And I know that, at the very least, it would up my energy count. One thing I don’t like is I am not a particular fan of cheese and hear there is a withdrawal period after quitting it. One thing I definitely recommend whether or not you choose to be a vegan is green juices or smoothies to supplement your diet/consumption of vegetables and to try and get in your 6 servings a day of greens and different color vegetables/fruits, that’s one thing I’m trying. Also, I have been researching alternate protein sources and I find that chia seeds, hemp seeds, and maybe flax might be very good for supplementing protein and omega 3′s as well as dark green vegetables and varieties of beans. But, chia seeds (which are great for running) have been dilating my pupils and it’s freaking me out. I am eating sardines lately to supplement my omega 3 intake. I’m one of those people that is pro almond and anti unfermented soy and dairy, too. So there’s that. Let’s just say this topic’s been on my mind lately :)

  • http://motionandrest.wordpress.com Steph…In Motion

    @chanela Don’t waste your 20s hating your body. One day you’ll look back like “I didn’t know how good I had it.” Even though I’m in much better shape now than I was when I was your age, I wish I’d appreciated my young body instead of covering up “flaws”. I hope you learn to accentuate your assets and love what’s yours.

  • Candy 1

    I was already drinking fruit smoothies as a meat eater, but now I’ll probably incorporate more vegetables. I am a fruit and nut lover, so after my second serving of fruit, I tend to not want any more all day.

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