Let Karma Handle It
“When you’re doing well in life, it’s par for the course certain individuals will try and knock you down,” former Family Matters star Jaleel White said in a recent statement about the very public claims made by his ex-girlfriend Bridget Hary that he was physically and verbally abusive during the course of their relationship.
Although only White and Hary know what actually happened, it’s certainly not an unfamiliar story. Almost inevitably, your ex-boo hurt you and before you know it, they’ve moved on, not only with their love life, but they seem to be succeeding in every other aspect of life as well. And it just seems so unfair.
I never realized that Karma doesn’t always work when you want her too until I had my first real heartbreak in high school. Back then, I learned that she has her own schedule.
When I was a freshman, I had the biggest crush on the same guy for three months and it was no secret amongst my group of small girlfriends, which is why I was shocked when I spotted one of them holding his hand at lunch over chicken fingers and fries. I cringed at the sight, ran out of the cafeteria and vented to my other friends that she was officially out of the circle. She had done the unthinkable, and surely karma would come her way, right?
But it didn’t. My ex-friend went on to be my crush’s girlfriend for over a year, she succeeded in her academics and sports and had a great time doing it all. The worse part about it is that although she did later apologize to me, there was nothing genuine about her regret. I don’t think she was ever really sorry or cared about my feelings one bit. She only said it to make herself feel better. Either way I was hurt by the entire thing and said a silent prayer that she would learn her lesson even if I never got a front row seat to witness the payback.
Although that was a long time ago and I’d forgotten all about it, recently an old high school friend brought it all back up, telling me that my ex-bestie had married early, but was in the middle of an ugly divorce. And while I didn’t get any joy from the news of her heartbreak (it was high school after all)–or feel anything at all for that matter—I wondered if her situation was karma rearing its head.
Whether it’s the married man that cheats on his wife with seemingly no consequences, the parent who abandons their child, the backstabber at work, or the man or woman who broke your heart so bad that you’re convinced you’ll never be in love again, don’t seek revenge, wish them harm or even get mad at their supposed successes.
Bid them adieu, let go of the pain they caused you, and move on.
In the end, the Universe never forgets, and your big sister Karma will be waiting.
Someone once said, “don’t seek revenge on the people who did you wrong, God can take care of them far better than you can.”
And I certainly agree with that.
I used to go out with one of my male friends. When he started seeing someone else I was annoyed because I wondered how someone who acted so horribly could easily find someone else. I wished he could feel the same hurt I did. And then it actually happened. What he did to me happened to him, although he got played a lot worse than I did. And to be honest, seeing him utterly devastated with tears in eyes did not bring the happy feeling I thought it would. I felt downright horrible.
However since then I’ve gotten two really sincere and heartfelt apologies from him. And we remain the best of friends now. It’s great to get an “I love you” from him or have him be my cheerleader.
In my case it was really eerie that all the things he did to me were done to him. I believe that the bad things you do come back to you.
I too, after much deliberation dated one of my male friends, someone I knew for 8 years. We had a terrible conversation in January, in which he told me that he wasn’t in love with me, and that I should move on that that he has by dating other people, something he lied about when I asked him directly. I’m still extremely embittered by the entire situation, and right now, being friends is not an option because I no longer trust him, and the things he said to me were so hurtful. He’s abroad now, and I thought (and still think) about writing him or calling him in order to tell him what a terrible person I think he is. But I won’t, not because I think he’ll ‘get his’, karmically, but because I think that type of expression wouldn’t be good for myself– it isn’t the type of energy I want to give out, and I don’t think it would, in the long run, aid my healing process.
I found comfort in your post. Maybe he will apologize and we can be friends eventually like you and your friend. Who knows? For now, just trying to focus on being positive :)
Maybe I am missing something here (I get the point of your story) but her karma had nothing to do with stealing your crush. He was only your crush and never your boyfriend nor husband – she was never the other woman. Her bad luck with her divorce is just that, bad luck.
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. I know it makes people feel better when they’ve been wronged and the person who hurt them gets hurt back, but all the time it isn’t “karma”. I mean I think it is wrong to swoop in on a guy that your best friend seems to really be into, but that is a big difference from a girl getting with her best friend’s boyfriend, and it isn’t the same. This girl just happened to be in a marriage gone wrong…I doubt that is karma, that’s something called ‘adult problems’.
Agreed! high school girls often have crushes on the same boys. The friend could have told you that they were interested in each other so you wouldn’t have found out in that way. And that was just a mistake many young girls make. Her divorce doesn’t seem like karma to me.
Naw, I don’t think Karma exists.
So my dear,
What do you believe in?
Why don’t you think Karma is not real?
I would really like to know.
Ensom – My personal life experiences are the reason I don’t believe in karma. What I believe is that, for whatever reason some people are just less fortunate than others.
I definitely believe in Karma…the author’s situation probably wasn’t the best example of it though LOL.
This article was interesting….I believe in karma but I also believe that life just happens to all of us rather we do right or wrong…We all experience good & bad things in life. I don’t believe you can just go through your existence without any problems.
YES… and all those trials, tribulations, heartbreak, pain, failures etc can all be used for our benefit to strengthen us and our faith, to teach us humility, integrity, how to forgive, how to hope, to persevere, to have better discernment etc etc etc
Folk do reap what they sow but that is not on us to wish bad on people or wait around to see it happen how we would like it served. No our thing is to forgive, pray for folk esp those who have wronged us and keep moving forward in the right direction, treating others as we ourselves would like to be treated.