Over the past few years there has been no shortage of books, articles, blogs, and TV specials about the plight of single black women. From the dismal statistic stating that half of us are not married (never mind that all women are waiting longer to wed), to the mainstream media’s insistance on picking up (and harping on) the “educated, paid, and single” meme, black women and our ring fingers have been fodder for discussion lately. But a new book by Pastor Jomo K. Johnson of Philadelphia’s Open Air Church aims to move the conversation in a new direction, telling black women that it’s ok to be single.
In his new book, Call Tyrone: Why Black Women Should Remain Single Or…, Pastor Johnson addresses the single, black woman “problem” from a pastoral perspective, arguing that churchgoing women should be happy with their single-status instead of lamenting it.
Pastor Johnson explained:
“First and foremost, [I] have a desire to inform and educate all women that they are precious and priceless in the sight of God. Because of that, a woman shouldn’t lower herself in any way. In the book what I seek to do is exalt and extol the value of singleness; how it can be a gift of God [and] how it is a blessed gift. The Lord Jesus was single, and he was able to embrace his singleness and use it for the purpose of ministry. I also point to women in history who have given their lives in singleness and really thought to serve others. Singleness is something that the Bible really condones and promotes.”
While the book might ruffle some feathers for being yet another tome about black women’s love lives from a man, Pastor Johnson says he doesn’t let brothas off the hook either. He told the Christian Post the “book also serves as a wake-up call to African-American men who aren’t taking care of their own lives, [and] who aren’t seeking to be faithful or responsible to African-American women in their community,”
According to the book’s website Call Tyrone will explore interracial dating (Pastor Johnson says it should be an option for black women), the “trend” of successful black men dating “out,” what rap music has done to our communities, dating across religious lines, and why black women should stay single rather than settle for unsuitable mates.
Call Tyrone is scheduled to be released on June 1.
What do you think of the book’s premise? Would you read it?