It’s easy to tell that Spring has sprung when Facebook and Twitter explode with messages about how beautiful the weather is. Folks start brunching outside, going for walks, and declaring how much they love [insert random city here] in the Springtime. But along with the sentiments of celebration, there is always an influx of looks criticism directed mostly at women.
“Oh no she didn’t…I saw a girl on the train with some short shorts on that she knows she shouldn’t be wearing!”
“Um, I know the weather changed fast but some of these chicks shoulda stopped by the nail salon and done something about those toes!”
“It’s sundress time but not with that back-fat!”
“Flip-flops are not for you with those feet!”
Folks…we really need to stop this.
Yes, it’s kind of jarring when the weather changes and we see folks squeezing into last summer’s sundresses that simply do not fit as well as they did this time last year. It’s true that crusty feet are no one’s favorite things to look at and it’s completely normal to want to avoid seeing them. But dictating what other women should look like when they break out their summer gear is just another form of the attacks on women that Ashley Judd spoke out against last week. Many of us read her letter, agreed that women are often subjected to attacks on their appearances that would never be leveled against men, and are aware of the misogyny and negativity involved.
Yet we still find a “loophole” through which to judge other women on their warm-weather readiness. Ultimately, who cares if another woman isn’t quite fitting into her outfit but is trying to get her summer look on? What difference does it make whether or not the next woman has prioritized pedicures, can even afford them, or is stuck with the gnarled feet of a former dancer? How does this really affect us? Let homegirl’s hot feet chill.
Don’t get me wrong — I’m guilty of it, too. I’ve also had a thing or two to say about men who decide that it’s time for them to throw leather sandals on feet that shouldn’t see the light of day. But overwhelmingly, the “the weather changed and look at folks trippin’” comments are directed at women.
If you’re not guilty of this behavior, call it out when you hear or see people doing it. This year, let’s stop the cycle of criticism and put our focus where it belongs — on ourselves.