I honestly can’t believe this is going on, but teens are partaking in something called a “pregnancy pact” where a group of friends all decide to get pregnant at the same time. There is even a page for this phenomenon on Facebook where teen girls post pictures of their growing pregnant bellies. They are all smiles and proud of this “accomplishment” they have achieved. They also receive tons of support from other teens on the page for making this pact. These pacts are not only irresponsible, but they also encourage young girls to partake in unprotected sex. What the heck is going on?

I am having my first child at the age of 26 and although I am prepared in many ways there are still so many anxieties that race through my mind on a daily basis. Being a mother is such a huge responsibility and nothing to be taken lightly. Shows such as “Teen Pregnancy” have obviously played a part in making these young girls think that being pregnant is something cool. Bringing a child into this world is far from a fad, but more and more teen girls are treating it as such.

I remember a time when becoming pregnant as a teen was something to be terrified of. It was not something young girls aspired to.  Getting pregnant before finishing school wasn’t even a thought.  I knew my mother would give me an old fashion butt whooping if I dared to come home when I was in high school and say I was pregnant…and that it was planned.

This is truly a travesty because babies are bringing babies into this world on purpose not thinking about the difficulties associated with being a teen mother. I have many friends who were teen mothers. They are great mothers, but I also saw how hard it was for them trying to raise a child at such a young age. You have to go from being an immature, carefree teen to a responsible adult in a short amount of time. That is no easy task, especially if you have a minimal amount of help.

What are your views on this pregnancy pact craze?

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  1. I’m not even sure what to say on this one. I guess it’s not a big deal to some people. Sad to think that a child’s life is just an accessory to a lot of people. I’m curious to the status of the four fathers of those girls’ kids.

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  2. modern lady

    I’d bet my life that none of these girls have fathers. This is a damn shame. I wish welfare would go broke soon-then they’d have to realize what being a TRUE single mother is like.

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    • Dreaming

      I know women who were once girls with father’s in their home, a religious home, and they ended up giving birth to a child out-of-wedlock. Having a father in the home doesn’t always mean a child is better off; just as some children who didn’t have a father in the home turned out fine.

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    • modern lady

      @ Dreaming:
      It doesn’t ALWAYS mean you’re going to have issues if you have no Father in the home, but not having one does create a lot of problems, especially for young girls and premarital sex. I’m no psychologist, but I’ve heard it has to do with replacing love. These girls are probably looking for unconditional love wherever they can get it-even if they have to raise it.

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  3. The last laugh

    I’m no republican, but welfare needs to be taken away. black people do an awesome job of making themselves look like some abject idiots. I know thats harsh but I’m tired of feeling sorry for everyone when its clear they have no respect for themselves or their community.

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    • Dreaming

      Just remember – When services are taken away, it affects those who abuse it and those who don’t.

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    • modern lady

      I hate to keep beating an old drum, but I GUARANTEE the majority of welfare recipients aren’t black. And Blacks don’t have to do much for white people to highlight the idiocy that actually runs rampant in all races.

      You’ve just fallen into the trap that I believe a lot of media wants you to, and that is to believe the hype and stereotypes they put forth by design.

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    • modern lady

      @ The Last laugh:

      One last comment I need to make, and I’ll be done. White girls started this trend of pregnancy pacts, not Black girls.

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    • grateful

      @modern lady

      Most white girls have a support system that isn’t welfare…

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    • Georgia

      This isn’t even about race. I’m left of liberal, but social media is used these days to deny/lose people’s jobs, educations, etc., which is why sensible folks don’t make all their business public. There’s no reason why girls who knowingly create lives that they cannot support from day one are ineligible for welfare. Why is this hard?

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    • Georgia

      *aren’t*

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    • TypicalBlackWoman...

      Seventy percent of children on welfare are white. Even though a higher fraction of black people are on welfare, the majority of people consuming welfare is white. It’s funny though that we think the the average welfare recipient looks like welfare queen with rollers in her hair and a pack of menthols, when in reality, if you put all welfare recipients in a room, you are more likely to come across a young white child under the age of sixteen.

      Caucasians have been benefitting from government handouts since the founding of this country, and to this day, still do. While I find the article above discouraging and the continued poverty rates among blacks depressing, we sometimes need to realize that your tax dollars not only are doled out to Shanequa, but also little Betty Sue too. Stop villainizing black people and lets deal with the rampant poverty and ignorance that plagues all of America. We’re like the richest country but the gap between the rich and the poor here is worse than other developed and developing countries.

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    • The last laugh

      Say what you want and believe what you will but I have seen first hand from people in my own circle habitually use and abuse the system. Some are white but most are black.

      We don’t like to talk about the fact that these “stereotypes” are usually always proven right. And I’m not even talking about this stupid pregnancy pact or whatever. So what some white girls started it…why do black girls have to jump on the paddy wagon? Cuz they aint got no god damn sense thats why. And the majority of these problems are caused by a cycle of poverty that includes these parents being too damn lazy to get off welfare.

      Welfare should have a two year limit. If you can’t get your life together by then then tough nuggets. I know thats mean and I know we’re in hard times but ya know what? I work every single day with no day off in the week to make ends meet. So when I see this type of crap and these dumb ass kids who think its cool to get pregnant and live off welfare and then not even bother to truly TAKE CARE of their kids….no. F U and F this welfare crap.

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    • entro

      I have a relative who works in social services and she says there are so many new cases of formerly middle class families applying for public assistance because of the economy. I understand how you feel I use to feel the same way until she told me that a family of five only receives $600 per month and many of these people are living in one room hotels because their homes have been foreclosed on. The face of welfare recipients have changed so much that employees had to be retrained in how to deal with and talk to those receiving assistance because they were more educated and more likely to complain when they received substandard treatment from their caseworkers. The stereotype of the black welfare queen has always been a myth but more so now because of what’s happened with the economy. The majority of her cases are white or Hispanic whom she now has to refer to as”clients”. Welfare is a safety net that needs to be kept in place because there are times when people have a great need. I find it much less offensive than corporate welfare, they are the true criminals

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    • Kacey

      I completely understand what you’re saying, The Last Laugh. However, the problem is, when you cut-off welfare its not the mothers who suffer the most, its the children.

      Frustrated/Immature Parent + Crying/Starving Baby = Abuse/Neglect/Abandonment/Death

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    • The last laugh

      @ entro

      I see what your saying and to a certain extent I agree (especially about corporate welfare…that deserves a whole discussion.) Of course people of all economic backgrounds can fall on hard times and yes, they do deserve to have some sort of safety net…TEMPORARILY.

      Full disclosure: this year I actually took out unemployment. I was suddenly laid off and it was an emergency. I was on it for 3 months and it made the difference between being on the street and making ends meet. So I get it, I really do. But I’m not talking about the family or person who suddenly finds themselves on hard times. I’m talking about the people who are perpetually on the system because its simply just there and have no intention of getting off of it. Like these four negroes with watermelon bellies lookin all proud and I GUARENTEE that ALL of them are either already or will be on welfare.

      My husband worked at a charter school in DC and would hear these young kids talking about how to get on welfare. Instead of talking about where to go to high school or college they’re talking about ways to get on welfare. IMHO it is ruining the black family and community not helping. I don’t blame these children but I do blame our community for accepting it and making it normal. Sure there are more white people on welfare than black people but there are also way more white people in this country than black people so that argument really does not sell me.

      And I don’t think people on welfare are criminals and I want to reiterate that my beef is with the perpetual welfarer. I honestly do not care that my tax dollars are going to welfare, like you said it is chump change compared to this corporate welfare. But I do have a huge issue with lazy ass mofo’s who don’t lift a finger to contribute to the society they are in and then complain about racism and how life is so unfair to them when they are their own worst enemy.

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    • entro

      @ last l. your right about some of the attitudes and low expectations from some people. Its depressing that with all the information out there for young people to prevent teenage pregnancy and birth control and PSA’s about unprotected sex, these girls thought it would be cute to get pregnant. Its sad

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    • entro

      My mother scared us so much with what she was going to do to us if we got pregnant that when I had my first child(married and in my late twenties) I was afraid to tell her.lol
      These kids today just don’t care what their parents have to say just as long as their friends think its cute. It just amazes me

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  4. Wuluwulu

    I remember when I was this age my friends and I had a studying pact. we would call each other and stay up and study over the phone for our tests and big exams that would determine if we would get to our A-levels, and eventually into University. This is beyond strange to me.

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  5. LuvIt289

    Didn’t this start w/ white teens?
    Either way—“ewww!”

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