I find it funny when the discussion of emotional affairs vs. physical affairs comes up with men. They swear up and down that emotional affairs are much worse than physical because to them a physical affair is just that…physical. There are no feelings involved and no attempts to try to get to know the person outside of the bedroom. Women argue that a physical affair is worse because nothing hurts more than knowing your mate was physically intimate with someone and then comes home acting like everything is ok. They say talking and flirting is fine, but taking the leap to get into bed with that person crosses the line. So which one is worse? Let’s break the two down:
Physical affairs: Engaging in any sort of sexual activity with someone other than your mate. Physical affairs are usually just that – physical. The thing with this type of affair is the amount of deceit that has to take place in order to make it happen. The lying about your whereabouts, who you are going to meet and just constantly having to make things up in order to cover your tracks.
Emotional Affairs: Developing romantic feelings for someone other than your mate and keeping those feelings alive with constant contact. You share personal information with this individual and develop an intimate bond. You constantly think about them and it gets to the point that you enjoy this person’s company more than your mates. You have long conversations with them, go out on dates and miss them when you haven’t been in contact with them. This is the person you go to when you feel like you can’t talk to your mate. The sad thing about people who are in emotional affairs is that they are denial that they are in one. As long as they are not doing anything physical with the person they don’t think they are doing anything wrong.
In my opinion, these two are both equally bad and deal breakers for relationships. The only thing I will say that may make a physical affair worse than an emotional one is the risk of getting an STD and passing it onto your mate. No one should have to suffer from a disease because of your infidelity. Then there is also the risk of getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant, which is a whole new batch of drama.
Both forms of affairs involve some level of betrayal and are hurtful to the person you are with.
Do you think one type of affair is worse than the other?