We’ve all heard that women can be catty, jealous, and petty, but when Daily Mail writer Samantha Brick claimed there was a downside to being so pretty, many accused her of playing right into these divisive stereotypes she claimed to rally against.

On Monday, Brick penned a humble little article called, “There are downsides to looking this pretty’: Why women hate me for being beautiful,” in which she describes bartenders giving her free drinks, a note from an admiring airline captain, and bouquet of flowers from a stranger in an outdoor market. Seems like a charmed life, right? But according to Brick, prettiness has a price: hate from her female peers.

After a neighbor didn’t to speak to her while she was out for a walk, Brick says she wondered why women seemed to hate her so much.

She writes:

While I’m no Elle Macpherson, I’m tall, slim, blonde and, so I’m often told, a good-looking woman. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.

If you’re a woman reading this, I’d hazard that you’ve already formed your own opinion about me — and it won’t be very flattering. For while many doors have been opened (literally) as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face — and usually by my own sex.

Brick is right. I did form my opinion of her rather quickly, but it wasn’t based on her looks. The title of her article, her smug tone, and, ok, her picture made me wonder if she was suffering from an inflated sense of self-confidence or if she was just a master marketer looking to bolster her name

While I understand that women are often suspicious, and yes, jealous of other women, many times it has to do with the person’s attitude and not just her looks.

Brick’s post has been criticized (and that’s putting it nicely) on both sides of the Pond. Will Heaven of The Telegraph called her a “shameless publicity-seeker,” while  the Inquisitor called her the “humblebragging world champion.”

Her article caused the ‘net to erupt with conversations about whether or not Brick was actually attractive (according to the voters of BeautifulPeople.com she isn’t), or if she had a point at all. And while she claims it wasn’t a PR stunt, many people who had NO idea who Samantha Brick was before this week, now know her name.

But is that a good thing?

Brick says the reaction to her article proves her point. Those critical of her article (which includes several men) just hate her because she’s so damn pretty.

“Over the past 48 hours I’ve had thousands of emails to my personal account, not to mention all the rubbish on Twitter,” she said on ITV’s This Morning in the UK.

“And women have fallen into two camps. They’ve either gone: ‘You’re off your head, you’re a nutter, what are you on about, you’re really arrogant’, or they’ve said to me ‘You’ve reiterated the story of my life, thank you, It’s really difficult when you are perceived as being attractive, other women do not like it’.”

What do you think? Does Brick have a point or are her claims ‘rubbish’? Speak on it! 

55 Comments

  1. Um...

    Really??? Well, I guess if being Blonde and blue-eyed defines pretty, then I guess she is. But I have seen beautiful women walking around in real life who don’t think they are beautiful at all, but they stop traffic and don’t even know it. I am not jealous of any woman because in reality, there is always going to be someone prettier, smarter, richer, etc. But no one can be “You” like you can and being comfortable in your individuality makes a person beautiful. As people have said earlier, looks can fade, so you’d better have something else to make you interesting to people. It’s great that she has a high opinion of herself, but her personality may be a turn-off to people, not her looks.

  2. Oh,I just want to hug her.

    Dear beautiful women of the world,
    I, the average and ugly looking girl do not hate you. Yes, I do envy you. I am jealous when a man buys you a free drink. I am hurt when you are offered a promotion even though I well deserve it.

    But I do not hate you because you’re beautiful.

    Rather, I pity you and keep my distance because you THINK I hate you.

    You see, from the viewpoint of the plain jane, I see you loftily sipping away your martini while giggling falsely at nothing. I watch as you strike down men who approach one by one to engage in conversation. I observe you changing 180 degrees when an attractive fellow is in your radar, even if he has a rather plain-jane girlfriend.

    I keep wondering is the woman real or fake? Is she genuinely nice or only putting on a show? Does she solely rely on her looks to get the things she wants or does she develop other skills to compliment who appearance?

    I wouldn’t mind striking up a conversation with you, beautiful woman. Where did you get your hair done? Who is your stylist? How much did it cost? What kind of jewelry do you wear? Where do you shop? What’s your fashion philosophy? Your clothes fit you so well- do you shop online or at a retail store? What’s your worst and best shopping experience? What kind of makeup do you use, who do you follow in terms of makeup art? Your shoes- where did you get them? What is your style? Your overall fashion sense? Do you do any special skin care regimens to keep your skin looking so flawless and ageless?

    However, your nasty expression as your eyes wash over my rather drab appearance keeps me away. In trying not to judge you, I have been judged. In hoping that you’ll be my fairy godmother, I have become your wicked witch of the west.

    In essence, I have become the woman who hates you for being beautiful when simply I want someone who can teach me how to be beautiful.

    The next time you see me, beautiful woman, pretty girl, foxy lady, keep this in mind: I, the average, ugly-looking girl will never hate you. It is simply not in my personality to ever place such wrath on a woman I do not know. Instead, I watch with envy, with jealousy, with desire of hoping one day to become as graceful, as charming, as lovely as you appear to be- while holding steadfast to my unique personality.

    Here’s to you, beautiful women and the privilege you have in this looks-obsessed world. May I hope when you get to an age where your looks can’t get you by any longer, you have enough wit and charm to get the things you want.

    Sincerely,
    The average and ugly looking girl who you think hates you, but really doesn’t.

  3. la_chuletita

    What I tend to notice about people that think they have a whole army of “haters” on them is that they’re usually conceited. The author of the article is convinced that she is so beautiful that other women are jealous and hate her. But really other people can tell when you’re full of yourself, and having a huge ego is not an attractive quality in anyone.
    And of course there are plenty of petty people, but just assuming that someone dislikes you because of how pretty (you think) you are is incredibly conceited.

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