From Frugivore – There are quite a few sexual acts and creative measures that you and your partner can do in bed. But one male hot spot that often slips under the radar, is one of that is a sure fire way of getting your man off — an internal prostate massage.

I know what you’re thinking. But upon some research, I’ve found that it’s one of the most sexually healthy and stimulating techniques that a man can receive. Also known as milking, it’s known to drive a man crazy while helping him fight disorders of the prostate. Here’s the proper way to do it, according to an article over at the Tampa Bay Daily Loaf:

“Your fingers will need to be able to reach at least one inch into your partner’s anus in order to reach the prostate. The best position for us is with my husband on his back, legs spread. If you don’t wear gloves make sure that your nails are short, clean and have no snags. Also, have plenty of lube on standby.”

(Read the rest at Frugivore)

  • CurlySue

    Umm, no. I’m not putting my fingers in a man’s a**. And I’d prefer not to have his in mine. I’m afraid he’ll just have to deal with the drudgery of normal, raw s*x. Poor baby.

  • African Mami

    Since when did surgery turn into a freak game?!

    That to me is surgery!!!!! no, hell no, wat the fug, forget it!

  • Ms. Information

    ***Waves at African Mami**** So I am supposed to stick my finger where to milk what? No thanks…I don’t want my man enjoying anything going there, and if he does, we need to talk..

  • Dreaming

    Ewww, I’m not sticking my finger up anyone’s ass.

  • African Mami

    *Waving back crazily*

    Girl, they even have a diagram of how to actually perform this surgical operation. These are the end times.


    iQgraphics what say you?! ———————–>LMAO!

  • apple

    with a proper enema yes, but i’m a superfreak so i dont give a f–k i’d do it, in fact id encourage it, especially if i can get it in return.

  • NY’s Finest

    I would be giving major side-eye to any man who would let me stick my finger up his ass without any resistance.

  • African Mami

    @ apple

    I had to google enema real quick, I could have sworn I thought you were talking about either an epidural or anesthesia. I was maaaad confused.

    Please forgive me, I am not as hip to the game as you are!

  • omfg

    well, i can see where you’re going. ass-play does make you think he’s gay/bi-sexual/on the dl.

    but it is a source of great pleasure for them – biology has given it to them. just like it has given women clits.

    but, i think i could be on the fence about it. i would have to have my gaydar on full blast for this one, and consult with a gay guy friend.

  • Whatever

    Absolutely NOT.

  • ThisIshRightHere

    y’all scared.

  • African Mami

    anything to do with a poop hole is scary to me. I just see thangs coming out as a result like intestines…..

  • omfg

    are you a gay or bisexual man?

    not everyone is into going up the ass. for me, it’s for defecation.

  • jamesfrmphilly

    this is bull feces……….a man

  • jamesfrmphilly

    @omfg : “it is a source of great pleasure for them – biology has given it to them.
    just like it has given women clits”

    i get a regular prostate exam. it is not a source of pleasure. i am saddened to see such ignorance. if you know nothing about a man’s body how can you do anything for him?

    any female what made a move on my ass during sex would find herself waking up in the local ER with a big lump on her head.

  • Stephanie

    Lmao This article caught me so off guard. This is not a pleasurable thing for a man and it especially isn’t pleasurable for a straight man. My man wouldn’t even look at me if I were to bring this up. LMAO!

  • omfg

    my gyno exam doesn’t feel good either and i’m sure childbirth doesn’t, but that doesn’t mean sex don’t feel good too.

    the prostate is considered a man’s g-spot. i don’t claim to know everything about male anatomy, but it is not the first time i’ve heard that in proper hands, a man can go bonkers.

  • honey

    well i’ve done it before.. it freaked me out because i’ve never had my fingers in anyone elses body before… he asked for it.. showed me how he liked it and he enjoyed it. Once i got over the initial shock of it I was cool.

  • jamesfrmphilly

    “the prostate is considered a man’s g-spot”

    no, it is not. why would it be? where are you getting this mess?
    i am a man and i am here to tell you. you are wrong.

  • HowApropos

    Grow up, people…really…

    If it’s not what you do, great, but there are those out there who don’t shy away from this kinda stimulation.

  • Chic Noir

    My God,

    I just don’t know if I could do this. I guess the health benefits make it a +.

    “Milking” huh and people wonder why I drink soy.

  • Chic Noir

    How many fingers did you use?

    Was it very “loose” in there? If so, I would be afraid he was a DL brother and high tail it on out there.

  • Chic Noir


    You need to start a blog honey ASAP :)

  • Chic Noir

    jamesfrnphilly any female what made a move on my ass during sex would find herself waking up in the local ER with a big lump on her head.

    Well the domestic violence laws being what they are… you may indeed find yourself getting a prostate massage from big Tevin in cell block eleven.

  • omfg

    google is your friend, my friend.

    i don’t claim to be an expert of male sexuality, but i wonder if your reaction is somewhat rooted in a discomfort you have with ass play and its association with homosexuality. just sayin…

    i might also add that the gspot is inside a woman’s vagina but many women have never felt it and don’t even enjoy intercourse. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist or that vaginal intercourse can’t be or isn’t a pleasure.

    so, the fact that you have not derived enjoyment from your prostate doesn’t negate the that physiologically, it may be a source of great pleasure for many men.

  • Mr. Man

    Woooow isn’t this interesting… What a way to encourage a women(?) how to desensitize their men. Make you wonder whose actually behind the original article and what their real agenda is….

  • Dreaming

    ‘Desensitize their men’ to what?

  • Tonton Michel

    “Also known as milking, it’s known to drive a man crazy while helping him fight disorders of the prostate.”

    Correction it should read “Also known as milking, it’s known to drive a CERTAIN TYPE OF man crazy while helping him fight disorders of the prostate.”

    And I like how they snuck in the “…helping him fight disorders of the prostate.” .

    Like that makes it OK. Y’all walking around with a medical license now?

    If a dude is going to allow a finger up there might as well take a d$#$ up there too, no need to dude things half way Tommy old boy, let Billy Bob get some of that sweet brown.

  • NY’s Finest

    @omfg: I think I would consult with a gay guy friend as well. I would also ask my partner where and how he figured out that a finger up the ass is pleasurable.

    @jamesfrmphilly: I’m LMAO at you putting a woman in the E.R. for trying that on you.

  • babe

    I remember the comedienne, Wendy Cho talking about this, but will a black man actually let you do this? I wonder.

  • Mr. Man


    …… to accepting sexual pleasure via anus. To me it sounds like a breaker-bar method to a straight man pyche’ in an effort to introduce him to other experimental ideas that can also lead to curiousity of the Down-Low world. I see nothing good evolving from this act.

  • Dreaming

    Essentially what you are implying is that a woman pleasuring a man anally will lead him to homosexual behavior.

  • apple

    @africanmami lawd lmfao, now i feel like i know too much

    @chicnoir i don think i have it in me!

  • apple

    @jamesfrmphilly gimme a call..
    lmfao i’m just kidding! i know your cringing

    but as far as anal play, some people hate it , some people love it, just depends on your body (and sometimes not even your mind because your body can “betray you”)

  • apple

    @chicnoir *rolls in grave*

  • Jinx Moneypenny

    So. Much. Heteronormativity. Just say you wouldn’t do it and be done. All this “Well if yoo dew it or he wants it DAS GEIGH!!” is over the top. And some of y’all call yourselves grown.

  • African Mami

    @ apple,

    start one- but please use layman’s terms. I’m dumb when it comes to surgical operations.

  • Dreaming

    Um, African Mami, if I am not mistaken, an enema is not a surgical procedure. An enema can be purchased at the grocery store.

  • African Mami

    @ Dreaming,

    Thanks for the enamatic contribution!

    As far as I am concerned anything inside the poop hole is surgery-indefinitely so.

  • jamesfrmphilly

    @chic noir – “high tail it on out there” : LOL

  • jamesfrmphilly

    @babe : no, he will not

  • Dreaming

    “As far as I am concerned anything inside the poop hole is surgery-indefinitely so.”

    I guess that would mean gay men don’t have sex. They have surgery. LMAO! An enema is used before a surgery, not as a surgery.

  • African Mami

    @ Dreaming,

    I am a very tongue in cheek person, so you cannot take me literally. If you trying to politicize my comments————–>bye!

  • African Mami

    @ Mr. Man

    lol@your conspiracy theories!

  • grateful

    umm, wow. i have to say being a virgin who reads everything i can about s*x i am very surprised at the reactions in the comments.

    listen people, that whole area (lateral to the abdomen on both sides) is called (if i am not mistaken) the inguinal region. the whole area is very sensitive the way your penis or vagina is “sensitive” after being stimulated ( because the nerves are the same), so the pleasure you feel (if done right) does not make you “gay” or wierd, it just means you were stimulated correctly and your body responded accordingly.

    folks need to read!

  • African Mami

    eh, I don’t know what is surprising in the comments. I am taking this opportunity as a learning/teaching/imparting of knowledge into my dense brain.

    All this is new to me, hence the surprise and surgery reaction.

  • grateful

    the way people talk about s*x, being freaky, wanting freaks ,wanting people who are “openminded” in the bedroom i would think people know and have tried all this , maybe even do it on a regular basis…

    but what surprises me more is not the aversion to it but the downright lack of knowledge about this and the instant “he on da DL” ignorant paranoia…

  • African Mami

    I don’t think people are interested in the mambo jambo/technical bs written about sex, how about we just dive right into it. Body to body, chest to chest. I was reading a book about how to sex so that you get a certain gender-iDIED reading it, soooooooo BORING! But that’s just me, prolly I would have been more educated, and with a phd like apple!

  • grateful

    don’t worry, once sweetheart gets bored with the chest to chest you’ll be trying to grasp this mambo jumbo so as to “spice things up”…

  • chinaza

    IF you don’t wear gloves? That is not an “if”.
    And you need some degree of knowledge to do this safely so I don’t recommend it. Remember that the anal sphincter is not designed for intrusion and I’ve found that most straight men will not allow this..

  • Gina

    What about rimming anyone? I know a lot of guys who like oral pleasure in the back:(

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  • omfg

    oh. why stop at rimming?

    how about full on fisting. lmao.

  • omfg

    oh get out…

  • EbonyLolita

    *SipsTea* and continues to read thread. I reserve ALL opinions *BigLaugh*

  • HowApropos

    Too many immature people in this thread.

    You have those who are shrieking and cringing, while others hide behind their black male pride to even have a discussion about sex.

    Black folks really ain’t ready for a real discussion on sex. Having ‘vanilla sex’ is pretty much all they know, or care to discuss.

  • HowApropos

    …so, what you’re saying is you want the mambo jambo to massage your prostate after some ‘chest to chest’?…

    …finally someone not afraid to say what they like…

  • grateful

    LOL no, i’m a woman. the comment was a reply to African Mami, i meant that once her man gets tired of missionary she will come looking for the mambo jumbo so as to “apply it”


  • honey


    I only used 1 and i cant remember if it was loose or not.. i was in total shock by the entire thing and tried to block it all out of my mind as it was goin on…

  • Chic Noir


    Well it sounds like you weren’t really into it either and thanks for getting back at me.

  • PeeWee

    And have my fingers smelling like poop? Yeah, I’ll pass. To each his own, I guess…

  • HowApropos

    Sorry. I couldn’t resist…

  • cee

    Thank u Jinx, Grateful & HowApropos !! The heteronormative pc response on here is crazy!

    I would try it if he’s into that, secure enough in his manhood and understands his body knowing that pleasure comes from multiple sources. I think that kind of confidence and security in one’s sexuality so attractive. Not the “if-a-woman-dare-try-to-entertain-that-I-will-respond-will-violence” types….that’s screams homophobia

  • cee

    hey grateful, I would love it if you could share some of your reading material. books or online sources I’m interested in expanding my knowledge

  • 2cents

    He’s my man, I’d massage anything.

  • Ash

    I don’t see what the big deal is. I did it to my boyfriend once. He didn’t like it and said it made he feel like he needed to go to the bathroom. However, he really loved having his taint rubbed, so that’s what we do now (but only after I watch him shower, lol).

  • Courtney F

    Lmao! Idk how someone could even do this without thinking of the poop factor! Haha. Maybe it’s just the immaturity in me. Idk.

  • rock

    The whole Anal thing to me has always been that thing that you see in online porn and its cool there but I’m not really interested in actually doing it in real life. Mainly because there’s so much other stuff to do and lick and eat in bed. It seems like once you go the anal route, playtime is over and its time to shower lol.

    But to all the guys that are like “if you take a finger you might as well take a d!c$….do you feel the same way about getting oral from your woman? Lets be real, anyone could do that too. its not the act its the people involved….I cant take credit for that, a woman actually used that argument trying to convince me lol

  • Mok

    boooo! Im straight as an arrow and my girl loves doing this to me… she loves being in control because when she does this I cant do anything my eyes roll back.. it is the gspot… obv not when a male doctor is doing an exam good Christ to that guy below waaay different guy… Best and Longest orgasm of my life with a woman who does this to me.. Open your minds ladies

  • Mok

    agreed – I am comfortable in mine.. thats why I love when my woman does this to me :D

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