Let VH1 tell it, women, especially black women, cannot be friends. Nothing is further from the truth. Women can actually be great life long friends, outside of the normal bumps in the road. However, just because the world likes to focus on our friendship dynamics doesn’t mean we know all there is to know about this friendship life. Men actually have really great friendships too, and even though the spotlight isn’t always on their bromances, men could actually teach us a thing or two. Check out these three things I think women can learn from men about friendships.

Honesty Is Key

By nature some of us women are sugarcoaters, we can’t help it. We don’t want to be brutally honest because we don’t want to hurt your feelings with the harsh truth so we kind of tell little white lies or make little suggestions that will hopefully get you to see things a different way. We do it for everything from clothing choices to relationships, it’s in our nature. The problem with that is it can cause more problems in the end. Men, for the most part, are honest almost to a fault. They will tell their boy like it is about any and everything…and they’ll tell us too. It’s the reason why they’d rather not comment if you ask “Honey, do I look fat in this?” We probably couldn’t handle the “Hell yeah!” they would give us, but it’s that honesty that keeps their friendships virtually drama free. If you’re always open and honest with your friend, even when the truth hurts, you build a foundation that will keep your friendship rock solid for life.

  • iQgraphics

    Here’s what male friends can teach you, unless they’re married or gay (and there’s still no gaurantee) :

    1. There’s no such thing as a male friend.

    Any opportunity they get to stick and move, they will

  • http://kjconte.com krjeco

    LMBO! This was on point – especially about the fights. As a female, sometimes I can’t stand other females for these reasons!

  • OSHH

    Pretty much Q, in my experiece I couldn’t really have any true male friends without them either catchin feelings and or wanting to do me..unless they were straight up homosexual and had NO attraction to women cause I done attracted some homosexuals too and I”m not tooting my own horn just stating facts. SO I smartened up and stopped trying to have platonic male friends LOL

  • Wow!

    With all do respect…..did you ladies read the article? And if you did….why did you go this way?

  • Dreaming

    I think I have one true male friend. He has a GF who he has been dating for quite time and wants to marry, so I don’t worry about him hitting on me. I know that he thinks I am cute, but I have never felt uncomfortable around him and he is cool to hangout with.

    I have one ‘friend’ right now who I have known for about 15-17 years who is still trying to date me. He too is dating someone, but just the other day he asked me to hang out with him. I am not attracted to him, nor would I ever date him, and the fact that he referred to his current GF as ‘just a friend’ while asking me to lower my standards for him so that he could have a chance with me was beyond unacceptable to me.

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