A Future Mother’s Thoughts: A Letter to My Unborn Daughter
My darling girl,
You are loved and wanted even before your arrival. Wanting to be a mother, your mother has been on my mind for as long as I can remember. You are my greatest dream realized. There is so much I can’t wait to show you and share with you. The thought alone makes me giddy with excitement.
I can’t wait to read to you. Books are a great treasure. Through them you can travel, build great things, and most importantly learn. I want you to love to read. I have kept books from my childhood to share with you. I want to have story time with you, like your grandmother and I did. She taught me how to plot a story and speak eloquently as she told me ‘Now you tell me a story.’
It is my job to prepare you for life. You were gifted to us to show you the way. I will not always be your favorite person, but know that I do everything with love.
I am your friend and biggest fan. First and foremost though, I am your mother. I will not be a yes-woman to cater to your ego or always agree with you. When I say no to a party, I am doing it because I love you. I am not ruining your life. You will survive missing a few parties.
I hope you learn how to be your own person. You will often hear me say ‘So if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you?’ I am not being morbid; I just want you to get away from doing ‘it’ just because everyone else is. See yourself through your own eyes. Don’t let other people’s notions of who you should be color your view of yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to. You are descended from the strongest people in the world. You can do it.
Be kind. Be respectful. Treat everyone well regardless of whether or not they can do something for you. People are important. Treat them as such. The mark of a good woman is how she treats those who are of no importance to her.
Talk to God. I see him in a Judeo-Christian way. You may not. I am fine with that. You are allowed and encouraged to discover what works for you. Religion is not morality.
You are beautiful. I may be biased because I made you, but my darling you are. Beauty is fluid and subjective. Don’t let superficial standards affect how you feel about yourself. You were made to stand out, not fit in.
Still on beauty, don’t get so caught up in things, vanity, and materialism. Who you are, your values, your morals, how you treat people is infinitely more important. Enjoy nice things when you have them and don’t get depressed when you don’t. Your value lies outside of things.
Love. Romantic love. This could be a whole book. Broad strokes. No one completes you. You are enough. Love does not hurt. If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t. If they put you down, they aren’t for you. Heartbreak is not the end of the world. It is a break up, not a breakdown. You will survive a broken heart.
Love now and forever, Mummy.
To my future beautiful princess: Hannah Mackenzie. Mackenzie, to witness the word becoming the flesh placed you in a position of royalty with in itself. You are special because so many desired your existence prior to your arrival. As your mother, I will nurture you and bond with you. I will listen to you. More than anything, I will teach you. I will teach you what your birthright consist of. You have inherited external and internal beauty, strength, class, an uncompromised spirit of faith, intellect, and a spirit of giving. With these gifts, I will teach you the power of prayer so you won’t fall prey to this non-sense of the world. Mackenzie; as a jewel, I will raise you to learn independence with a strong mind. I will also teach you humility to so you can relate to others. At the same time, I will teach you to have tough skin with discernment so that no one will take advantage of you. One of my most valuable lessons to you is to always respect yourself and take yourself first, but to serve others.
Mackenzie, when you conduct your business, you always execute in a respectful decent fashion as it relates to the people you deal with as well as yourself. Don’t associate yourself with disorderly conduct or mess. Don’t partake in gossip and retain respect for confidentiality. If you are involved in conflict, don’t be afraid and always stand up for yourself. From day one, you will know the valuable of education. Not exclusively for yourself, but to teach others as well. Lastly, I will teach you what true love is. If you’re able to recognize true love; if you make mistakes, you will get back up because you know your worth.
As you go out into the world, remember your family loved you first. With that; more than likely, they are able to recognize who, where, and what may be of a disservice to you. Have your own mind, but always take into consideration what your mommy and daddy says. My baby girl you are a gift to us and the world. No one comes before you and you are loved beyond measure. You are an angel from God and our princess. We Love You!
P.S.
As far as your brother Mark. I loved him so much I spoiled him too much. So I hope you understand one day why he is so protective over you. Try not to get too upset because his love for you is unparallel.
Love,
Mommy
Beautiful!
Can we keep focus on THIS article?? I understand the point being made, but to drag another article by another author into this post is unfair. Its unfair to say how THIS author would treat/raise HER son.