Comments on: A PSA from Sisterhood of The Played

By: Elle Michelle

Elle Michelle — Thu, 31 May 2012 02:41:16 +0000

I’m glad that I clicked this post. The guy I’m dating now is reflected in bullets 1, 2, 4, 6 (possessive) and 7. Thank God I kept my cookie to myself.

By: GirlSixx

GirlSixx — Wed, 30 May 2012 18:26:51 +0000

This is how I feel about it!!! I got married young and was married for over 10 years, I am in NO RUSH to get hitched again or become an ITEM (boo’d up) overnight. I am enjoying my snail trail towards a relationship. Honestly i feel that when you take this kind of approach — taking it S-L-O-W and not looking to get into a relationship rigth away as a women you WILL BE ABLE to weed out the bad apples (the players) because afterall your mindset is not on marriage and/or being in a relationship rigth away so it gives you an advantage to either knowingly indulge the BS or just simply say no thanks, I’m good without feeling a certain type of way about it.

I’m ALONE but I’m NOT LONELY.. Big Difference.

By: Isis

Isis — Wed, 30 May 2012 18:09:33 +0000

I like being called everyday. The other signs seem correct though

By: November Rain

November Rain — Wed, 30 May 2012 17:06:16 +0000

I know not ALL black men are narcissists but, doesn’t it seem like a lot of them are?

By: MarloweOverShakespeare

MarloweOverShakespeare — Wed, 30 May 2012 16:19:57 +0000

What about “That’s for me to know and for you to find out?”

By: Pseudonym

Pseudonym — Wed, 30 May 2012 15:06:45 +0000

I keep it general, but don’t give those “unique to me” things I enjoy/look for. I usually keep it to the fact that I would like to get married and have a family (so no time for flings), am pretty laid back, and maybe something about communication. After that, I just let them be themselves and take it from there. I have definitely caught a glimpse of a guy pretending to be what he think I wanted because he hadn’t closed the Wikipedia page for the reference he made to me in an e-mail.

By: Pseudonym

Pseudonym — Wed, 30 May 2012 15:02:41 +0000

“If a man or woman is divorced for 20 years and hasn’t has a relationship since, another red flag. They are content with the single life.”

Divorce can be a traumatic experience. It can also cause disillusion. I wouldn’t make the assumption that the man is content with single life in this case. Once you get married, then get divorced, the drive single people feel to get linked up often fades. I have friends who are divorced in their late 20s/early 30s and those who do not have kids are in NO RUSH to get married or into a serious relationship again b/c they now see it as overrated.

By: iQgraphics

iQgraphics — Wed, 30 May 2012 14:24:09 +0000

IMO this post surmounts to “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is”

while

the Sociopath is straight cray with no feelings or remorse for what they are doing to you or no forethought to the lives they can ruin

By: Ms. Information

Ms. Information — Wed, 30 May 2012 14:11:23 +0000

Too late for me…..but 20 somethings, please pay attention to this post!! It would have saved me a WORLD of trouble…I would add though…if someone absolutely hates his child’s mother, be wary of the individual also…

By: OSHH

OSHH — Wed, 30 May 2012 14:08:13 +0000

I would run down the inner qualities that I value in folk like God fearing, honest, has integrity, is upright, kind, sincere, thoughful, trustworthy, considerate, emotionally balanced and available, is not promiscuous etc and would also state that these things when they are real and present are demonstrated consistently over time.