Comments on: All of My Best Friends Are Black, And That’s Ok

By: Amber

Amber — Sat, 02 Jun 2012 21:45:09 +0000

I have to agree with Demitria, like seriously who cares if that cast is all white? I know people with just white friends or just indian friends or just black friends. I don’t see the big deal here lol. Enjoyed this article…oh and the kid selling candy quote….classic NY haha!

By: Brendaonlygirl

Brendaonlygirl — Tue, 08 May 2012 23:52:39 +0000

Is every show on television duty bound to have a “person of colour” in it???? Why?????

By: LemonnLime

LemonnLime — Tue, 08 May 2012 20:23:32 +0000

Seriously? What is funny is you are the same person who comes to this site everyday with something negative to say about black women. I can’t even remember you writing something nice and yet here you are talking about how you want a black female friend to talk to. If you plan on talking to your black female friend in the same way you do I the women on this site you will NEVER have any female friends whether you are living in the whitest town on earth or DC.

By: Ms. Information

Ms. Information — Mon, 07 May 2012 03:46:56 +0000

I have acquaintances of all races…my very close friends will ALWAYS be Black…Black people, Black men, Black women have a very different existence on this earth that other races don’t seem to have.

By: Ms. Information

Ms. Information — Mon, 07 May 2012 03:43:47 +0000

By: divagurl

divagurl — Sun, 06 May 2012 18:31:35 +0000

As an entertainment biz professional, the only problem I have with a show like “Girls” being all-white is that it doesn’t provide lucrative employment for any people of color. When I look at a TV show I see jobs, plain & simple. I know that the principal performers make real money and I always want to see black folks making real money. The extras are paid but not much. Are there people of color making money on this show off camera, I wonder? I hope so.

As a reflection of reality, “Girls” represents a valid reality from what I’m told (haven’t seen it yet). Birds of a feather do flock together! It’s natural. I don’t think most people consciously limit themselves to their own group, it’s just what is most comfortable. I think we all need to be careful judging who people choose as their circle of friends. There are so very many factors that go into who your friends wind up being. I think it’s fabulous to suggest that everyone broaden their horizons to develop relationships with people outside of their traditional circle but some of the judgmental tone in this thread bothers me. Not having seen the show, I hope it does represent the multi-ethnic, multicultural, multi-national nature of Brooklyn when the borough is shown. If it doesn’t do that….epic fail.

About those criticisms of the blacks whose friends are all black – if you read books like “Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?” and “Other People’s Children: Cultural Conflict in the Classroom”, you will see that it is healthy for blacks to gather in all black groups. I can’t give a comprehensive explanation of why in this forum – would be too long and it’s too important to give a half ass sound byte on. Check out the books.

By: So Over This Ish

So Over This Ish — Sat, 05 May 2012 03:21:17 +0000

You made some good points as well.

I can only think of a few shows/films where friendships between women of color were showcased and NOT as tokens.

“Waiting to Exhale” had its problems, but overall it showed a beautiful friendship between Black women.

“Girlfriends” and “Living Single” were also pretty good. They showed classy, attractive Black women. But I agree, most BFF-type shows tend to be all about teh white wimmenz.

I can’t relate to shows like “Friends” or “Sex and the City”. And I, too, am a socially awkward person…you’re not alone.

By: So Over This Ish

So Over This Ish — Sat, 05 May 2012 02:46:30 +0000

Not weird at all! But I’m curious…what do you mean by the “light-skinned spectrum?” Do you mean white people or light-skinned/mixed people of color?

By: So Over This Ish

So Over This Ish — Sat, 05 May 2012 02:38:25 +0000

@ Sasha…maybe you’re just lucky to have nice boobs, then. But I really don’t think hers look all that bad.

Sure, they droop but they’re not that bad. Maybe she has breastfed children and her breasts have lost their perkiness/shape. It happens.

And maybe to you, her boobs look “weird and unattractive” but to somebody else, they could be just fine.

It’s all relative.

By: So Over This Ish

So Over This Ish — Sat, 05 May 2012 02:32:48 +0000

I grew up in Miami and I’ve experienced racism there, but I guess everyone’s experience is different.

Howard Beach was once known for its racism, though…Michael Griffith, a young Black man from Trinidad, died in 1986 after being hit by a car in Howard Beach. He was beaten and chased by a group of white guys who were pissed that he was in their neighborhood. He was running away from them and he was struck by a car speeding down the street.