“Listen, I am 32, in a monogamous relationship, and just figuring out that there’s a limit on your childhood woes,” singer Pink shared in the June issue of Cosmopolitan.
Most folks would agree that your experiences as a kid and teenager inform a lot about who you are in your adult life. Those were the years we experienced so many firsts and were introduced to our initial role models and examples of what it meant to be grown. For many of us, our youth is also when we experience heartbreak and witness or feel struggle for the first time.
When I read the statement, I was reminded of the familiar movie scenario where the main character visited a therapist for the first time. “So, tell me about your childhood,” the doctor says. As I chat with friends about their lives and attempt to explain some things in my life, we frequently go back to how we grew up and the type of impact it has had on our decisions today. But as formative as those years are, when do you stop referencing them? For the folks whose parents’ divorce rocked their world in a way they’ve yet to recover from, or the people still disturbed by sibling rivalry, when do you let it all go?
How long can you cite your childhood as a reason for your actions as an adult?