After being relentlessly bullied by his peers, Chelisa Grimes gave her 17-year-old gay son a stun gun to protect himself. Grimes says she and her son, Darnell “Dynasty” Young, were at their wits end after informing school officials of the bullying and giving her son the weapon was a last resort.

“I do not promote violence — not at all — but what is a parent to do when she has done everything that she felt she was supposed to do … at the school?” Grimes said on CNN. “I did feel like there was nothing else left for me to do, but protect my child.”

Young alleges he was tormented and threatened for months, but found that school officials were of no assistance. The school’s principal, Larry Yarrell, told a local Indiana paper that Young—a flamboyant dresser—should have expected to be harassed because of the way he dressed.

“If you wear female apparel, then kids are kids and they’re going to say whatever it is that they want to say. Because you want to be different and because you choose to wear female apparel, it may happen. In the idealistic society, it shouldn’t matter. People should be able to wear what they want to wear,” he explained to The Star.

After being bullied for months, things finally came to a head when Young found himself surrounded by 6 students threatening to beat him up. Young claims he lifted the stun gun above his head to scare the other young men, and returned to class, never intending to hurt anyone.

Young was arrested by school police for brandishing a weapon, but the 17-year-old thinks being expelled from school is unfair.

“I got kicked out of school for me bringing the weapon to school, but I honestly don’t think that that was fair,” Young said. “I didn’t use it on nobody. … All I did was raise it up in the air and went back to my class.”

Young says he considered suicide because the bullying got so bad and that he never would have brought the stun gun to school if administrators and teachers had done a better job keeping him safe.

“I was at my wit’s end. I didn’t know what to do and I thought about suicide,” Young said. “I hate saying that word because God blessed me with this life. I love life. I love my education. I would never … but this bullying got so bad that I thought about that.”

Bullying has become a hot-button issue as more and more students have come forward to shine a light on this troubling practice. With kids turning to suicide to cope with being tormented in schools, many parents are turning to drastic measures to keep their kids safe.

What do you think? Should Dynasty Young be expelled from school or should administrators to more to keep kids safe in school? 

  • Mitchell

    I applaud Ms. Grimes for wanting to protect her son. Why doesn’t the school have the bullies arrested? Darnell stay strong. Your education is the best weapon against any ignorance

  • BFDuster

    “…should administrators to more to keep kids safe in school?”

    Administrators know damn well what the problem is–they continue to take the sides of bullies and punish the victims. It’s really hard to defend one’s self when you’re afraid of being punished for defending yourself.

  • http://itsoftenbeensaid.wordpress.com Sasha

    What in the hell….?

  • CurlySue

    Perhaps moving her son to a different school would have been a less hazardous response than sending him to a school with a potentially deadly weapon.

  • Yb

    His name is Dynasty Young. That’s dope.

    And no I don’t think he should be expelled. He came to school to learn and other students felt the need to make it a hostile environment for him so he decided to protect himself. I don’t see anything wrong.

  • Shirl

    My prayers go out to this mother and son. Keep your heads up and know that you are not alone. A lot of people understand what you going through and hopefully have your back.

  • http://www.talesfromtheurbansocialite.com Amber (The Urban Socialite)

    So he can get bullied there too?! That’s like rewarding the behavior of the bullies. I hope Dynasty (that name is too dope!) gets to return to school, I’m sure he won’t be having anymore problems after this incident.

  • former teacher

    As a former teacher, I will defend teachers until my last day. I believe majority of us are hard working and truly care for our students.

    With that being said…

    Im am so tired of Administrators ALLOWING bullies and parents of bullies to run their schools. Truth is, it is not easy to remove trouble makers from classrooms anymore. Forget about expelling them.

    I would love to hear of an administrator who is not afraid to take charge and properly administor policy, rules, and punishment. Now and days, the Joe Clark- type administrators are a myth.

  • binks

    I say GOOD for her, I know two wrongs don’t make a right, but if you are at your wits end and afraid that something might happen then what are you supposed to do. Clearly the school’s officers weren’t taking proactive steps in protecting their students or helping with Young’s issue so the mother did. Furthermore, the principle sounds like he read the rhetoric for victim blaming 101 of well “ boys will be boys or if you didn’t dress like that than x,y, and z wouldn’t happen…” I hope this yound man finish his education

  • binks

    Well he is 17, so more than likely he is a senior and probably didn’t or couldn’t transfer to another school in fear of repeating that year or other schools not accepting his credits.

  • edub

    Amen to the mother. So, he was just supposed to stand there and take it? I don’t think people understand just how wicked these kids are these days. Trust me, from my experiences, if they would have caught this young man out by himself, they would have killed him.

    We are living in the age of co-signing savage behavior. I believe that you should protect yourself by ANY means necessary. These sub-human pieces of garbage don’t understand “stop” or “no” or have any empathy. We tell young women ALL the time to carry mace or a stun gun for protection so why not him?

  • CurlySue

    I’m not saying it’s a perfect solution. I just don’t see any trajectory where giving your black teen gay son a potentiall deadly weapon to school ends well for him. What if the on-campus cops had shot him for brandishing a weapon? What if one of the bullies had a legit gun and shot him? What if he tazed a kid with a heart condition and he died? I’m just saying, that scenario is fraught with deadly “what ifs”.

  • Bee

    Good for this mother. Schools promote bullying by never punishing the bullies. Schools consistently punish the victims rather than the victimizers, just like our general American culture does everyday. Good for this mother! To her son, keep keeping on, young man! Btw: he has the illest most awesome name: Dynasty Young. Just saying..

  • http://www.itsoftenbeensaid.wordpress.com Sasha

    I’m inclined to agree and while I’m all for individuality and expressing oneself, I agree with the principal. Why would this young man think he could come to school dressed in woman’s clothing and not think anyone would say anything? I don’t know where his school district is located at or the primary demographic that attends the school but that’s neither here nor there because he could step into any school in the United States and receive the same kind of ridicule. More schools should just enforce a strict uniform and call it a day.

  • Purple Rain

    Yes, or perhaps even martial arts classes.

  • anony.mous

    That principal should be ashamed of himself. I was bullied relentlessly in middle school for daring to exist–I was a quiet kid who stuck to myself. Did I deserve it? He’s saying that because this child was gay and “dressed flamboyantly” he was “asking for it” but he probably does nothing in general. These people need to be held accountable, bullying is getting completely out of control.

  • CurlySue

    The mother was clearly at her wits’ end and I sympathize with those feelings of helplessness. But it was very foolish of her to give her son a potentiall deadly weapon to take to school. What if the on-campus cops had shot him for brandishing the weapon? What if one of the bullies was armed with an actual gun? What if the boy tazed a kid with a heart condition and killed him? This could have ended tragically and it was just good luck that it didn’t.

    *btw, why don’t my comments post? I’ve tried posting 4 times now.

  • http://shesdatingagain.blogspot.com Sha’ahn

    UNIFORMS< UNIFORMS< UNIFORMS

  • Trey

    @sasha….seriously tho? This is the same dangerous mentality that makes kids want to kill themselves. It’s victim blaming plain and simple. The message is, “as long as you look and behave according to cultural norms and standards you can avoid bullying.” Are we telling our children to limit self expression and to keep a low profile, in order to appease school administrators and bullies?! That’s crazy…and dangerous. There are kids in the United States being bullied because they are perceived gay, because they are people of color, because their families are immigrants…..etc. etc. How will we be able to reconcile the “you should have expected it” logic in these situations? How can we continually practice this victim blaming? Reminds me of “well if she hadn’t been wearing that short skirt…..”

  • RJ

    People should be able to wear whatever the heck the want to without fear of physical or emotional violence. As long as he wasn’t wearing revealing clothing or clothing with inappropriate messages, I don’t care what he wears.

    I went to high school in a somewhat progressive area and the first day of high school, I got on the bus and sat next to a male student who was dressed in women’s clothing. This was about twelve years ago, btw. Anyway, I sat next to him and went about my day. I wasn’t bothered by HIS CHOICE to wear women’s clothing, because that was HIS CHOICE. Sure, I was uncomfortable because it wasn’t something that I was used to seeing, but I didn’t treat him any differently. He wasn’t aggressively picked on at my school – my school didn’t have a serious bullying problem.

    Live and let live, people. If more adults taught their children to be tolerant and respectful, bullying would not be a huge problem in our school systems.

  • http://Itsoftenbeensaid.wordpress.com Sasha

    @Trey: Yes I’m serious, as serious as a heart attack. This is not victim blaming. Like I previously stated I’m all for expressing oneself however I think a young man wearing women’s clothing is absolutely ridiculous and he did it knowing what kind of response he would get. Clearly he wanted some sort of attention and he got it. I’m not okay with bullying however this is an example why schools should push for uniforms. The mother did not try every option possible, did she try to move him to another school.  She thought her last course of action was to arm her child with a weapon. She should be glad that the situation only ended in expulsion because had it went left and someone got hurt her son would be in jail and she’d be looking at a lawsuit.

  • RJ

    @Sasha…

    You sound like you are a bit of a judgmental bully yourself. According to people who think like you, because this young man has a penis, he should limit his clothing choices to the clothing that makes people like you comfortable. People, it’s clothing. Btw, what’s “female clothing”? Are blouses female clothing? Because men for hundreds of years wore frilly blouses. Are tights female clothing? Because men for hundreds of years wore tights. Men used to wear wigs and earrings and shoes with pronounced heels. Were they being over-the-top?

    I am a woman, and every day I wear “male clothing” because I wear pants. Am I being a ridiculous? Am I looking for attention?There was a time when women wearing pants (not that long ago) would have inspired the same outraged reaction that this young man has experienced. My point: It’s just fabric, folks. It isn’t that deep.

    The one person I love to bring up during these debates is Prince. Prince is a cross dresser for all intents and purposes. He wears heels, he wears make up, he wears tights and frilly blouses, and his hair is coiffed like a woman’s and we are okay with it. Why is that? Is it because he claims he’s straight or because we are selective in allowing people to express themselves?

    As for the stun gun, I don’t think it was wise, but I don’t begrudge his mother for trying to protect her son.

  • The Comment

    Damn he got some pretty skin.

  • Shirl

    RJ: you are to be applauded!!!!! Even though you felt uncomfortable you did not treat this person any different. I agree with your and Trey’s posts 100%.

  • grateful

    is it just me or is mama HOTTTTTT!!!

    She got nice skin too!

    ;>P

  • Insight

    I have had friends that have been bullied because of this (one nearly beaten to death in college and ended up switching schools) and its constantly being swept under the rug. But now that I have heard/witnessed some of these incidents, I have NO tolerants for bullies. I would like to see the day someone touches/bullies my child.

    I have gotten into (many) fights protecting my younger brother when we were younger (he was bullied because he was fat and got his lunch money stolen ALL the time). Of course, he is now 6’3 and 250+lbs, was on 2 varsity teams in college, and scored in the 90th percentile on the LSAT and just completed his first year at a Law School ranked within the top 5 schools in the US. He just landed an intership over the summer that pays more than I could imagine bi-weekly (he’ll probably finish paying his school loans off before I do at this rate).

    Can you imagine if he allowed the bullies to win?

    I heard this quote from ‘Entourage’ and its soo true.

    “Let them have high school. They will be working for you later”.

    Stay stong Dynasty and dont let them win. We are all behind you.

  • https://twitter.com/#!/clnmike Tonton Michel

    I agree with CurlySue I understand the mom’s pain but this was stunningly irresponsible there dozens of different scenarios how this could have ended badly by giving a weapon to teenager of all people. Isn’t this what these LGBT organizations are supposed to step in and raise sand in the schools?

  • JessicaMercedes

    I have to agree with CurlySue that situation could have gone left real quick. In fact, it did go left, he got in serious trouble for brandishing a weapon. If he had been 18 he would have been going to jail. If it were my son, I would have sent him to school with a baseball bat. That way if he got in trouble he could say that he happened to have it because he was planning on playing after school but ended up having to use it to defend himself.

    Also, in response to Sasha. I doubt that uniforms would have helped this child. Even in uniform, I’m sure he wouldn’t be able to hide his personality, and he would still be a target. I do believe that schools should enforce uniforms, because it sets the tone for a professional, serious environment and prepares them for the real world by showing them what is appropriate work wear. But it doesn’t prevent bullying, and that is a fact.
    Your comment reminded me of the time my guidance counselor told me that maybe if I didn’t wear my hair in afro puffs and beads my teacher wouldn’t pick on me. Even as an 11 year old child, I knew then that I was talking to an idiot.

  • jw

    WoW!From reading these comments,it only confirms more,we are living in the last days.The boy needs to repent,turn away from that homosexual behavior.God,not only views homosexuality as a sin but he calls homosexuality an abomination.These are some scriptures on how God views homosexuality as a sin,Leviticus18:-22,Leviticus20:13,1Corinthians6:9-10.Even in the new testament Jesus,didn’t approve of homosexuality.Read Matthew19:4,John5:46-47,Galatians4:4,John16:12-15.God means what he saids and saids what he means.The word of God will never change.God’s word is final.Spare me the homophobia nonesense.No one fears homosexuals.Im just spreading the gospel,how God commands all born again christians to do.Im not sugar codeing it.I refuse to leave out scriptures,because it makes some people uncomfortable. Like I mention earlier in my post.Homosexuals are not doomed.God’s word will never change.God will never change his mind on homosexuality being a sin and abomination.But the homosexuals still have time to change.

  • L

    Was * though shall not be a homosexual* one of the ten commandments.

    It seems to me if it was so terrible it would be one of the tens.

    Do those scriptures really condemn homosexuality? or trifleness in general?

    But maybe you are right….I dont remember my bible all that well.

  • http:www.chicnoirhouse.blogspot.com Chic Noir

    Well the principal sounds like he really doesn’t give a darn.

    off topic: His mom looks like his sister. Talk about blk don’t crack.

  • http://www.themommypsychologist.com The Mommy Psychologist

    There used to be a time when you could get away from bullying. But it’s not that way anymore. For kids that are being bullied, it now follows them home and everywhere because so much of the bullying happens online. Lots of kids turn to drastic measures to either protect themselves or hurt themselves. It is so tragic. I talk about online bullying and suicide here:

    http://www.themommypsychologist.com/2012/05/02/online-bullying-and-teenage-suicide/

  • apple

    Maybe god shouldn’t have made him gay oh but right god makes no mistakes right?yea besides of all of humanity

  • http://livefromthematrix.wordpress.com TAE

    Mmmmmmmm, highschool’s can be treacherous and depending on where you at being as open as this young man is can land you in the hospital. Good for him, I would’ve been stunnin fools left and right! I wonder when or if society as a whole will realize the only way that we can all be free is to coexist peacefully with one another and live and let live.

  • jw

    @L. As like my first post,on this topic,I mentioned that God not only called homosexuality a sin but he also called homosexuality an Abomination.Just in case anyone isn’t aware of the meaning to this word.I will write the defintion here.Abomination-To detest thoroughly;abhor.Abhor-To regard with loathing;detest.Detest-To dislike intensely;abhor.Loathing-Great dislike.This idea that because you don’t see it spelled out for you in the ten commandments,then he doesn’t see it as a big deal.The devil is a lie.Please don’t let satan deceive you.Have you notice how God,sets homosexuality apart,by calling it an Abomination.As you see from the definitions,God detest,loathe &dislike intensely the homosexual behavior.God,refering to homosexuals as Abomination,do NOT sound like it’s no big deal.In matter of fact it’s a enormous deal.What’s so hard about repenting.It’s worth not spending eternity in the lake of fire.Iam sure plenty of you on here,will think or write,”How dare she bring up the lake of fire”.

  • Jeff

    Lay off the opium.

  • http://www.mysafetydefense.com Raymond Torres

    they should leave that student alone i dont blame him for trying to defend himself

  • MsQuita

    While I agree with what you are saying…. it DOES NOT excuse the fact that NO ONE should be treated in such a horrible way just because of their sexual orientation. It is not our place as Christians to boost up hateful attitudes and actions. We should be spreading love and leave the judging up to God.

  • RJ

    @jw…the fact that you posted this at 3:44 am means that you need to get a life. “God”/Bible calls lots of things abominations, lol. Wearing mixed fabrics. Eating shrimp…blah blah blah. I don’t care.

  • Candy 1

    Just because he is gay and dresses in a way that people don’t like does not give them the right to threaten him and treat him badly. Whatever a person’s views on sexuality are, people need to learn respect for other humans lives. I don’t think he should be expelled because him and his mom tried to get the school to do something, so what other choice did he have than to protect himself. I don’t know if I would’ve used a stun gun because those things can be very dangerous, but I understand wanting to feel safe/protected. The school authorities didn’t want to take action against the other kids when he was being threatened, but as soon as he bought a weapon, they wanted to expel someone (him). Not fair.

  • apple

    So is premarital sex but I bet your unmarried d*ck riding with a good heart

  • http:www.chicnoirhouse.blogspot.com Chic Noir

    Apple So is premarital sex but I bet your unmarried d*ck riding with a good heart

    *DEAD*

  • Natsuko

    With a name like ‘Dynasty Young’, jobs are going to be hard to come by for this kid.

    As it pertains to the article, the kid bringing a weapon to school is against school policy, but what have things come to that kids have to threaten physical violence to stop others from bullying them?

  • t..

    did you not read that his name is Darnell? they had dynasty in quotes, so its probably the name he goes by but not his birth name

  • jw

    @RJ. I made a mistake when I wrote homosexuality is the only thing that God calls an abomination.But when it concerns what you wrote,about shrimp&fabrics.I don’t recall Jesus speaking through the apostles,in the new testament that shrimp&fabrics are abomination.But homosexuality is called a Abomination,in both the old testament& new testament.I’am still puzzled,as to the time that I post a comment is relevant to what the word of God saids.I would think that you would be more concern about getting right with God.Which means to repent,accept Jesus Christ as your Lord & savior & obey the word of God.But like you said,”you don’t care”.

  • L

    The bible has been written and re written ad infinitium….to reflect the writers and the people in power ideology.

    But you have the right to your opinion.

  • jw

    @Apple. Your right about premarital sex being a sin.But I’am sorry to disapoint you.I’am not having premarital sex.Im aware that God means what he saids,and saids what he means.I’am not stupid enough to do what God clearly views as a sin.Not obeying what God commands,will surely lead me and everyone else a spot in the lake of fire.We were all born sinners.But the difference between born again christians & the world,is that we were smart enough to take what God offers everyone.Which is to become a new creature in Christ.By asking God’s forgiveness & repenting.One of the crazy things about this.Is it’s not to late to avoid eternity in the lake of fire.Yet people still refuse to become a born again christian.I thank God my salvation isn’t based on rather I can get people to agree & obey the word of God.But I won’t stop what God commands,which is to tell people about the word of God.No matter how many insults you & peoplpe throw at me,nothing anyone saids will change the word of God.

  • Bee

    @Apple: I heart you. :)

    @JW: Look, I’m just going to keep this 100%, no matter how harsh it sounds. First, not everyone believes in your little invisible sky fairy, okay. (Yes, a substantial portion of this nation does, for reasons beyond my comprehension, but some of them still have a sense of proportion and compassion.) Second, no one should have such beliefs forced upon them through law, bullying, etc. The young man, Dynasty, has a right to be himself–he is not harming anyone–and people like you have no right to say otherwise. Get a doggone grip, a clue, and a sense of compassion. I mean, damn. You have to be a truly miserable, unhappy human being to spew the mess you are spewing on this site. The older I get, the more convinced I am that the world is full of miserable people who want to make everyone else miserable. For your own sake and everyone else’s, JW, open your eyes and your heart (deal with your childhood trauma or whatever it is that causes you to cling so dearly to that book) and wake the hell up. Life is too hard already, without you making it even harder with your bible thumping sky fairy nonsense.

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