After being relentlessly bullied by his peers, Chelisa Grimes gave her 17-year-old gay son a stun gun to protect himself. Grimes says she and her son, Darnell “Dynasty” Young, were at their wits end after informing school officials of the bullying and giving her son the weapon was a last resort.

“I do not promote violence — not at all — but what is a parent to do when she has done everything that she felt she was supposed to do … at the school?” Grimes said on CNN. “I did feel like there was nothing else left for me to do, but protect my child.”

Young alleges he was tormented and threatened for months, but found that school officials were of no assistance. The school’s principal, Larry Yarrell, told a local Indiana paper that Young—a flamboyant dresser—should have expected to be harassed because of the way he dressed.

“If you wear female apparel, then kids are kids and they’re going to say whatever it is that they want to say. Because you want to be different and because you choose to wear female apparel, it may happen. In the idealistic society, it shouldn’t matter. People should be able to wear what they want to wear,” he explained to The Star.

After being bullied for months, things finally came to a head when Young found himself surrounded by 6 students threatening to beat him up. Young claims he lifted the stun gun above his head to scare the other young men, and returned to class, never intending to hurt anyone.

Young was arrested by school police for brandishing a weapon, but the 17-year-old thinks being expelled from school is unfair.

“I got kicked out of school for me bringing the weapon to school, but I honestly don’t think that that was fair,” Young said. “I didn’t use it on nobody. … All I did was raise it up in the air and went back to my class.”

Young says he considered suicide because the bullying got so bad and that he never would have brought the stun gun to school if administrators and teachers had done a better job keeping him safe.

“I was at my wit’s end. I didn’t know what to do and I thought about suicide,” Young said. “I hate saying that word because God blessed me with this life. I love life. I love my education. I would never … but this bullying got so bad that I thought about that.”

Bullying has become a hot-button issue as more and more students have come forward to shine a light on this troubling practice. With kids turning to suicide to cope with being tormented in schools, many parents are turning to drastic measures to keep their kids safe.

What do you think? Should Dynasty Young be expelled from school or should administrators to more to keep kids safe in school? 

48 Comments

  1. Mitchell

    I applaud Ms. Grimes for wanting to protect her son. Why doesn’t the school have the bullies arrested? Darnell stay strong. Your education is the best weapon against any ignorance

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  2. BFDuster

    “…should administrators to more to keep kids safe in school?”

    Administrators know damn well what the problem is–they continue to take the sides of bullies and punish the victims. It’s really hard to defend one’s self when you’re afraid of being punished for defending yourself.

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  3. What in the hell….?

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  4. CurlySue

    Perhaps moving her son to a different school would have been a less hazardous response than sending him to a school with a potentially deadly weapon.

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    • So he can get bullied there too?! That’s like rewarding the behavior of the bullies. I hope Dynasty (that name is too dope!) gets to return to school, I’m sure he won’t be having anymore problems after this incident.

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    • binks

      Well he is 17, so more than likely he is a senior and probably didn’t or couldn’t transfer to another school in fear of repeating that year or other schools not accepting his credits.

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    • CurlySue

      I’m not saying it’s a perfect solution. I just don’t see any trajectory where giving your black teen gay son a potentiall deadly weapon to school ends well for him. What if the on-campus cops had shot him for brandishing a weapon? What if one of the bullies had a legit gun and shot him? What if he tazed a kid with a heart condition and he died? I’m just saying, that scenario is fraught with deadly “what ifs”.

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    • I’m inclined to agree and while I’m all for individuality and expressing oneself, I agree with the principal. Why would this young man think he could come to school dressed in woman’s clothing and not think anyone would say anything? I don’t know where his school district is located at or the primary demographic that attends the school but that’s neither here nor there because he could step into any school in the United States and receive the same kind of ridicule. More schools should just enforce a strict uniform and call it a day.

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    • Purple Rain

      Yes, or perhaps even martial arts classes.

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    • CurlySue

      The mother was clearly at her wits’ end and I sympathize with those feelings of helplessness. But it was very foolish of her to give her son a potentiall deadly weapon to take to school. What if the on-campus cops had shot him for brandishing the weapon? What if one of the bullies was armed with an actual gun? What if the boy tazed a kid with a heart condition and killed him? This could have ended tragically and it was just good luck that it didn’t.

      *btw, why don’t my comments post? I’ve tried posting 4 times now.

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    • @sasha….seriously tho? This is the same dangerous mentality that makes kids want to kill themselves. It’s victim blaming plain and simple. The message is, “as long as you look and behave according to cultural norms and standards you can avoid bullying.” Are we telling our children to limit self expression and to keep a low profile, in order to appease school administrators and bullies?! That’s crazy…and dangerous. There are kids in the United States being bullied because they are perceived gay, because they are people of color, because their families are immigrants…..etc. etc. How will we be able to reconcile the “you should have expected it” logic in these situations? How can we continually practice this victim blaming? Reminds me of “well if she hadn’t been wearing that short skirt…..”

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    • @Trey: Yes I’m serious, as serious as a heart attack. This is not victim blaming. Like I previously stated I’m all for expressing oneself however I think a young man wearing women’s clothing is absolutely ridiculous and he did it knowing what kind of response he would get. Clearly he wanted some sort of attention and he got it. I’m not okay with bullying however this is an example why schools should push for uniforms. The mother did not try every option possible, did she try to move him to another school.  She thought her last course of action was to arm her child with a weapon. She should be glad that the situation only ended in expulsion because had it went left and someone got hurt her son would be in jail and she’d be looking at a lawsuit.

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    • @Sasha…

      You sound like you are a bit of a judgmental bully yourself. According to people who think like you, because this young man has a penis, he should limit his clothing choices to the clothing that makes people like you comfortable. People, it’s clothing. Btw, what’s “female clothing”? Are blouses female clothing? Because men for hundreds of years wore frilly blouses. Are tights female clothing? Because men for hundreds of years wore tights. Men used to wear wigs and earrings and shoes with pronounced heels. Were they being over-the-top?

      I am a woman, and every day I wear “male clothing” because I wear pants. Am I being a ridiculous? Am I looking for attention?There was a time when women wearing pants (not that long ago) would have inspired the same outraged reaction that this young man has experienced. My point: It’s just fabric, folks. It isn’t that deep.

      The one person I love to bring up during these debates is Prince. Prince is a cross dresser for all intents and purposes. He wears heels, he wears make up, he wears tights and frilly blouses, and his hair is coiffed like a woman’s and we are okay with it. Why is that? Is it because he claims he’s straight or because we are selective in allowing people to express themselves?

      As for the stun gun, I don’t think it was wise, but I don’t begrudge his mother for trying to protect her son.

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    • I agree with CurlySue I understand the mom’s pain but this was stunningly irresponsible there dozens of different scenarios how this could have ended badly by giving a weapon to teenager of all people. Isn’t this what these LGBT organizations are supposed to step in and raise sand in the schools?

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    • JessicaMercedes

      I have to agree with CurlySue that situation could have gone left real quick. In fact, it did go left, he got in serious trouble for brandishing a weapon. If he had been 18 he would have been going to jail. If it were my son, I would have sent him to school with a baseball bat. That way if he got in trouble he could say that he happened to have it because he was planning on playing after school but ended up having to use it to defend himself.

      Also, in response to Sasha. I doubt that uniforms would have helped this child. Even in uniform, I’m sure he wouldn’t be able to hide his personality, and he would still be a target. I do believe that schools should enforce uniforms, because it sets the tone for a professional, serious environment and prepares them for the real world by showing them what is appropriate work wear. But it doesn’t prevent bullying, and that is a fact.
      Your comment reminded me of the time my guidance counselor told me that maybe if I didn’t wear my hair in afro puffs and beads my teacher wouldn’t pick on me. Even as an 11 year old child, I knew then that I was talking to an idiot.

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  5. His name is Dynasty Young. That’s dope.

    And no I don’t think he should be expelled. He came to school to learn and other students felt the need to make it a hostile environment for him so he decided to protect himself. I don’t see anything wrong.

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