Do You Listen to Your Mama When it Comes to Love?
I know it’s bad but the one thing I can’t help but think about throughout Usher and Tameka’s ugly custody battle is, “he should’ve listened to his mama.”
Things have been bad between these two for a while and some of the allegations they’ve pegged against one another to prove their the more suitable parent are laughable, but after seeing Usher break down on the stand after hours of questioning during the trial yesterday, the emotional toll the whole situation is taking on him is a bit heartbreaking.
It’s doubtful Usher is totally innocent in this saga but in contrast to questions about Tameka’s parenting ability which have mostly been brought up through testimony from nannies, Usher has had to contend with terrible allegations straight from his ex-wife’s mouth. Last week she claimed he slept with two of her bridesmaids, which forced him to storm out of the courtroom. This week, her lawyer is claiming Usher would rather hang out and party than be a father and is also alleging he could have a drug problem. The questions were too much for him and he became noticeably upset after forcing back a few tears on the stand, but I feel those tears are less about what the lawyer was accusing him of and more about how he got into that situation in the first place.
If you think back to 2007 when Usher proposed to Tameka, nobody was a fan of her and when I say nobody, I mean nobody. Usher strongly defended his future wife to the public on TRL but in his personal life he also chose Tameka over his own mother who warned him not to marry his stylist. Usher being a mama’s boy, you could take her objection as fear that some other woman was taking her son away but when we look at the way his name and reputation has been drug through the mud since meeting this woman, all I can think is “mama knows.”
There’s a reason it’s good to bring future spouses around your parents before you get too serious. It’s not just for a customary stamp of approval, sometimes and often times the people who love us most can pick up on when someone is no good for us. Usher may not have been any good for Tameka either and although I’m sure he’s happy to have his sons, the singer has always been clear about not wanting to be the type of father he had, and this nasty battle shows he’s getting closer and closer to being that man. Usher’s had a new girlfriend for a while now since his divorce and I hope he pays attention to what his mother thinks about this new woman before taking anything to the next level. There’s been a lot of talk about gaydar in the news lately but sometimes we need our mothers to shed a little light with their no-good-dar to make sure we don’t walk down the aisle with the wrong person and end up in messy battles like this only a few years later.
Do you listen to you mother’s opinions when it comes to dating?
My mother and I have a very close bond. I tell her about the guys I date and she gives me advice but I always form my own decision. One thing about my mama, when it comes to the men I’ve dated she’s never been wrong at all.
Wish I had listened to my mom. Would have saved a fortune. Divorce is sooooo expensive!!
Usher crying?! Damn that woman!!! I side with USHER! I really do. And ya’ll can save me the why do people always side with men speech, I’ve been loving this man for a long long time.
Heeyy Baby Sis!!
So good to see you around these parts causing your usual havoc. LOL!
My love and blessings!
oh miiiii gosh!!!!!
Hey sis!!!! *muah muah muah*
I’m good mama. Wishing you nothing but blessings and favor from the Most High this week!
After I found out that the guy I lost my v-card to was a total scumbag, my mother wanted me to have nothing to do with him. But I still let him keep in touch every now and then through phone calls and what not. A couple years later, we got back in touch and started a physical relationship again. He wanted more, but I just wanted the physical part of things. He thought I was cold-blooded, but that’s what happens when emotions get completely shut down and all that’s left is lust. Anyway, my mother doesn’t know that we “rekindled”, but as of late, there’s really no need to tell her. I stopped dealing with him over a month ago. He kept pushing for a relationship, and I kept saying no — one, because I no longer felt the same; and two, I knew my mother despised him nad would never approve. So… no more him. lol
how is the anecdote in any way relevant to this article?
There are a lot, not all, but a lot of baby mammas out there who have absolutely no interest in their son getting married and treating his wife better than her sons father ever treated her.
I… was honestly thinking the same thing. When the son is the only man in a woman’s life… you have to make sure that she is not allowed in YOUR relationship with him.
I dont think these mothers consciously say, ”I dont want my son to treat his wife better than me.” I think many single mothers place their sons in the ‘man of the house role.’ Especially financially. And once a wife comes in the picture the finances will be dried up. Many single mothers not only think their sons owe them for raising them without a dad, but their daughters, as well. Actually, you may have a point because some mothers do get jealous