Grown Folks Music: The Jams that Now Make Sense

by Niema Jordan

Back in ’94 I hadn’t been on the earth a decade, but was singing Brownstone’s “If You Love Me,” like a grown ass woman. Just like with every song sang by a group of women, my sister, my cousin, and I would choose a part to sing. “I don’t want to rain on this parade/ but I’m starting to question the love that was made/ I’m not looking for just an affair/ I want a love that is based on truth, not just dare.” What? I’m sure the adults were laughing at us. Thinking about it now, we always kinda mumbled the words and focused on sounding like we could do the harmonies on that track.

The jam came on the radio yesterday and I was blown. I’ve heard the song post childhood, but listening to the song as a twenty-something is completely different. Was this song not the soundtrack to a number for college relationships? Wouldn’t this song have been great to play in the background during a slew of “Think Like A Man” induced happy hour conversations? My goodness. I turned the volume up and jammed, laughing about how I should hit the homies with a Youtube link. We had no clue what we were talking about back then, but this song makes a hell of a lot of sense now.

Are there any songs that you loved when you were younger, but really understand or connect to now that you’re grown?

  • Roberta

    “Hold On,” by En Vogue comes to mind. When it first came out I was like 11 or 12, what on earth did I know about keeping a man but the verses were so catchy and that beat!

  • prodigia

    Groove Theory “Tell Me”

  • L

    Outkast: Liberation and Erykah Badu : Didn’t cha know

  • Sunni

    “Don’t Walk Away” by Jade

  • MarloweOverShakespeare

    “The Sign,” Ace of Base

    “Make It Happen,” Mariah Carey

    “Hand In My Pocket,” and “You Learn,” Alanis Morrissette

    “I Keep,” Jill Scott

    Just a few (I’d really have to go into the VAULT for the rest)

  • AI

    Great article! But it kinda makes me sad bc it highlights how many of todays’ hits lack that kind of meaningfulness, the kind you can’t understand until you’re much older. One song that DEFINITELY didn’t get as a kid was “If You think You’re Lonely Now” by Bobby Womack. I thought it was a love song lmao. -___-

  • Me27

    Best I Ever Had (Grey Sky Morning) by Vertical Horizon

  • RenJennM

    Same here!! For me, that song came out when I was three years old and all I could remember was the beat. But that beat stuck with me all those years. Fast forward to like, maybe, five years ago. I was on YouTube one day, re-discovering all these songs I grew up with (from Jesse Powell’s “You” to After 7′s “Ready Or Not” and more!). I was finding each video by clicking through the suggested videos column of the previous video I watched. After watching a video, I saw “Jade – ‘Don’t Walk Away’” as one of the suggested videos. Something just told me, “click on it”. So I clicked on it, and when that beat started thumping through my computer speakers, I literally screamed!

    Imagine searching for something for so many years and finally finding it. That was that moment. lol

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