In a few short years, reality TV and its most infamous stars have taken over pop culture. And while positive, inspiring shows like The Biggest Loser and The Amazing Race beam into millions of homes each week, the shows that seem to get people talking the most are those rife with drama. From Bravo’s Real Housewives franchise to VHI’s Basketball Wives, fans seem to both love and loath the petty beefs of some of the most outspoken ladies on TV. But with so many watching, discussing, and dissecting their every move have these ladies become our new role models?

When I first saw Vibe magazine’s latest cover crowning Kandi Burrus, Evelyn Lozada, Chrissy Lampkin, and Tamar Braxton our new “roles models” I quietly whispered, “WTF?”

Were they serious or were they simply using this group of obvious non-role models to sell magazines?

Bonsu Thompson of Vibe wonders:

“Reality television’s vengeful, ’bow-throwing drama queens get paid to ante up, catfight and go dumb for a living. They’re also funny, thoughtful mothers, sisters and self-made businesswomen who’ve spun our thirsts for theater into bankable fame. Can they live?”

While Thompson goes on to highlight the ladies’ problematic behavior—bottle throwing, cursing, fighting, and rampant bad behavior—he gives them the benefit of the doubt and delves under the surface to find out what makes them tick. What we read is a host of contradictions that keep these women in the public eye.

When asked what they thought about Star Jones’ criticism of the how the women act on air, they had a few harsh words for their fellow TV star: Mind your business.

VIBE: Star Jones started a petition, lashing out against women and violence on reality TV. What’s your reaction?

Evelyn: [Bursts into laughter] I think she’s going to have to get a whole lot of names. Actually, I like the petition and I like the controversy because I’ve learned controversy is good. But I think she’s irrelevant. And she’s using our coattails to get relevant again. Nobody gives a fuck about her.

Chrissy: Whatever Star Jones is feeling is a little deeper than what she sees. I think she has her own issues.

Kandi: She may not be violent, but I’m sure she goes off on people in her day-to-day. I just don’t think it’s fair to block somebody from getting money.


  • For sure

    Kandi is the only one that should be on this cover. Vibe get your ish together.

  • Britni Danielle


    I was out in public. ;)

    ~britni d.

  • Sasha

    They don’t disgrace Black women, they disgrace themselves, their children and the people who I’m sure raised them to do better….or I guess not since they act like barnyard animals. I’m speaking exclusively to Chrissy and Evelyn, I don’t particularly mind Kandi and I’ve never watched the Braxton show. Ladies you can’t take that weave, pseudo-fame and Loubotins so enjoy them now because there’s a special spot in hell for you where you won’t have supercificial things to comfort you during your eternity in the Underworld!

  • Tiffany

    So since Vibe clearly uses the Urban dictionary to define role model(or this is a cruel irony)….let’s see what Dictionary dot com has to say, shall we?

    role model: n. A person regarded by others, especially young people, as a good example to follow.

    Now….which one of these ladies are good examples to follow? And Kandi post-Xscape isn’t it…unless you envision your neice selling beatboxing dildos.

  • Natalie B.

    Ish like this is why I refused to purchase a Vibe magazine.

    Role models, really? As if women of color, and black women especially, didn’t have to deal with sterotypes and intra-community strife, now we have to deal with the assumption that we should want to live and act like these women.


    These women might be getting paid, but it’s the rest of us that are paying the price.

    Please somebody make it stop.

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