It’s right there, ten feet away, on your coffee table. His cell phone. Just blinking and plinking with message notifications. He’s asleep on the couch or in the bathroom, leaving you all the time and opportunity you’d need to do a quick check. Your mind drifts to his co-worker with the low-cut blouses, who “likes” all his statuses and is constantly tweeting “DM” on his timeline. You think of how he occasionally steps out of the room and closes a door to take phone calls. You haven’t asked for any of his social media account passwords. You don’t need them, right? You trust him, right?
The phone rings again. He did cancel on you last Friday. The LCD screen lights up; it wouldn’t take much to just drift over before it darkens and see who’s blowin’ up his cell.
Ten or fifteen years ago, confirming or debunking suspicions about a boyfriend’s possibly roving eye was a lot harder. You had to hope he’d get sloppy. You’d wait to find the slip of paper, where some girl at the club jotted her number, in his pocket. You’d look for the proverbial lipstick on the collar or sniff his clothes for cheap perfume. But now, checking up on a man is a whole lot easier. His social media feeds, status updates, Foursquare account, Instagram pics, phone call log, text messages, tagged photos, and apps are an open book.
It’s awfully tempting to look for clues. Even if you aren’t actively searching–and by actively searching, I mean checkin’ internet history, cached pages, and cookies, if there’s any dirt to find, it won’t be long before you locate it.
If there were any doubt that technology is playing a much bigger role in busting people for infidelity and/or breaking up couples who would’ve been happy, were it not for 24-hour access to their partners’ innermost random musings, a new UK-based study has revealed that Facebook is the third most responsible cause of divorce today. Statuses, messages, and wall postings are being used as admissible evidence in the legal proceedings, in the same way text messages and call logs are.
Have you ever checked a partner’s phone? Do you have his/her social media or email passwords? Does he have yours? Have you ever busted anyone for cheating using technology (or have you been busted yourself)?